AITA for refusing to get on a flight?

A Reddit user shared their experience of being excluded and disrespected during a family vacation organized by their boyfriend’s mother. While the rest of the group received first-class tickets, she was given a coach ticket and left to handle the trip logistics alone.

Feeling humiliated, she decided to leave the trip, break up with her boyfriend, and confront his mother for her behavior. This decision sparked backlash from her ex-boyfriend, who accused her of ruining the trip. Read the full story to learn more about this tense situation.

‘ AITA for refusing to get on a flight?’

My boyfriend’s parents paid for them, my boyfriend’s siblings and their SO to all go on a flight to Cabo for spring break. Becky his mom hasn’t seem to like me for some reason she always makes snide remarks about my parents blue collar jobs and my field is nursing.

We get to the airport and Becky got 7 other people first class tickets and me 1 coach ticket. She told me I was used to it and she had a free coach ticket so I should be grateful for going. They all did their express check ins and left me in the long line for me to think about what the heck is going on.

I had to keep from crying the whole time in line. I got up to the counter and there was a baggage fee to me. My boyfriend at the time never once helped me through the coach line or said anything to his mom. I looked over at his mom’s smug face as I was about to pay the checked baggage fee.

And I let all of my frustrations out on the attendant and started crying. Basically she said don’t go with that family sweetie they don’t appreciate you. Continues to cry and took my luggage and got out and got out of line with the super sweet check in woman.

I was so upset on how I was treated and started crying on my boyfriend in the airport about how his mother was treating me. I broke up with him at the airport and his mother was so embarrassed. I told her what a b**ch she was.

My boyfriend has been blowing up my phone saying how could I do that to his mother and just back out of a vacation very last minute and wasted everyone’s time and money.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Complex-Lemon-371 −  NTA, the check in lady was correct. If you would have got on the plane, you would have been treated like this for the entire vacation. It was absolutely the right decision to stand up for yourself.

As far as wasting money, she said the ticket was free and I’m sure she didn’t spend much on your hotel accommodations. As far as wasting time, you wasted enough of your own time on a relationship with your boyfriend if he isn’t going to stand up for you.

They are going to say that you should be happy for any kind of vacation and not look down on a coach ticket, but his mother was being pointedly rude to you.

mumismatist −  NTA! The fact she got seven (7)!!! other people first class tickets and yet *magically* the budget ran out when it came to you tells you everything you need to know OP. Boyfriends mom was pulling a most assholish power play on you,

indirectly saying you’re not good enough for the family by directly refusing to let you fly in first class with them. “Hahahahah let’s put the garbage in second class where she belongs” – I bet she thought she was so damn smart with that move lol.

The fact that boyfriend didn’t even speak up *once* in your favor shows that he’s so deep in mommy’s back pocket that he’s either willfully or unknowingly refusing to recognise her appalling behavior and that’s a major red flag as well. As in run for the hills red flag.

You’re on the ground right now, but in the future you’re free to soar and find someone far better than a spineless momma’s boy and his garbage family.

WillLoveCoffee4Ever1 −  NTA! Good for you! Had you gone, you would have been mistreated the whole time and I bet you anything, you would have made to feel like this vacation was a handout to you.

The mother should have either bought everyone coach, gotten you a first class ticket, or your AH boyfriend should have switched his ticket and allowed you to sit in fc. That would have been the gentleman thing to do.

OH AND YOU DIDN’T EMBARRASS HIS MOMMY! She did that all to herself and she’s feeling that way, because deep down she knows what she did was rotten and that makes her, TAH!

Shrek-Wife666 −  NTA. You got out of a really miserable situation. His mother would likely continue to treat you like second class scum, and he would defend her and allow her to do so. Breaking up with him was the best thing you could have done for the peace and happiness of your future self.

Edit: If he’s going to blow up your phone about his mom and her “waste of time and money,” block him. You don’t owe this piece of s**t family anything, certainly not free space in your head and added stress.

Comprehensive-Poet82 −  NTA. Repeat after me: Cash (or plane tickets) does not buy someone the right to be cruel, a**sive, or controlling.

kevztunz −  “Wasted everyone’s money..”? Did they forget that they told you the ticket is free?. NTA

KSknitter −  NTA. His mom was making a great parallel that she though of you as “coach” and she and hers were “1st class”. Boyfriend obviously agreed, so you are better off without him.

silly_potato_dork −  Definitely NTA…yes a free trip is a wonderful thing. But actively singling you out to make you feel like an outsider is a horrible thing to do. I’m sure if you had continued she would have spent the entire trip finding ways to exclude you or make you feel indebted to her. You’ve made the right choice to cut ties.

tosser9212 −  ” wasted everyone’s time and money.” NTA, but your boyfriend, his family, and especially his mother are totally TAH here. There’s no obligation for you to go where you’re going to be treated like crap. You have a solid reason now (beyond “seemed to dislike you”) to sever ties with all of them, and you should. Block ’em on all avenues and walk.

PurpleMarsAlien −  NTA Although I doubt his mother was actually embarrassed by you breaking up with him. His mother wanted you to break up with him.