AITA? I reported my car missing after my husband took it to attend his brother’s wedding?

A Reddit user (presumably 30s) shared a situation where her husband (35) took her car without permission to attend his brother’s wedding, despite her firm refusal to let him drive it.

After discovering the car was missing, the user reported it as stolen, only to later find out her husband had taken it. He was briefly detained by the police, and now, the user is being criticized by her husband and his family for causing a scene.

They are calling her actions spiteful, while she feels justified in protecting her boundaries. Read the full story below.

‘ AITA? I reported my car missing after my husband took it to attend his brother’s wedding?’

My husband (35) does not have a car. He sold his old one to help pay for his brother’s wedding. I did not agree on this but he had this car before we got together so it’s a shared property.

Besides that I have my own car so that did not affect me til my husband started complaining about having to commute to work and hangout places. He tried to get me to let him drive my car several times but I stood firm and put a boundary making him understand that my car will never be driven by him (one of the reasons why is because of how bad his driving is).

His brother lives out of town. My husband asked if he could drive my car to the wedding but I refused but not because I’m not imvited (another story for another day) buy because like I said my car is off limits.

He threw a fit calling me unreasonable to let him take public transportation because he can barely stand it for 10 minutes let alone hours. I said it wasn’t my problem which irritated him but made him stop arguing about it.

The day that he was supposed to travel out of town. I woke at 10am and couldn’t find my car key. I went outside and couldn’t find my car either. I was beyond pissed. I called him and like I expected, he took it and was on his way to the other town.

I lost it and told him I gave him no permission to take it for whole 5 days and said that if he won’t turn around with it and come home then I’d call the cops and report it missing.

His response was “You wouldn’t dare do it cause you know what would happen” I hung up on him then immediately called the police and told them about my situation. I did NOT tell them my husband took it because they’d think it’s a family dispute and decide to not get involved. I just reported it missing.

2 hours later I got a call from my husband saying he was back in town and was being held at our local police station. I went to the station and talked to the cops. My husband made a scene there swearing over and over that I gave him permission to take it and said I was acting out of jealousy and spite because he was going to attent a wedding that I was not invited to.

I took my car and went home but he had to stay a little longer. He came home in the evening and went on a rage fit about how I created an awful situation and almost caused him to miss his brother’s wedding.

He called me vindictive, bitter and a l**atic to call the police on him and try to accuse him of stealing my car. He had to leave the same day to be able to be there with his family and decided to extent his stay and he still hasn’t gotten back yet.
Right now his mom and brother are blasting me for what happened and calling me spiteful.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

CatOutrageous9135 −  NTA.But I get the feeling that there is a lot more going on here. Your husband sold his car to help pay for his brother’s wedding? Even though he needed it to commute? Is your husband prone to making bad decisions? And he paid for his brother’s wedding, even though you, his wife were not invited to it? I’m sorry, but what kind of marriage is this?

[Reddit User] −  So… happily married I take it? Edit: People, thank you for the awards, but save them for another Redditor who needs a pick-me-up.

PrailinesNDick −  ESH. Your car is *completely* off limits? He took the car for *5 days* anyways? So you called the f**king cops on him? You both suck. You might be married but you don’t sound like life partners.

Expensive_Warthog444 −  NTA. Lady, you need to file for divorce immediately. This relationship is toxic and your husband is a massive idiotic a**hole.

[Reddit User] −  Why are you married to him?

chrissie7324 −  I can’t see your marriage lasting much longer

saurellia −  INFO: WTF?

canuck_2022 −  Why are you married to him? I’d take this time to find a divorce lawyer

sarahlampi −  ESH- both are childish and toxic beyond belief.

Lia_Delphine −  ESH get a divorce and stop wasting tax payers money. You both sound toxic.

Do you think the user’s decision to report her husband’s actions to the police was justified, or did she go too far by involving the authorities? Was she right to stand firm on her boundaries, or could there have been another way to resolve the situation? Share your thoughts below and join the conversation!