AITA for telling my friends girlfriend not everyone wants to sleep with her?

A Redditor shared a heated encounter involving their friend’s new girlfriend and a hurtful comment about their appearance. During a group car ride, the girlfriend made an unkind remark about the Redditor’s weight, prompting them to respond with a sharp comment about her presence.

The situation escalated further when the girlfriend seemingly retaliated by posting mocking content online. Now, the Redditor wonders if they went too far in defending themselves. Read the story below.

‘ AITA for telling my friends girlfriend not everyone wants to sleep with her?’

This is a very stupid situation im in with my friends. I (20 F) have a friend group of mostly guys, we talk about cars and playing video games. One of my friends, Chad (fake name) has recently started dating his new girlfriend. They are the typical jock and cheerleader couple but as adults.

He has a big ego and bigger muscles, and she dyed her hair blonde just to have a reason to be dumb (not joking she told me that is why she went blonde). This whole argument happened 2 days ago.

I was driving, Chad and his girlfriend is in the back seat and another friend, John was in the front next to me. Me and John were talking, we debate alot but are still very close. We went from talking about politics to talking about how each gender sees each other. When I made a joke that everyone has this mindset that guys and girls can’t be friends cause their just gonna hook up.

John laughed and Chad’s girlfriend bumped into the conversation and said, “good thing you look like… you”. I asked what she meant about that, Chad and John both know I went through alot of bs growing up and used food has therapy (im better now, i went from 250 to 200 last 3 month). Chad’s girlfriend example “well no guy wants a girl who looks like that tire guy from the commercials, so many rolls, ew” yes and 23 year old said “ew”.

I said something I should had but I said “you shouldn’t be saying ew when you make my car smell like the fish market”. Car went quiet for a good 5 minutes. When I finally dropped everyone off at their apartments I went home. Now here’s the big drama.

I woke up the next morning to post about me, comparing me to famous fat people. Ex: fat Albert, Peter griffin, Homer simpson, etc… and ofc the accounts posting it were following Chad and his girlfriend. I’m 100% sure it’s her cause other then the friends I have for video games and cars there’s only on other group and they very anti- phones. So generally am i a j**k for telling my friends gf no one wants her s**ually?

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

_egginthistryingtime −  I don’t have a strong opinion, but I laughed hard as hell at the fish market zing, well played.

LonelyOwl68 −  NTA. Chad’s gf insulted you, and in a very rude way, too. You fought back, and I say, good for you! If you are rude and insulting to someone, you shouldn’t be surprised to get a zinger back at you, like yours was; well done, you!

Chad didn’t defend you when his gf insulted you and tried to body shame you; he’s an AH as a result; so is John, actually. Both of these guys should have shut her down when she started insulting you in the first place, because that’s how friends are supposed to act.

Doing the social media thing was a level beyond all that, though. That puts it over the top and you will be justified if you never speak to either Chad or his cheezy girlfriend again. You didn’t exactly tell her no one wants her s**ually, just that she stinks, but that was the best response to such a comment ever. It will live forever here on Reddit.

Kanulie −  You told her not everyone wants to sleep with her? I missed that. But you told her she stinks, in retaliation for her insulting you, which is fair game imo. 🤷‍♂️

Unassumingido −  The title is misleading because you never directly told the girlfriend, “not everyone wants to sleep with her.” Instead, go on how much of a good person you are for giving lifts to your friends, and snap back at them just because. .

There are signs that you might be projecting your own insecurities as her desirability, if she has a boyfriend, so why would she want everyone to sleep with her? . And you can’t be referring to you? While the girlfriend’s behavior was cruel, your response and framing suggest jealousy or resentment may be underlying factors. Or I could have just get it supper wrong

moggiemum −  ESH

RandolfNitler −  You need to find better friends

Sunnyandbright007 −  NTA. You’re not in the wrong. Any time a man or women insults you, it’s time to clapback. She deserved whatever you said because she insulted you. Period. If you dish it out, you can need to accept the blowback. Good on you for putting it right back where it deserves.

I’m tired of women trashing other women to look good. Hit where it hurts and hopefully, she’ll learn her lesson. You put her in her place. Stand your ground. Bet she won’t try to mess with you again.. Don’t apologize to an insult.

Silver-Progress4938 −  Should have just pulled the car over and told her to get out. You are helping her keep her figure and she can thank you later. I’d not be hauling those 3 anywhere any time soon. They are all assholes.

Fresh_Mousse8815 −  EHS. Genuinely seems like everyone here is insufferable in their own ways. Find new friends or figure out a way to interact with each other without acting like high schoolers. You both seem to act like pick-me high school girls. Grow up.. Edit: spelling.

plantprinses −  Well, in any case you are both wrong. No doubt there are guys who will sleep with any woman as long as she’s breathing and there will always be guys who look beyond how much a person weighs. So, as far as both your statements go, you’re both wrong.

Chad’s gf shouldn’t have commented upon your weight: it’s rude in general and even more so among friends. What’s more, she herself invited comments on what she said: she opened the door and you walked through it, that’s all. You defended yourself, that’s all.

What is odd is that those in the car did not go silent when gf insulted you, but they did when you commented: I wonder why is that? Why did no one tell her that you can’t say that? Or is this just guys laying low and waiting for it to blow over? Of course the post is gf’s doing: that just shows her how much your comment stung.

Not that that’s not her own fault, but it does show that she’s not used to be called out on what she says. You know, the so-called ‘privilege of beauty’. From my end, you’re not a j**k at all. You’ve working on yourself, you don’t let anyone walk all over you. Those are good characteristics to have, because they will last a life-time, unlike beauty. That’s only skin-deep.

Was the Redditor justified in clapping back after being insulted, or should they have taken the high road? How would you handle a friend’s partner making personal and hurtful remarks? Share your perspective below!