AITA for ruining my brother’s date night and having him come pick his 3yo son up after he dropped him off at my house right before my shift?

A Reddit user (32M) shared a story about his brother (30M), a single dad, who frequently dumps his 3-year-old son on him without notice so he can go on dates. Things reached a boiling point when the brother let himself into the user’s house while he was showering, left the child there, and ignored calls, despite the fact that the user had a nursing shift to attend.

Furious, the user threatened to call the cops if his brother didn’t return immediately to pick up his son. The brother came back angry, accusing the user of ruining his date and demanding that he cover for him by lying to the woman about why he had to leave. The user refused. Was he justified, or did he overreact? Read on for the full story.

‘ AITA for ruining my brother’s date night and having him come pick his 3yo son up after he dropped him off at my house right before my shift?’

I M32 have a brother M30 (Kevin) who is a single dad to a 3yo, Kevin lives in the same city as me we don’t have any family of relatives here just a few friends. Kevin has a habit of dumping his kid on me at random times to watch while he goes out on dates with women.

So far he’s gone out for 4 dates while expecting me to watch my nephew. It bothered me because I have work commitments (I’m a nurse) and my schedule can unpredictable, and so he caused me issues at work for dropping his kid off at my house without telling me first.

Last week he did it again, He came over at 6pm and entered my house with my nephew (he had a spare key) while I was showering and left the house immediately. I got out of the shower and was shocked to see my nephew standing there alone. I asked where his dad was and he said he just left.

I knew he wanted me to watch my nephew, I called him several times on the phone and he did not pick up. I was so mad and almost freaking out because I was getting late for my shift. I sent him a text telling him to come pick his son up right now or I’d call cops on him for child abandonment.

He texted back begging that I s**k it up just this time because he had an important date and he couldn’t leave in the middle of it. I told him that I was serious and I’d do it and gave him 10 minutes to get home.

He got home looking pissed and started yelling at me for ruining his date and making him leave in the middle of it, just because I couldn’t bother skip one damn shift to watch my nephew. I told him I never agreed to watch his son and he made me do it.

He said that it was an emergency which made me laugh because calling a date night “emergency” is just absurd. Long story short he left with my nephew but hasn’t stopped blaming me for spoiling his date and probably causing damage to the relationship between him and his “potential” girlfriend.

It’s been a week and he’s still salty about it demanding I make it to him and call his date and lie to her and tell her some sob story about why he had to leave like that but I said I won’t do that.. AITA?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

WebbieVanderquack −  NTA. he had an important date…He said tha[t it was] an emergency… Were they defusing a bomb together or something?

teresajs −  NTA. Change your locks. And put your brother’s number on Do Not Disturb. He can hire a sitter if he wants to go out so badly.

aspermyprevious −  NTA and you probably saved some poor young woman from having your nephew dumped on her. Your brother isn’t dating. He’s looking for a mommy mcbang-maid.

MyCatIsADramaqueen −  NTA, change your locks

ElectricalAct8425 −  Getting laid is not an emergency.. Also, “A lack of planning on your part does not constitue an emergency on mine.”. NTA

Good_Comparison7402 −  NTA… In a real emergency I get that your brother doesn’t have much choice. But that only applies to a real emergency not a date. Your brother is an a**hole not just for the way he treats you but also how he treats his son. He treats his son like he can just drop him off somewhere whenever he likes. Like his son is an inconvenience. That’s disgusting.

PattersonsOlady −  If I was that date I would be horrified to be dating a man who dumps his kid and runs! NTA

[Reddit User] −  INFO: do you honestly think there’s a chance you’re the a**hole here?

Lenaballerina −  NTA, and I’d have serious concerns about the well-being of that poor kid.

cynical-mage −  NTA, and what is actually wrong with your brother?! Or is he pretending he doesn’t have a son when he’s making date plans?

Do you think the user was right to call out his brother’s behavior, or should he have handled it differently given the situation? Should the brother take more responsibility as a parent, or was he just looking for a bit of help in his dating life? Share your thoughts—where should the line be drawn when it comes to helping family?