AITAH for Asking My Sister to Move Out After She Lied About Being Financially Independent?

A Redditor finds himself frustrated with his younger sister after discovering she lied about being financially independent while staying with him.

Despite their agreement that she would contribute and find her own place, her spending habits and lack of effort to find work lead him to ask her to move out. Was his request fair, or did he overreact? Read the full story below.

‘ AITAH for Asking My Sister to Move Out After She Lied About Being Financially Independent?’

I (30M) have been living alone for several years, and I love my privacy. About six months ago, my younger sister (24F) asked if she could stay with me for a while. She was moving to the city for work and needed a place to stay temporarily until she could afford her own apartment.

Since we get along well, I agreed to let her stay. I told her she could stay rent-free for a few months as long as she contributed to household chores and helped out where needed. Everything was going fine for the first few months, but I started to notice some troubling patterns.

She wasn’t really looking for a job, despite saying she was actively seeking one. She’d spend all day watching TV or hanging out with friends, and then at night, she’d say she was “still figuring things out.”

I started paying attention to her finances and discovered that, despite claiming to be broke and living off savings, she had been buying expensive clothes and going out for drinks with friends almost every weekend.

I confronted her about it, and she told me she was “just having a rough time” and promised to start being more responsible with her money. A few weeks later, I found out she had bought a new phone without telling me, which was a bit too much considering she had been asking me for money to cover her bills.

At this point, I felt like I was being taken advantage of. She was not living up to her end of the agreement, and I was doing all the work in the house. I told her that I needed her to either start paying rent or move out, as I couldn’t keep supporting her like this. She got really upset and accused me of being selfish and not caring about her.

My family has been split on this. Some say I’m being too harsh and should give her more time, while others agree that I’m being responsible and she should start taking more responsibility. AITAH for asking my sister to move out after she lied about being financially independent?

See what others had to share with OP:

AnnaChasesStars −  NTA. It’s not your responsibility to financially support her indefinitely, especially when she’s not making any effort to become independent.

Embarrassed_Fix4074 −  NTA. You’re setting boundaries, which is important. If she lied, it makes sense you’d want her to move out.

Additional-Aioli-545 −  Well, whomever thinks you’re being too harsh can let her stay with them. No more discussions. She’s shown you who she is, believe her and take action.

I’d pack up everything of hers, let her know who’s on her side, give them a call and let them know that she’s on her way. **I’m not kidding.** The one who’s the loudest, most opinionated would get her “special delivery”. Once you see the Uber leave, go to Home Depot, and change your locks.

Put a silent ring/text tone on your phone as the default (give tones to those you want to hear from), and go on with your life. Get her out of your home and regain you peace and privacy. The entitlement of these folks is absolutely breathtaking!. NTA

Tasty-Hawk-2778 −  Definitely NTA. She’s clearly taking advantage of you. If those in your fam are saying you’re too harsh, have one of them take her in and have them taken advantage of by this little b**t. They’d change their tune pretty quickly.

tinygreenpea −  On yesterday’s post your were a 24M, today you’re 30M. Astonishing how time flies when you’re a bot I guess.

rayanmores −  NTA. You gave your sister a generous, rent-free opportunity to get on her feet, but she took advantage of your kindness by not actively seeking work or contributing as agreed.

Expecting accountability and setting boundaries is fair, especially since her actions show a lack of responsibility. Family pressure aside, you’re not obligated to enable her behavior indefinitely.

HavenAstor −  NTA. She lied about being financially independent and broke your trust. You’re right to enforce boundaries and ask her to leave, especially since she’s taking advantage of your kindness

oldandworking −  NTA, you were an enabler but you got smart to her plan.

tonyrains80 −  NTA. She’s immature and won’t grow up until reality hits her in the face. Send her home. Her buying the phone would be the deal breaker for me.

Salt-Finding9193 −  She’s either deep in debt or a family member is supporting her. She needs a reality check.

Do you think the Redditor’s decision to ask his sister to move out was justified, or did he overreact to her situation? How would you handle a similar scenario with a family member? Share your thoughts below!