AITA for not wanting my dad to “walk” me down the aisle because he’s in a wheelchair?

A Reddit user shares a heartbreaking dilemma: they’re planning their wedding but feel hesitant about their father, who is now wheelchair-bound, walking them down the aisle. While they acknowledge their close bond with him, they’re worried about logistical and emotional complications. When they suggested their uncle take on the role, their family reacted with outrage.

‘ AITA for not wanting my dad to “walk” me down the aisle because he’s in a wheelchair?’

About three years ago my dad was injured in a really bad hit and run car accident. He broke just about every bone in his body, and left him paralysed from the waist down. Our relationship has always been really good, but I hate seeing him in pain and admittedly try to avoid seeing him because it just makes me uncomfortable.

In November I’m getting married. I’ve been with my fiancé for 4 years and he and my dad get on really well. Naturally the discussion of who was going to give me away came up in the family group chat, and I kept silent after I realised my dad would be in a wheelchair.

We always talked about him giving me away and having a dance at my wedding and I don’t want to be reminded of what could’ve been at my wedding. I messaged my mom privately and told her I want my uncle to walk me down the aisle as we’re incredibly close.

She naturally asked why and I told her that my dad being in a wheelchair would add complications to the wedding. The walkway would have to be widened to accommodate his wheelchair and he wouldn’t be able to hold my arm or give me a proper hug. She was outraged, called me an ableist POS and removed me from the group chat. My aunt has since called me telling me my dad is absolutely devastated. AITA?

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

Froggetpwagain −  YTA! What a horribly selfish thing! You’re making your dads pain worse. You need therapy for real. Your uncle could push your dads wheelchair, but excluding him from such a powerful moment is hurting ME and I don’t know you guys. You’re acting as if you’d have preferred him to die!

His brain and personality are still intact, and look at how you’re treating him! You think he doesn’t feel the emotional pain you’re inflicting?!?! Ffs get over yourself and go hang out with your dad. You would be removed from much more than just a group chat if you were in my family

doyouevenlemon −  Omg YTA. I can’t believe what I just read.

twilightswimmer −  You’ve just broken his heart after he broke nearly all bones in his body. How does it feel to be that much of an a**hole? YTA.

Michedew −  YTA. You disgust me. Your poor father had to deal with the accident, the loss of the use of his legs, and now he learns what a horrible human being his daughter is. I hope your family boycotts your wedding for this.

Spkpkcap −  YTA. Your poor poor father. What kind of daughter does that? Regardless of what happens you just ruined your relationship with your father permanently. I can’t imagine raising someone, and giving my everything to them and getting slapped in the face like this. Your father has to live his life in a wheelchair so stop throwing yourself a pity party. This post makes me so angry. I’m lucky enough that my dad is alive and well and was able to walk me down the isle, but there are so many people who could only wish their father could do that.

noseandtoes −  YTA. And the fact that you can’t/won’t see it, leaves me gobsmacked.

LaydeAmalthya −  YTA! You should be thankful you still have your father around at all! I would have have been grateful to still have my father still be alive when I got married to walk me down the aisle or to even attend my wedding.

casualsabotage97 −  YTA youre lucky that youre dad was taken away from you in that crash and learn to enjoy the times you have with him rn.

Zoey3223 −  YTA – I read the title and my mind was made up. Then I read it and I can’t believe you. No matter how petty anyone is I could never imagine breaking my dads heart like that. You are the most Ungrateful person ever.