AITAH for correcting my step father’s guest about the number of children my step father has ?

A 16-year-old Redditor shares their experience of correcting a guest at dinner who mistakenly claimed that their stepfather had four children. The Redditor pointed out that they are not their stepfather’s child, stating that their stepfather has three children, including their sister.

This led to an argument with their mother, who slapped them and grounded them for being ungrateful. The Redditor feels conflicted about their stepfather trying to replace their real father, especially after discovering their mother’s infidelity. Read the original story below…

‘ AITAH for correcting my step father’s guest about the number of children my step father has ?’

I(16 m) have a stepfather who is the father of my other siblings (22 f, 5m, and 3 f), you might be asking yourself how this s**t show happened so I will just speed run you through my mom’s history of relationships as calmly as I could (my big sister is the source so I don’t know if it is completely accurate).

So My stepdad and mother were dating in high school, and he knocked mom up when she was 15/16, and bang! My sister was born. They got married at 18 and divorced at 20, and my mom decided that it would be a great idea to date again and meet my dad. They became a thing, and then I was born.

Dad and Mom got engaged, and everything was okay until one day, my dad decided that my mom wasn’t going to live with us anymore, and he threw her out of his house; it turns out that she cheated on my father with my stepdad which is something I discovered when I was like 13 or something.

A lot of s**t happened after that and my mom took me from my dad and dad just gave up on me, he used to come and talk to me but it didn’t last for three months, he just completely left me and never tried to contact me, I tried to contact him but he doesn’t want me anymore.

So a couple of years later, here I am, I still don’t like my stepfather; my mom keeps telling Me that if I give him a chance, things will be better, but I don’t want to give him chances. How could she say that after her infidelity cost me my father and she just lives happily?

I hate how he tries to substitute my real father and I hate it when people comment about how we look “so much alike”. Goddammit, mom couldn’t even find someone who doesn’t even look like her ex-husband to get her pregnant again? Life is just weird for me man.

Yesterday Mom called for us to come downstairs to eat dinner and we did but there was someone else I didn’t recognize so I tried to take my dinner to my room but my mother forced us all to eat there and man does that guest like to talk,

apparently he is my step father’s relatives or something like that and he just kept on blabbering about things. Everything was fine until he said how blessed my stepfather is for having 4 wonderful kids, and I corrected him and said 3. Guest said, “What about your sister?” And I told him that, including my sister, my stepfather had 3 children since I am not his. It was so weird after.

Mom changed the subject but it was awkward. After the guy left my mom screamed at me for saying that and how I couldn’t let it be for this once how much of an ungrateful b**t I am and that my stepfather is trying his hardest I told her that I don’t care about him and I just want a place to stay at until I can leave this shi+ty house.

So she slapped me and told me to go to my room and now I am grounded. All of that because I said that I wasn’t his child.

See what others had to share with OP:

TarzanKitty −  Is it possible that mom’s current husband is actually your biological father? If your dad found that out. It could explain why he cut you off.

Sebscreen −  NTA. You really buried the lede here. Your cheating, selfish and verbally a**sive mum just escalated to hitting you. You don’t owe such a piece of trash anything. Do you have a relative or authority figure you trust? Tell them about the abuse.

cinnamonscarlett −  NTA. You’re just speaking the truth as you see it. It’s not wrong to clarify that you’re not your stepdad’s child, especially if the guest was mistaken. It’s your mom’s responsibility to understand your feelings, and it sounds like she’s not being fair to you.

Street_Swordfish_541 −  Wow this is a lot. NTA for saying the truth as it is

Knight0fTheForest −  NTA, you’re not his kid and you don’t have to pretend to be. I do want to add, don’t blame your mother for your dad not being in your life. That was his choice to abandon you. He tried for 3 months and decided it wasn’t for him and left. That’s 100% his fault not mom’s.

There are plenty of fathers that see their children after divorce and there are also an overwhelming amount of super s**tty fathers that leave. My parents divorced when I was 8. My father was verbally a**sive and my mother cheated on him and left.

He remarried when I was 11, my stepmom and him adopted 3 kids, and my father barely spoke to his biological children after that. No more visits, no more phone calls, just the occasional holiday (where they made it clear my sister and I weren’t wanted).

When my grandpa died my dad and his new family didn’t let me sit with them, most people there didn’t even know my dad had bio children or who I was. Up until that point I resented my mother, I blamed her like you blame yours, but then I realized that my dad was a POS and the best thing my mom did was divorce him (for both her and us).

My mom never remarried, she doesn’t want to be trapped again, she’s been with a guy for 18 years though. I hated him for a long time but a few years ago I let my guard down and talked to him about my service dog passing away (I was so depressed).

Now I can honestly say I really like him, he’s much kinder and way more empathetic than my dad could ever be. I wish I gave him a chance sooner. I guess it’s just part of getting older and having a better understanding of things (I’m 35 now)

5footfilly −  The only person that cost you your father is your father. A good father doesn’t “give up on” or abandon his child no matter what the mother has done.. Your “real” father is s**t.

Effective-Act-5671 −  NTA. Facts don’t stop being facts just because they’re inconvenient at the dinner table. Sounds like your mom’s anger isn’t about what you said but the truth hitting too close to home. Hang in there—you’re doing fine calling it like it is.

ScarFeyra −  You’re not wrong for stating facts. Family dynamics are tricky, hang in there!

PureHereoine_789 −  NTAH (Not The A$$hole Here) for correcting someone about family dynamics. Genes don’t define family, love and acceptance do. Keep standing up for what you believe in, but maybe avoid family dinners for a while.

GoingGreyer −  I think before everyone paints the bio father as a real degenerate it might be an idea to find out exactly WHY he chose not to keep up contact. Assuming you had a good relationship beforehand there may be much more to the story than you know.

He may have been threatened by your Mum and/or your Stepdad. He may genuinely have thought you’d be better off with them and he removed himself to make the transition easier for you. He may even have been told you didnt want to see him? There are other scenarios that might fit.

He may be someone who just gave up on you, in which case he deserves the criticism but make sure you know ALL the facts. Its all too easy to make assumptions/believe other people but you both deserve to know the facts.

Do you think the Redditor was in the wrong for correcting the guest, or was their reaction justified given the family situation? How would you handle a similar situation? Share your thoughts below!