AITA – My sister and her husband complained about overhearing us in our own home?
One person from Reddit shared their frustration about living with their sister and her husband, who moved in temporarily but ended up staying for over a year. Despite being best friends with her sister, the user and her husband felt constrained in their home life due to the ongoing situation.
The couple tried to be respectful by adjusting their personal time to late at night or early morning, but eventually reverted to their normal routine. The sister and her husband raised concerns about the noise, deeming it disrespectful.
The user pointed out that their brother-in-law’s lack of ambition has contributed to their prolonged stay, suggesting that if he worked harder, they might have moved out by now. Read the original story below…
‘ AITA – My sister and her husband complained about overhearing us in our own home?’
My sister and her family moved in with my husband (31M) and I (30F) to be closer until they found a place. It was originally supposed to be 3 months, 6 at the very most. It has now been a year. My sister and I are best friends, but my husband and I are ready to have our house back for our family.
My husband and I have a strong bond, and we’ve tried keeping things as quiet and respectful as possible with them here. We even adjusted our routine to times when everyone was asleep or early in the morning.
Recently, we decided to return to our usual lifestyle, and they raised concerns about the noise. They felt it was inconsiderate and asked if we could quiet down. We’re simply enjoying our lives as a couple in our home.
Side note: My brother-in-law took a month-long break from work simply because he didn’t want to work. His lack of motivation and work ethic has been a key reason why they are still here. He has been let go from two jobs and is currently on his third job since moving in. AITA for not adjusting my life anymore? If they don’t want to hear us, perhaps he should work harder to improve their situation.
Here’s the comments of Reddit users:
[Reddit User] − NTA – they’ve overstayed their welcome. They need to go and give you your space back. Honestly, I’d start emphasizing my own routines more at this point.
Rude_Egg_6204 − 1. You want them gone 2. Living your life bothers them. Personally, I’d make a point of it. Maybe start experimenting with new activities they wouldn’t appreciate… just a thought.
algunarubia − NTA. You should tell your sister directly: “When you originally moved in, you said it would be for three months. Even that was an adjustment, but we did it for harmony’s sake. It’s been a year, and we want our space back. If you don’t like it, find a new place.”
TickityTickityBoom − NTA – Easy solution: “I understand your concerns, but this arrangement was for 3-6 months. Please make plans to find your own place and be moved out by 1st December 2024.”
BlindUmpBob − Your sister is definitely taking advantage of your hospitality. They’ve even had the audacity to tell you how to act in your own home. Give them a 30-day notice, and if they don’t comply, start eviction proceedings.
Good luck to them ever finding another landlord willing to rent to them in today’s housing market. NECTBA (not even close to being the AH… Or in other words, NTA).
jenjemin_buttons − NTA. Try communicating directly with them about your desire for them to move on, rather than relying on indirect hints. You’ve done a kind thing, and it shouldn’t be taken this far—you deserve your space back.
archetyping101 − NTA. For them to complain about normal activities in your home when they’ve overstayed is quite bold. It’s time to speak directly with your sister and let her know it’s time for them to go.
Winter_Series_5598 − Give them a 30-day notice. Take back your home.
Tumbleweed_Jim − NTA. “Sorry you overheard us in the home you’ve been reluctant to leave. Maybe it’s time you get a place of your own where this isn’t an issue!”
violue − While you’re not in the wrong, I’d avoid making others unconsenting participants in any personal situations.
Do you think the user and her husband are justified in prioritizing their relationship and space in their own home, or should they continue accommodating their sister’s family? How would you handle a situation where personal boundaries and family living arrangements clash? Share your thoughts below!