AITA For not thanking my BIL when he saved my daughter?

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   Susan 2 months ago

   So many are at fault here, but so glad the outcome was good.
   First, the mother should not have left her daughter unless she had specifically passed her to the care of another adult by the water, who knew she couldn’t swim. If she had, the child couldn’t have taken off the life jacket before going into the water.
   Second, saving a life is reward enough for any normal person. The BIL and his wife are crass to demand to be thanked. If you have to ask, it’s meaningless.
   It sounds like a bunch of dysfunctional people, who I would disassociate myself from.

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   Tammy 2 months ago

   Everyone that is going after OP is wrong. This story has been out before, it was omitted that the cousin removed the life jacket and wasn’t watching the child. So BIL was in the wrong for jumping down OP’s throat. OP thought she was leaving her child in good hands to feed her infant son. Shame on everyone going after her.

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   Jennie C. 2 months ago

   I want to know who took the life jacket off of a 4 year old.

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   Patti Lisenbee 2 months ago

   For gawds’ sake, thank him until the day he dies! He SAVED YOUR CHILD’S LIFE! Quit being a stupid jerk! You should have been thanking him from the moment he carried her out of the water! He breathed life back into her and prevented her from secondary drowning! Own up to your inept parenting! You should have gotten a baby sitter for the tot so that you could focus on your child in the water. What, did you want her to die so you wouldn’t have to deal with her disabilities anymore? Your husband is using his excuse of not liking that part of the family as a reason to not apologize, so he is an AH too. Make up, confess, thank him profusely!

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   Allison 2 months ago

   He said what he said as trauma response. You got hurt by his response to you about being a bad parent , so you think that gives you justification for not saying Thank You. I honestly get that you are dealing with a traumatized child but that seems like a poor excuse because it takes a moment to type “Thank you or speak it on a cellphone . Your husband’s idea is to go No Contact because the person who saved your child’s life wants a Thank You. I hope you guys would never accept a raise or bonus at your jobs. Since you obviously don’t believe in by Thanked

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   STEPHANIE 2 months ago

   She had a lifejacket and all that jazz. Get serious here…”all that jazz”…? You should have taken her with you to where you were going to nurse your baby and put it down for a nap. You almost lost a child and you are offended by the person who saved her? Saved her with some trick to expel water from her lungs? Do you not understand how serious what you did is? You are very lucky your BIL was paying attention, and never forget that. You should be groveling on your knees to thank him.

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   Mally Love 2 months ago

   I am absolutely gobsmacked at your reaction. Your BiL was probably terrified at what might have happened. I would have reacted exactly as he did. Where the heck were you? You should have taken thst criticism and outburst on the chin and apologised there and then.
   My children were all swimming before they started school. I am a strong swimmer so I taught them.
   I paid for swimming lessons for my granddaughters
   Our great grandaughters have been having water safety and swimming lessons since they were 5 MONTHS old. At 6 and 4 they can swim confidently.
   Your parents could step up and look at doing something similar.
   I feel you have done irreparable damage to your family relationships.
   As others have said, once you knew your child was fine, the very first thing you should have done was call that brother in law.
   You have no idea how wrong you are.

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   Susan 1 month ago

   You all need swim lessons or don’t go near water. Parents should have Red Cross lifesaving training. It wasn’t a “trick” clearing water vomit.

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