AITA for telling my Inlaws exactly where my husband was when I was in labor?

A Reddit user (27F) recently gave birth to her son and was disappointed with her husband’s behavior during labor. He chose to stay at his friend’s house watching a football game rather than being with her when her water broke. Afterward, he lied about his actions when recounting the night to his family.

The user corrected him in front of everyone, causing her husband to be berated by his mother. He now feels that she embarrassed him and caused a rift in the family. The user is questioning if she was wrong for telling the truth about what happened.

‘ AITA for telling my Inlaws exactly where my husband was when I was in labor?’

I gave birth to my son 10 weeks ago. I went through exhausting period while I was nearing my due date. I was experiencing discomfort and wanted my husband by my side when I go into labor but he’d go out every night to hang out at his friend’s place and watch football games.

I suggested that he play/watch games at home just in case but he was having none of it and said he had to attend game night at his brother& friend’s place along with his buddies. He said they had certain… How can i describe it? “rituals?” when watching a game and he can’t enjoy doing it at home or anywhere else.

The night of our son’s birth my water broke while my husband was at his buddies place watching a game. I called him and told him to get home and take me to the hospital he said he was coming but he didn’t. I ended up calling my sister (she lives nearby) and she took me to the hospital.

My husband showed up 2hrs later after he kept calling asking if I was still in labor and that he was almost done watching the game. He was able to make it on time for our son’s birth but I was furious with him, mad and disappointed. He apologized profoundly and has been working on regaining my trust and respect for him after what he’s done.

He’s otherwise very supportive and involved in our son’s care. Last night I was at my in-laws house for dinner and we were talking about my son’s birth date. My husband suddenly started “recalling” what happened that night and basically started lying about driving me to the hospital,

waiting and feeling stressed out and standing on his feet for so long without food or even water. I was confused I said no! none of this was true, none of this happened in fact, he was watching a game when I went into labor and I wanted him to drive me to the hospital but didn’t show up til 2 hours later.

My mother in law who takes no s**t from anybody and whom everyone *fears* lost it on him yelling asking him if that was true and he kept quiet. she started berating him left and right telling him to sit down and shut up when he stood up to argue then told him to stand up when he was sitting arguing.

Everyone was laughing at how she basically treated him as if he was a boy in trouble. She kept saying “Shame shame shame! on you, this is not how I raised my children to treat their wives, Jordan you are a disgrace and I’m disappointed because of what I heard about you”.

He literally swallowed every bit of his mother’s berating and didn’t say anything til we got home where he went nuts saying I made him look neglectful, a bad husband and father by telling the family about where he was and said I shouldn’t have said anything but I argued it wasn’t okay for him to lie and play hero in front of his parents.

He said I just caused a rift between him and family and asked if I was happy now. aita? Should I have not said anything?

Check out how the community responded:

AreYouFalconKidding −  NTA. Your husband thought a football game was more important than you being in labor. He looked like a neglectful husband and father because he was being neglectful. If he wants people to think better of him then he should change his behavior. Yelling at you shows he’s not sorry and would rather blame you than accept the consequences of his actions.

Sippy-Cupp −  Wow. Just wow. NTA. Husband is absolutely 100% an AH for 1 not driving his wife to the hospital when she went into labor 2 waiting until the game was over to get to the hospital  3  lying about it to his family This would honestly make me question divorce. This is bad. At the very least, marriage counseling would be a must.

cattodatto69 −  NTA lying about what he did in public undoes all of the apologizing he did in private. He is not taking full responsibility for his actions.

randomalas −  NTA I think I love your MIL.

[Reddit User] −  NTA. I’m in disbelief about his behavior. I can’t imagine how upset I’d be if I was in your shoes. I think “outing” him was well warranted, especially once he started blatantly lying. He is a man with zero honor. And he seems to lack a lot of respect for you. You don’t deserve to be disregarded that way.

Knitsanity −  NTA. F THAT S. He was not there for you when you needed him and then LIES about it? Does he think your are stupid? What a m**on. Bless his heart. Lololol

ComprehensiveBand586 −  NTA. You said that he’s working on regaining your trust, but by lying about his refusal to be there for you, he took a major step back in his attempt to be more trustworthy. Your MIL is awesome though. Your husband got exactly what he deserved.

HarlesBronson −  Nta. He is lucky you aren’t divorcing him. I would have. What he did was despicable. His mother is my freaking hero. Good for her for not condoning his behavior and holding him accountable.

Karyatids −  I mean. Are you sure he was watching a game? Are you sure he wasn’t with someone else? NTA

emmennwhy −  NTA and aside from the disrespect and n**lect while you were in labor, I’d be extremely worried about what else he’s lying about. He felt comfortable lying right to his own mother’s face. What has he been lying to you about?