AITA for refusing to go to my sister’s wedding after she uninvited my partner?

A Reddit user shared her dilemma over refusing to attend her sister’s wedding after her partner of three years was uninvited to appease certain guests who might “feel uncomfortable.”

While the user believes the exclusion is unjust and hurtful, her sister insists it’s her wedding and accuses the user of being selfish for not attending without her partner. Read the full story below to weigh in on whether the user’s decision was fair.

‘ AITA for refusing to go to my sister’s wedding after she uninvited my partner?’

My sister (27F) is getting married next month. I (24F) was supposed to go with my partner, Alex (26F), who I’ve been with for three years. Everyone in the family knows we’re together, and Alex has always been treated like part of the family… until now.

Last week, my sister called to say that Alex was no longer invited because “some of the guests” might feel uncomfortable seeing us as a couple. When I asked who exactly, she said, “You know how some of our older family members can be.”

I told her that if Alex wasn’t welcome, then I wouldn’t be coming either. She got upset, saying it’s her big day and that I was being selfish for “making it all about me.” My parents are pressuring me to just go without Alex, saying I shouldn’t ruin her wedding over “one day,” but to me, it’s bigger than that.

Now my family is divided: some agree with me, and others say I’m being unreasonable. My sister is furious, and my parents are guilt-tripping me over all the money they’ve spent on this wedding.. AITA for standing my ground?

See what others had to share with OP:

KiwiiDreamer −  Just to add, Alex was also supposed to help out at the wedding by doing the photography for free, so this feels like even more of a slap in the face.

Bonnm42 −  NTA I would text your Sister and family and say “It’s not just “one day.” Saying that is just being dismissive of my feelings and avoiding the real problem. Some of our family is h**ophobic. By you giving into their hate, you are also being h**ophobic.

Which means you do not approve of me and my Partner. You are my family and should support me. Especially since my Partner was going to do the photos for free. Just know this is not “just a day” for me. It shouldn’t be for you. I hope you reconsider because this will have long lasting effects on our relationship.”

Ready-Zombie5635 −  NTA – 3 months would be one thing but 3 years? That’s a proper relationship. Your sister can do what she wants, but honestly, I am with you on this one.

lecorbeauamelasse −  I told her that if Alex wasn’t welcome, then I wouldn’t be coming either. She got upset, saying it’s her big day and that I was being selfish for “making it all about me.” Tell her it’s not like you plan to have a lesbian orgy in the middle of her wedding reception.

(I mean, you were thinking about it, but you decided in the end she’d probably never get her deposit back on the table linen so you decided against it.) my parents are guilt-tripping me over all the money they’ve spent on this wedding.

Tell them you feel for them, if you dropped that much cash on a wedding for a bigot you’d be pretty upset too. Ask them if they need a few bucks to make it through the next payday since you’re saving some money on not getting a wedding present.

This old queer lady salutes you for standing up for yourself and your partner. Family is what we make it, and you have found out some people cannot be relied on. Luckily, there are a lot of people in this world you can rely on, and your partner has proof you’re one of them. You’ve got this.

Survive1014 −  “I am sorry you chose bigotry over your loving sister at your wedding. I wish you well.” And then block her number, her socials and never speak to her again. She showed you what she thinks of you. She just showed you her true self. Act on it.. NTA

Here4laffs71 −  Your sister is demanding you acknowledge and respect her relationship with her partner, while denying and disrespecting yours.

BlueGreen_1956 −  NTA. A person who succumbs to bigots is also a bigot.. F**k your sister. You and Alex plan something that will actually be fun for that day.

[Reddit User] −  NTA. F**k your bigot cunt sister. She will s**t on you the rest of your life.

Temporary_Alfalfa686 −  Nta you invite the whole couple or not at all. Some exceptions (extremely a**sive stepparent for example).

ThatGuyWhoEatsBagels −  NTA, I’m pretty sure that nobody had a problem with your relationship(except your sister) and your sister was just using it as an excuse. It seems like your sister’s true identity is showing, and for your partner’s sake I would cut her out of your life.

Do you think the user was justified in skipping the wedding to stand up for her relationship, or should she have prioritized her sister’s wishes for the day? How would you handle family conflicts over inclusivity at a major event? Share your thoughts below!