AITA ruining my friend’s birthday party by taking back the cake I baked for her?

A Reddit user shared their frustration over a situation where their friend kept a dress that they cherished, paying for it after borrowing it without permission. When the user’s friend’s mother asked them to bake a cake for her friend’s birthday, the user agreed, but upon visiting the friend’s house, they became upset after the mother dismissed their concerns about the dress.

In a fit of anger, the user took the cake back, leaving the friend without a cake for her birthday. The friend became upset, accusing the user of being petty, and the user is now questioning if they were wrong to act this way.

‘ AITA ruining my friend’s birthday party by taking back the cake I baked for her?’

My friend is quirky. She was never diagnosed with anything but she is very clueless sometimes. I have had to spell things out for her a lot. Few months back, she borrowed a dress of mine. I really love that dress. There isn’t any sentimental value but I got it when we were on vacation few years ago.

She also loved the dress and one day just transferred the money to my account and told me that she was keeping the dress. I spoke to her but she just told me that doesn’t matter as she has paid me. Her birthday was a week ago and her mom asked me to bake a big cake for her. I usually sell cakes cheap (little more than ingredients cost).

On her birthday, I went over to her house with the cake 15 mins before the party was due to start and then decided to talk to her mother. Like I said, sometimes my friend is really clueless sometimes and I was hoping her mom would speak to her and get my dress back.

I was very shocked when she also said that as long as I was paid what does it matter. She told me to just move on as it was just a dress and that my friend really liked it. She told me as long the dress was paid for, what am I complaining about. I got really pissed off and pulled out the amount she paid me just paid me, put it on the table, picked up the cake and left.

She got mad and started yelling at me that I was ruining the party. I kept walking back to my house. She kept telling me to give back the cake and that I couldn’t take it back just because I want to be petty. I just asked what she was complaining about as I had paid back the money. My friend ended up having a cakeless 16th birthday because of this.. AITA here?

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

v2oria −  Nta obviously, but I’m dead laughing at this. They can have the “sO wHaT? iT’s PaiD fOr” mentality but if it comes back on them it’s petty? lol

latetothegame216 −  NTA… but you should have just stolen the dress back while at the party and Venmo’d her money back to her. Now you have no ‘friend’ and no dress.

Aja444 −  “It was not for sale. It cannot be replaced.”. End of discussion. She did not have a cakeless party. They just had to go to the store. NTA. You were openly disrespected and stuck up for yourself.

ApartLocksmith1 −  Petty? Yes. A**hole? Yes. Justified? Also yes. It wasn’t the kindest or most mature thing to do, but hey, you don’t let people walk over you so respect for that.

nannylive −  NTA I think you are a troll but this was way more satisfactory than most.

srslyeffedmind −  NTA for demonstrating a fatal flaw in the families approach to logic. They’re wrong btw

emmmaallen −  NTA- shes not a friend I’d like to have. Doesn’t matter if she sent you money, unless you specifically told her she could keep it the dress still belongs to you. Seems like she can’t do no wrong in her mother’s eyes. I would definitely of done the same thing. If your friendship means anything to her she will give you your dress back.

HowardProject −  NTA – your friend is entitled AF, but her mother is the real piece of work here – what the hell kind of parenting is this? Her kid borrows something, refuses to give it back, and thinks that it’s okay to just pay you and keep what she wants?

She stole from you, her mother backed her up, so you canceled the job and gave her a refund. They are not entitled to your services in addition to stealing your dress.

Mesapholis −  she also loved the dress and one day just transferred the money to my account and told me that she was keeping the dress.. F**k that birthday. NTA
edit: with the family clearly being to blame for this s**tty character development I would as well OOOPSed the cake against the next wall

(read as smash the cake into the next wall or furniture to make it inedible and a pain in the ass to clean up) – then again you made the cake and eating it yourself is also an option. Now that I have written it out loud, take option 2, don’t waste food on greedy people.. Sorry about the dress

LeoSolaris −  NTA There wasn’t an agreement to sell the dress. If it wasn’t for sale, it cannot simply be bought. People can’t just take something and give a random amount of money for it. Even if that amount is close to or exceeding the value of the object, it was your property and you didn’t want to part with it.