Aita I not allowing my wife’s best friend inside my house after she disrespected me and called me a ‘puppy’?
A Redditor finds himself in a challenging situation after his wife’s best friend insulted him during a political argument, calling him his wife’s “puppy.” Although the friend later apologized, the insult cut deep, leaving him hesitant to forgive her or welcome her back into their home.
With his wife’s support to make the final decision, he’s now wondering if he should accept the apology or ask her to cut ties altogether. Read the full story below to see how he’s handling this dilemma.
‘ Aita I not allowing my wife’s best friend inside my house after she disrespected me and called me a ‘puppy’?’
Me and my wife got married a year ago, we both are in our early 20s, I love my wife very much, I do everything for her and take care of her, and I know she loves me, I never felt ashamed for doing what my wife asked me to, as her husband I feel like she’s my responsibility and it’s my duty to take care of her
But her best friend, bff, insulted me, her bff visits us every few weeks, always did, we aren’t close but we do talk but not enough to be ‘friends’ but me and my wife’s bff got along. 3 weeks ago she came to spend time with my wife, after talking to my wife she came to living room and it was just me and her and my wife was cooking.
We were watching news and long story short we started Arguing over politics, we went back and forth but she got angry and we started getting loud, my wife came and saw us arguing. Bff got so angry that she started insulting me, I didn’t like that but I kept it civil but she started saying i am a simp without a backbone.
I always hid behind my wife and listen to her all the time I am weak and I do not know anything about the real world and I am basically my wife’s ‘puppy’ who always listen to her so I should shut up and listen to my wife’s command.
I was angry but I just asked her to leave, she said she’s sorry for what she said, but I kept asking her to leave, she looked at my wife and my wife just said it’s between you guys and deal with it, I demanded she leaves right away and she left finally
I felt really bad for what she said so I went to my wife to talk to her and asked her if you think the way she thinks? My wife said ignore what her bff said, I am not her ‘puppy’ or anything like that I am her husband and she couldn’t have found a better husband and she’s glad I am with her.
We both spent the night together and wife said she’ll talk to her friend and she will always be my side. But yesterday her bff visited once again, she said she came to me to apologise.
I politely said that I am currently still angry at her and it’s better if we do not escalate, what you said was extremely disrespectful, I love my wife and will always love her but that doesn’t I am a ‘puppy’ and for you to consider me one is disgusting.
She said she is extremely sorry for what she said in her anger and didn’t mean it, I asked her to leave, my wife simply said ‘its between you both, deal with it’ once again.
Later my wife said I should forgive her bff and I should not think about whatever she said and I am her husband so no matter whatever decision I make she will support me and always choose me over everything else and if I want to.
She will ask her bff to never come to our home. Now I am thinking if I should forgive the bff or ask my wife to cut her off or not allow her in my house aita?
These are the responses from Reddit users:
Gonebabythoughts − “Want to see me take a stand? You are no longer welcome in our home. Socialize with my wife as much as you want outside of my house.”
JTD177 − Ask your wife how she would respond if one of your friends disparaged her.
Ok_Homework_7621 − NTA – But your wife is wrong, it’s not actually between you and her friend. She’s friends with somebody who openly disrespects you. Staying neutral isn’t actually neutral here.
FormerlyShawnHawaii − She says all you do is listen to your wife. Your wife says to apologize and make up.. Checkmate.
MikeReddit74 − So your wife was cool with her friend insulting her husband? Not a good look.
start46 − I can’t get over that all your wife had to say was “it’s between the two of you”. If I ever heard anyone friend, family, stranger talk to my husband like that I would loose my mind. She came into your house and disrespected you.
You dont owe her anything. Personally I wouldn’t talk to her again and I would be upset with my spouse for not having my back. And honestly what kind of insults were they.
She’s demeaning you for loving her friend for putting her first and listening to her and doing things for her. Sounds to me she’s jealous and if she sticks around this won’t be the last time she causes problems.
-WhyAmIBest- − Curious, if one of your friends came over and called your wife a l**er who just uses her husband for everything he can do for her, would she just forgive and not think about it?
Somehow I doubt it. Also- her saying”this is just between you guys” it’s annoying as well and not taking a stand for you. That’s her way of staying neutral and playing both sides.
KDLAlumni − NTA for kicking out the disrespectful guest from your home. But I do see the humorous irony in you getting pissed off for being called a simp, and then the first thing you *immediately* do afterwards is ask your wife for validation.
LewdProphet − “We both spent the night together.”. We’ll, you’re married.
unzunzhepp − When did your wife act like she was on your side? Words in private are cheap.
Do you think the Redditor’s reaction to his wife’s best friend is justified, or should he forgive and move forward? How would you handle an apology after such a personal insult from a friend of your partner? Share your thoughts below!