AITA for telling my ex that he absolutely sucked in bed due to his weight?

A Redditor recently shared an encounter with her ex-husband, who made repeated comments about her fiancé’s weight. After being fed up with the remarks, she fired back by criticizing her ex’s performance in bed, attributing it to his thin frame. The situation left her wondering if she went too far. Read the full story below to find out what happened…

‘ AITA for telling my ex that he absolutely sucked in bed due to his weight?’

My ex and I split up 7 years ago and he gets our kids every other weekend. About a year after the split we both started seeing other people. His current girlfriend is absolutely stunning and she’s fantastic with my kids. And my soon to be husband is just as perfect. But.. my ex makes comments about my fiancé’s weight more often than he should.

My ex is scrawny (like 110lbs). He quite literally does not have any weight to him at all and you can see damn near every bone he has in his body. TMI but I actually stopped having intimate relations with him about a year and a half before we split because I was so tired of walking out of the situation bruised and in pain from his hip bones smashing in to my inner legs.

Everything about it was painful. Nothing about it brought pleasure to me, ever. I liked him so the lack of s** (or terrible s**) wasn’t originally an issue but after awhile.. it became a massive problem and 100% the reason why I no longer wanted him. I wasn’t even remotely satisfied and found myself straying.

When I realized I was growing sexually tense around other men, I brought it up with my ex and told him everything. The split was amicable (I never cheated- I left before it ever got to that point). We remained friends. But I started losing respect for him and distancing myself when started dropping comments about my fiancés weight.

My fiancé is a bigger guy. Maybe around 230ish lbs and honestly, I’m so sexually driven by him. Everything about him is so wildly attractive to me and in the 6 years I’ve been with him, I’ve not once ever longed for something more. But my ex.. as I said, makes comments about my fiancés weight.

He came to pick up the kids the other day with his GF and he said- to her- “yeah every guy she ever had an interest in was fat except me”. So I said “maybe if you put on some weight and stopped being terrible in bed by bruising people and hurting them with your hip bones we wouldn’t have had an issue and I wouldn’t have left”.

He said it’s a low blow that I said that and was even more wounded because his GF laughed but like.. why even bring it up, for one and why continuously comment on my fiancés weight anyhow?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

buffet_table −  Rail thin, in shape or obese, some people just can’t f**k.

l3ex_G −  Nta your comment matches his, he talked about your fiancés body and you did the same

GoodQueenFluffenChop −  He came to pick up the kids the other day with his GF and he said- to her- “yeah every guy she ever had an interest in was fat except me”. So I said “maybe if you put on some weight and stopped being terrible in bed by bruising people and hurting them with your hip bones we wouldn’t have had an issue and I wouldn’t have left”. **He said it’s a low blow** Ah another one of those he can dish it out but can’t take it in return. Another reason why it’s better he’s an ex.. NTA

Disastrous-Panda5530 −  When I met my husband I hated it too. He was tall and lean but his hip bones would dig into my inner things also. He played football and surfed and I didn’t do certain positions anymore. I’m so glad he has more meat on his bones now so it isn’t an issue. Your ex is an ass for bringing up your fiancés weight which he is likely doing to make himself look better. I would have said something similar so I’m going to say NTA

devonlala95 −  NTA. Dude I love that the GF laughed too. It sounds like he’s insecure which he needs to deal with. I’d hate for his insecurity to ruin his relationship with you as a coparent and his relationship with GF, who has the potential to be a great bonus parent.

MontanaWildWiman −  ESH. Funny as heck response, but both comments were inappropriate.

Manager-Tough −  NTA – don’t make comments about other peoples bodies if you don’t want comments made about your own. Sounds like he’s holding on to some resentment either about the divorce or that you’re so happy.

hnygrl412 −  NTA that falls under the “F**k Around and Find Out” Category. Don’t dish it if ya can’t TAKE it. Must still be true if GF laughed.

AstronautImportant44 −  I laughed but you are both AH

cthulhusmercy −  NTA. I’d even go so far to say that he’s the bigger AH for talking negatively about people behind their backs. At least you had the guts to say something to his face 🤷‍♀️ play stupid games, win stupid prizes.

Do you think the Redditor’s response was justified given her ex’s repeated comments about her fiancé, or did she cross a line with her comeback? How would you handle a co-parent’s hurtful remarks about your new partner? Share your thoughts below!