AITAH for cancelling my credit card after my wife took it from me and spent $2000 on a pair of shoes without asking?

One person from Reddit faced a dilemma after discovering that his wife had used his credit card without permission to purchase a $2,000 pair of shoes. With tensions high and credit card debt already looming, he canceled the card, sparking anger from his wife. Read the full story below to see how things unfolded…

‘ AITAH for cancelling my credit card after my wife took it from me and spent $2000 on a pair of shoes without asking?’

My (36m) wife (27f) and I got in a fight. As she has done many times when we fight, she took my wallet and my phone and refused to give them back to me. After demanding for a while for her to give them back without any success, I left the house to go for a walk and cool down.

When I come back home she is no longer there and I receive an email from my bank for potential fraudulent charges on my credit card. I check my account and there is a pending charge for $2000 from a high end luxury store. Turns out it was for a pair of shoes.

I call my bank, tell them my card was stolen and ask to cancel the charge and cancel the card. Now my wife is angry at me because we don’t have a credit card to use and thought that I overreacted by doing that. She is blaming me for not having a credit card, failing to recognize that it was her actions that led to it.

We already have about $10k in credit card debt and I wasn’t about to have another $2k on top of that. I especially wasn’t going to just let it happen without any consequences because I definitely don’t want it to happen again in the future. So, AITAH?

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

N2VDV8 −  Nope. NTA. Revenge spending is a horseshit maneuver by an immature person who can’t or won’t accept either reality or consequences. Hate to say it, bud, but this relationship sounds unhealthy for you.

greenteasmoothie138 −  NTA. I stopped reading once you said a 27 year old grown ass woman takes your wallet and phone when you argue. I would leave because you are married to a child.

[Reddit User] −  NTA. You’re in an a**sive marriage. Get a divorce lawyer and get rid of her.

[Reddit User] −  What the actual f**k. It is NOOOOT normal for someone to steal their partner’s wallet after a fight. Your wife is batshit crazy and I suspect she’s more a**sive than you’re letting on. F**king leave, dude. That’s how you stop it from happening in the future.

Spare-Article-396 −  You’ve got a bigger problem than $2k shoes.. NTA

JTD177 −  Get out of this relationship before she bankrupts you for real. She is t**ic AF

YouKnowImRight85 −  So what more is it going to take for you to realize that you are in a domestic violence situation and you are the victim?

LostAbbott −  Not sure what the fight was over, but putting your family in further financial stress is definitely an a**hole move on her part. NTA.

andydad1978 −  NTA, but this relationship is doomed. She takes your wallet and credit cards when you fight and spends 2k on shoes? You cancelled the card because she keeps doing this crap? Be careful, the next time you two have a fight, she’s going to find a new way to “punish” you. It will probably be worse than before.

museum_one −  NTA but I’m confused as to why you allow your so called wife to treat you like a child!! You guys argue and this takes your things away from you and refuse to give them back! You make it seem like it’s happened before!! If a man did that the entire world would say he’s controlling and a**sive!! What do you call her behavior? Way too many red flags!!

Do you think canceling the credit card was an overreaction, or was it a necessary step to prevent future problems? How would you handle financial boundaries in a relationship where trust has been strained? Share your thoughts below!