AITA For telling My Girlfriends Friend she can’t eat the food i cooked since it’s unhygienic.?
A Reddit user shares a Sunday story about cooking a meal for their girlfriend and her friends, only for a new guest to make an offensive remark about Indian food being “unhygienic.” Later, when the guest asked to try the meal, the OP sarcastically reminded her of her earlier comment, leading to an awkward moment. Now, the OP wonders if their response was too harsh. Read the full story below!
‘ AITA For telling My Girlfriends Friend she can’t eat the food i cooked since it’s unhygienic.?’
It was a typical Sunday, my day off. As a 29-year-old Indian doctor living abroad, Sundays were my time to relax, hone my cooking skills, and catch up on sleep. My girlfriend of one year, who is 28, shared the day with me at home.
This particular Sunday, I decided to prepare a simple chicken curry with rice a dish my girlfriend enjoys. Unlike butter chicken, this version uses onions in the base instead of tomatoes. (Idk why I told you all this but yeah)
Three of my girlfriend’s friends were coming over that afternoon. I’d met two of them multiple times, but one was a new acquaintance. They had plans for a casual get-together. Generally, when I cook on such occasions, my girlfriend and her friends insist I join them, which I don’t mind. They’re good company.
I was finishing up the cooking when they arrived. As they chatted in the living room, I put on my headphones to listen to music while wrapping up in the kitchen. Afterward, I stepped out to ask if they’d prefer lunch now or later.
Everyone agreed to eat immediately, except for the new girl. She commented, “I don’t think I’d like Indian food—it’s unhygienic.” While I mentally raised an eyebrow and chuckled, I refrained from reacting outwardly. My girlfriend, however, was visibly annoyed, and her other friends were quick to call out the remark as inappropriate. One of them even added, “That wasn’t nice to say.”
I assured everyone I wasn’t offended, explaining that stereotypes about Indian food often stem from street food and hygiene misconceptions, so I understood where the remark might come from. With that, I returned to the kitchen to finalize the meal.
My girlfriend followed me and jokingly (I think?) said she felt like committing m**der. I told her not to stress over it, as I don’t take remarks from people I don’t care about to heart.
When it was time to eat, my girlfriend set the table while I brought out the curry. Everyone else enjoyed the meal and gave me plenty of compliments, which was nice to hear. Midway through the meal, the new guest, despite her earlier remark, expressed a sudden interest in trying the food.
Here’s where I might have acted immaturely. I closed the lid on the dish and told her, “I don’t think you should eat this—it’s unhygienic, remember?” She seemed visibly upset and left the house shortly after.
I half-expected my girlfriend to be upset with me, but instead, she said, “Good riddance,” and her other friends reassured me that I’d done nothing wrong. They even mentioned they preferred my company over hers, which was flattering. I joked about liking their company too but still preferring my Sunday blanket, which made everyone laugh. So, was I in the wrong for closing the lid? so Aitah..
Here’s how people reacted to the post:
Zandonah − NTA – perhaps she’ll think twice before making stupid statements in the future
Ok_Copy_8869 − NTA that was a rude and terrible thing for her to say and the last thing you owed her was the food you made. I think you could try to make the argument that she might have experienced more personal growth if she tried and enjoyed the food and maybe if you were the bigger person on that one meal her goodwill would grow but that’s a ridiculous thing to expect you to do and wishful thinking anyway. She got her own bitter taste in her mouth and didn’t like it NTA
Frankifile − NTA, if you’re going to be r**ist in your POC hosts face, it takes a lot of front to then expect the thing you’re being rude about to be served to you. I’m sure there are bigger people out there who would have graciously served her. I’m not amongst them.
bjornartl − Who would expect a doctor to know anything about hygiene right?
Fa1thL3s5 − Fake.
Feisty-Estimate6358 − NTA WHAT A B**CH
GorgeousW1fe − NTA. You matched her energy with a light jab—seems fair to me, especially after such an unnecessary and rude comment.
ApemanStronk − This reads like ChatGPT.
ExtentGlittering8715 − YTA for posting an AI story.. \ —it’s unhygienic. Forgot to remove the dashes.
AmbitiousEdi − NTA, f**k that r**ist. Indian food is some of the most delicious food in the world and homemade Indian food is a gift
Do you think the OP’s response to the guest was justified, or should they have taken the high road and let her try the food? How would you handle such a situation? Share your thoughts below!