AITA for taking my newborn son and going to my mom’s house because my husband his mom didn’t save me any food for dinner?

A Redditor shares a tense situation with her husband and his mother, where she was left without dinner after breastfeeding her newborn son. Despite handling most of the baby care, she was shocked when her mother-in-law didn’t save her food.

This led to a heated argument, and the Redditor decided to leave for her mom’s house. Now her husband is upset, calling her actions childish and accusing her of keeping their son away from him. Read the original story below…

‘ AITA for taking my newborn son and going to my mom’s house because my husband his mom didn’t save me any food for dinner?’

I f32 gave birth to my son 5 weeks ago. My husband’s mom has been camping in the living room ever since and inviting people over, making a mess in the house, etc. I said nothing because if I open my mouth, my husband would start scolding me saying his mom is there to help and I should be grateful. What I did was ignore her and focus on my son.

I handle feeding, diaper change, cleaning, wiping. I only get a few hours sleep so my husband’s mom isn’t really helping with the baby. But I thought to myself “well, at least she cooks for us!”. Last night, I was in the bedroom breastfeeding my son. I knew I was late for dinner but I thought that my husband and his mom saved a plate for me.

Once I got done with my son, I walked out the room and saw my husband and his mom sitting watching tv. I asked about dinner and my husband said it was “probably” on the stove. As I was walking towards the kitchen, his mom loudly said that she didn’t save me any food.

I was absolutely shocked I asked her why and she simply said “Well, we didn’t see you at dinner table so I thought you weren’t hungry”. I lost it and yelled that I was feeding my son OF COURSE I was hungry, I was actually starving!.

She shrugged her shoulders and said it wasn’t her fault I didn’t “show up for dinner” but she knew damn well that I was with my son and hadn’t eaten a thing in hours!. My husband asked me to not raise my voice at his mom but I told him that he saw what happened and didn’t think about me being hungry and needing food.

he lashed out asking what the f**k I wanted him to do and I said “I don’t know, maybe save some food for me?” She defended him saying it was selfish of me to basically berate him for eating his dinner after working for long hours at the department.

An argument ensued and I went inside the bedroom, packed a small bag for me and my son, called my brother to come take me to mom’s house and my husband blew up at me as I was making my way out. We argued at the door and he told me that what I was doing was uncalled for and childish.

I told him I couldn’t take his mom anymore, he said I should be ashamed of myself for talking about her like that after she literally put her life “on pause” so she could help ME out. My brother came and I got into the car and left. He picked some food for me on the way and I ate like a hungry bear. My husband never stopped calling though.

In his last text he called me “nuts” and demanded I return today but I said that I miss my mom, that I like it here in her clean home with her healthy food and would like to stay for a while. He’s lost it and got his family involved accusing me of keeping his son away from him and punishing him over “food”.

Here’s the feedback from the Reddit community:

yeznag −  B**ast-feeding while on an empty stomach. That’s like going into debt. There should’ve been heaping mounds of food waiting for you

mdthomas −  So basically his mother came to take care of him and show off her new grandchild under the pretense of “helping you”. Your MIL is ignoring you and your husband is using her as an excuse to skip out of doing his part of parenting. Were there no warning signs earlier in the relationship? Kick her out, tell him he needs to start pitching in or file for divorce.. NTA

BoomButton −  NTA. How exactly is your MIL’s cooking “helping” if she doesn’t even cook enough for all three of you?

Denverdogmama −  NTA. *you weren’t hungry?* **Your body is literally feeding another human being.** Do they not understand that you need to eat so that you can feed your baby?

[Reddit User] −  Sometimes I read things here where someone so clearly isn’t the a**hole and it depresses me. Girl he’s manipulated you so bad if you’re even questioning this right now. Get out for your kid and yourself

moonmama95 −  Obviously NTA. I would be asking why his mom is even there.

Sea-Ad9057 −  you know she probably didnt even cook enough food for you to eat to begin with because there was no food left when they finished eating stay where people are taking care of you i wouldnt trust either of them with your son though

Jennergirl −  NTA. My ex (note the ex part….) and his mum did this to me when she was here a few months after our daughter was born, only difference being I had nowhere to walk out to and stay at. You stay with your family as long as you need for them to get the message!

ed_lv −  NTA, and unless your husband wakes up immediately, it’s very likely you’re headed for a divorce. His mother needs to leave immediately, if you two are to have any chance to survive this. I would put my foot down and demand this, before you even think about coming back home.

tatasz −  NTA. YWBTA to yourself and your child if you come back (unless he goes no contact with his mom, but that’s unlikely). Unfortunately he is already married to his mom, and you are just a third wheel.

Was leaving the house and heading to her mom’s the right response to the lack of support and food, or is there a better way to handle the situation? What would you have done in her shoes? Share your thoughts below.