AITA – My sister and her husband complained about hearing my husband and I have s**?

One person from Reddit shared their frustration about living with their sister and her husband, who moved in temporarily but ended up staying for over a year. Despite being best friends with her sister, the user and her husband felt constrained in their home life due to the ongoing situation.

The couple tried to be respectful by adjusting their intimacy to late at night or early morning, but eventually reverted to their normal routine. The sister and her husband complained about the noise, deeming it disrespectful.

The user pointed out that their brother-in-law’s lack of ambition has contributed to their prolonged stay, suggesting that if he worked harder, they might have moved out by now. read the original story below…

‘ AITA – My sister and her husband complained about hearing my husband and I have s**?’

My sister and her family moved in with my husband (31M) and I (30F) to be closer until they found a place. It was originally supposed to be 3 months, 6 at the very most. It has now been a year. My sister and I are best friends, but my husband and I are ready to have our house back for our family.

My husband and I have high s** drives, and this entire time we’ve tried keeping it as quiet as we can be and respectful with them here. I have a difficult time staying quiet, so we even changed up the time to middle of the night when everyone is asleep or early morning.

Recently, we have gone back to how we used to do things and not holding back, and they complained about the noise. Saying it’s disrespectful and they asked if we could quiet down. We’re not obnoxious about it, we’re just enjoying each other, as we should be able to do in our home..

Side note:My brother in law took a month gap from work because he didn’t want to work. He’s lazy and has a bad work ethic, which is the main reason they are still here. He’s been let go from 2 jobs and is on his 3rd job since they’ve been here. AITA for not carrying anymore. If they don’t want to hear what we do, then he should work harder to get out of their situation.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

[Reddit User] −  NTA – they’ve overstayed their welcome. They need to go and give your life back. Honestly, I’d start doing it louder at this point cos cmon. Get outta my house.

Rude_Egg_6204 −  1. You want them gone 2. Loud s** makes them uncomfortable . Personally I would turn up the funky stuff to 11 from this point.   Maybe try all the weird s**t you were too nervous to try before…just make it loud.   Bonus points if your husband gets a g**p suit and have him sit at your side while watching TV in the living room. 

algunarubia −  NTA. You should tell your sister directly “When you originally moved in, you said you were staying for 3 months. I felt like even that was a long time to keep it down, but for the sake of harmony, we tried to be considerate. It’s been a year, and I want my old life back. If you don’t like it, find a new place.”

TickityTickityBoom −  NTA – Easy solution, “I understand you commented on the noise in the home. This living arrangement was for 3-6 months, please can you make arrangement to find your own place and be moved out by 1st December 2024.”

BlindUmpBob −  Your sister is most decidedly NOT your best friend. She’s using you and has for this entire time. They have taken advantage of you, and have the temerity to tell you to tone down your enjoyment of s**. Give them 30 notice to vacate, then when (not if, we all know this) they don’t comply, file eviction.

Good luck to them ever finding a landlord willing to rent to them with that on their record in today’s housing market. NECTBA (not even close to being the AH.. Or to keep the mods happy, NTA.

jenjemin_buttons −  NTA. I think it would be good to communicate that you want them to leave before relying on s** noises to convince them to leave. I do want to acknowledge that you have done a kind thing that should not have been taken this far, you deserve your space back.

archetyping101 −  NTA. The gall of people (who have overstayed by months) to complain about s** when they’re the overstayed guests!
I think it’s time to talk to your sister, who is your best friend, that they’ve overstayed their welcome and it’s time to go. 

Winter_Series_5598 −  Give them a 30 day notice in writing.  Take back your home.  As for the s**.  The louder the better. It’s your home.  You can do what you want in it. 

Tumbleweed_Jim −  NTA. “Oh I’m sorry you could hear the owners of the home you’ve been too lazy to move out of having perfectly normal s**. That must be difficult for you. Know where you can’t hear us doing it? In your own house. Isn’t that wild?!”

violue −  I don’t think you’re an a**hole, but in general I think making other people unconsenting participants in your sexual activity is pretty gross; even more so as a tactic/punishment.

Do you think the user and her husband are justified in prioritizing their relationship and intimacy in their own home, or should they have continued to accommodate their sister’s family? How would you handle a situation where personal boundaries and family living arrangements clash? share your thoughts below!