AITA for telling my son he can’t stay with me when I found out why his wife kicked him out.

A Redditor shares a difficult situation involving their son, who was kicked out by his pregnant wife after she discovered he cheated on her. The wife is on bedrest due to a high-risk pregnancy, and the son excused his infidelity by blaming her “pregnancy hormones.” After learning the real reason behind his son’s marital troubles, the Redditor told him to leave their house, stating they couldn’t associate with such behavior. The father and his spouse are now at odds over whether he was too harsh. Invite people to read the original story below.

‘ AITA for telling my son he can’t stay with me when I found out why his wife kicked him out.’

My daughter-in-law is pregnant with my first grandchild. She is suffering from placenta preavia. She is on bedrest. It would be dangerous for her to have s**. So my a**hole son decided that he should cheat.

She found out and kicked him out of the house. He came to stay with us because “she was having crazy pregnancy hormones”. Every time he called her they would fight. After a couple of days we told him to go see if she calmed down. Her mom is staying with them so we weren’t worried about her. My wife called her to check in on her and found out the truth.

I very upset. When he got home from work I told him he needed to get out of my house. He wasn’t someone I wanted to associate with at the moment and it would be best if he wasn’t near me.

My wife tried to say that I was being too hard on him. That I should just give them a chance to work things out. I can’t even look at him. I don’t want such a stupid boy in my house. My wife and I are still fighting about it but I am willing to die on this hill.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

bureaucratic_drift −  NTA – ***never*** TA for such integrity. Your son most definitely is and (I suspect) his enabling mommy is as well. Kudos to you for doing the right thing.

Sea_Supermarket_9728 −  NTA- you have respect for your daughter in law and strong morals of knowing right from wrong. Looks like your son never inherited them.

beanfiddler −  NTA. Good, let him rot. Too many parents enable the awful behavior of their adult children, particularly their adult sons, and all it does is cause that overgrown child to continue to act up.

And we see *way too many* Boy Moms^TM in this sub (i.e. women that coddle their male children and encourage them to treat their wives terribly). Good on you for not letting that sort of thing happen in your family. Your daughter-in-law is family and the mother of your grandchild. She needs your support now, not the man that cheated on her and blew up his own marriage.

sikonat −  NTA. Consequences of his own s**tty actions. Good for you for not condoning it. Your grandchild is on their way and grandkid and their mum need all the support. Hell yes do not let him get away with disrespect and entitlement.

meditatinganopenmind −  A decent husband would be too tired to cheat because they would be doing everything they could to help their wife. She’s sick in bed and pregnant with his child. I wouldn’t be able to even look at him if he was my son.

[Reddit User] −  NTA; I wonder if this is not the first time he’s cheated. Hope you can find additional ways to support your daughter in law, you’re a good one

Existing_Ideal8840 −  Nta, his reason for cheating is disgusting. I question your wife’s morals. Your a good dad for stepping up for your DIL. Actions have consequences

Accomplished-Row-695 −  NTA – he not only did something despicable but then lied and shifted the blame to his wife. Good on you for kicking him out. I would do the same

[Reddit User] −  Ask your wife how she would feel if DIL cheated on your son? How would she feel if **you cheated on her**? And then lied to your family of course. NTA

Unfair_Ad_4470 −  Why does your wife think you’re too hard on him? What is her reasoning that she doesn’t blame him for his infidelity? Would she forgive and make excuses if you were unfaithful?

NTA… I’m just trying to understand your wife’s stance on y’all’s son. Unless he’s her golden child and not subject to any type of censure. I agree with you that this is a hill to die on.

Do you think the father did the right thing by standing firm and asking his son to leave, or was he too harsh in handling the situation? How would you handle a family member’s betrayal in such a sensitive situation? Share your thoughts below!