AITAH for calling the cops on my girlfriend?

A man (21) recounts how a small argument with his girlfriend (24), who recently moved in, escalated into a significant confrontation. After she turned off his TV during a game and stormed off, communication broke down. Following heated exchanges, she declared she wouldn’t sign the lease,

prompting him to ask her to leave. When she refused and mentioned calling her ex for a ride, he gave her an ultimatum: leave within 10 minutes or he’d involve the police. After she dismissed his threat, he followed through, and the police escorted her out.

Later, she texted, admitting her comments were meant to provoke him and expressing regret. read the original story below…

‘ AITAH for calling the cops on my girlfriend?’

My girlfriend(24) moved into my(21) apartment last week. Everything was great, we met with the landlord today to talk about adding her to my lease. We had what started as a small argument tonight. She turned off my tv while I was playing a game, not a huge deal but still frustrating.

I looked at her and said “really babe?” and she stormed off to my bedroom yelling about how it was an accident and she was tired. Everything was fine before this. I gave her time to cool down before I went in to try and talk to her.

When I did, she continued having an attitude and yelling at me, despite me being calm with her. Eventually, I got frustrated and walked away, telling her “Let me know when you want to have an actual conversation instead of acting like an a**hole.” She yelled after me “Tell (landlord) I’m not signing that lease.”

So I did. I texted him and let him know she would let be living here after all, and told her to pack her things and leave. She told me she doesn’t have a ride back to her dad’s house, and I said it wasn’t my problem.

She then told me she’d call her ex to come get her, to which I replied with “You have 10 minutes to be packed and out or I’m calling the cops and having you removed.” She laughed and said “yeah, okay” so I called them and went outside until they arrived.

They went in and made sure she got everything, then they gave her a ride back to her dad’s. She texted me afterwards that she only said those things to hurt me/p**s me off, and that she didn’t really want to leave. I told her “play stupid games, win stupid prizes.” Am I overreacting for calling the cops?

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

novavitx −  “She texted me afterwards that she only said those things to hurt me/p**s me off, and that she didn’t really want to leave.” My boy this was all the reason you need to break up with this girl. I draw a hard line at cheating and saying/doing things with the intent to hurt.

This is not the behavior of someone who knows how to have a healthy relationship. And her dangling her ex means on some level she will always consider being unfaithful as a way to keep you in line. All a lose lose. The only way to “win” here is to walk away from her.

aDistractedDisaster −  The whole time I read this post, I knew she was going to say that “she only said those things to hurt me/p**s me off”. Everything she did was so immature and veiled.. NTA. As you said “play stupid games, win stupid prizes”

OkPsychology2376 −  NTA. Well played. If your living arrangements start out that rocky, its best to cut your losses and do what you did. Since she opened her mouth and said go for it, she shouldn’t be surprised that you did. And threatening to call her ex is just childish.

Its obvious she thinks she ought to get to do what she wants, and act like a snot when you call her out on it. Thats not a good beginning. I might add that turning off the tv while you were playing a game was no accident.

She all but admitted it when she said SHE was tired. Its obvious she expected you to go to bed then too. Find a gf that sits down and plays the game with you, not one that just plays games.

EffectNo4122 −  There is too much missing from this story. So you’re telling us you’re playing a game and she just walked up and turned off the TV then has a hissy fit and storms off to the room saying it was an accident? You say she was yelling at you what was she yelling at you about?

Because you said you were trying to talk to her. Then she suddenly says she’s not signing the lease yeah a whole lot so please tell us what it was. No way this all happened over that if you had considered her moving in. I can’t believe all the people that are applauding the OP for what he did this story is like so vague .

RynoM1380 −  I wonder what really happened… instead of just hearing one biased side. Anyways, “10 minutes or I’m calling the cops” after kicking her out in the middle of the night when she’s already tired and then actually calling the cops?

was an overreaction. (And honestly poor use of civil services.) This was not a decent way of handling it.

KarayanLucine −  I dont get reddit sometimes. She started an argument for whatever reason. You talked with her and that made it worse. The second that she said she wouldnt sign the lease, she was tresspassing. You didnt yell, you didnt hit her and you called the polce to have her removed.

You handled this like a man who has learn a lot in his life. Gratz on escaping that one, she was something else. Always make sure you have time to yourself to decompress.. NTA

blair_bean −  10 minutes man… really?

afancybaby −  Yall are unhinged if you’re calling the cops over a petty argument. Like this is the reason police budgets have to increase every single year?

Any-Split3724 −  NTA, you dodged a bullet, she sounds unhinged.

Due-Lab1450 −  YTA for wasting emergency services on your petty fight. But at least you found you’re not compatible living together before signing a lease together.

Did he act reasonably to protect his boundaries, or was involving the police an overreaction? How would you have handled this situation? Share your perspective below!