AITA for Not Letting My Brother’s Girlfriend Stay in My Guest Room After She Made a Scene at Dinner?

A woman (30F) invited her brother (27M) and his girlfriend (26F) to stay in her apartment, but things went awry at dinner when the girlfriend, Jenna, made critical comments about renting versus owning a home.

Despite the woman’s attempt to explain her financial choices, Jenna continued to push her opinion, insulting her for renting and accusing her of contributing to the economy’s problems. After the dinner, the woman told her brother that Jenna could no longer stay in her home.

Jenna got upset, and her brother sided with her, calling the woman’s reaction an overreaction. Now, the woman is questioning whether she was wrong for setting this boundary. read the original story below…

‘ AITA for Not Letting My Brother’s Girlfriend Stay in My Guest Room After She Made a Scene at Dinner?’

So, I (30F) live in a nice two-bedroom apartment in the city. One of my bedrooms is a guest room, and my family often uses it when they come to visit. I’m close with my brother, Alex (27M), and he recently started dating a woman, Jenna (26F).

This weekend, Alex asked if he and Jenna could stay with me while they visited the city. I said yes, of course, because I wanted to meet her, and Alex has always been respectful of my home. Things started off fine, but at dinner on the first night, Jenna made things awkward.

We were eating at a nice Italian restaurant, and while we were waiting for our food, Jenna started talking about how people who rent instead of owning homes are “financially irresponsible.” I laughed it off at first, thinking it was a joke, but she doubled down, saying it was “basically throwing money away every month.”

I calmly told her that I rent because I value the flexibility it gives me, especially since my job might require me to relocate in the next few years. She then said, “Well, maybe if you stopped spending so much money on eating out, you’d be able to afford a down payment.”

Alex looked mortified and told her to drop it, but she wouldn’t. She went on to say that people like me are “part of the reason the economy is so messed up” because we don’t prioritize homeownership. I snapped back and told her she was being rude and condescending and that my financial choices were none of her business.

The rest of the dinner was tense, and when we got back to my apartment, I told Alex privately that I didn’t feel comfortable having Jenna stay in my home anymore. He tried to apologize on her behalf, but I stood firm. I told him he was welcome to stay, but Jenna had to find another place.

Jenna overheard and got upset, accusing me of being overly sensitive and dramatic. She said she didn’t mean anything by her comments and that I was taking things too personally. Alex ended up leaving with her, and now he’s upset with me, saying I overreacted and put him in an awkward position.

I feel bad for making Alex choose, but at the same time, I feel like Jenna disrespected me in my own home and doubled down when called out.. So, Reddit, AITA?

These are the responses from Reddit users:

OwlT1me −  NTA: If she didn’t mean anything she said she wouldn’t have said it in the first place.

Mother_Search3350 −  The audacity of the girl.. She probably doesn’t have a pot to p**s in and has the nerve to lecture you on your finances. NTAH 

TightAustinite −  She can go figure it out and ‘waste money’ at a hotel. See you next Tuesday!

1lilqt −  Nope she opened her mouth, and said ” if YOU DIDN’T EAT OUT YOU COULD AFFORD, f**k her. Once mouth open and s**t come out, be prepared to eat the s**t sweets… lol

ArcherBarcher31 −  The f**king nerve of her to insult your abode, then expect you to make it available to her. If it’s good enough for her to stay in, it’s good enough for her to keep her f**king mouth shut and be grateful.

AukwardOtter −  NTA. Send a message apologizing to your brother for being unable to host them, but that he can’t possibly expect his girlfriend to be welcome in your home after spending the evening openly insulting you.

Remind him that this situation wouldn’t have occurred if Jenna chose not to be an outrageous b**ch. Then message Jenna, explaining that if she feels so strongly that renters are the problem, she shouldn’t need your hospitality and make clear that she chose being a f**king cunt over being a good guest, and this situation is entirely her fault.. F**k her.

sugaryhonney −  NTA. She was outta line and rude, especially in your own home. You don’t need to put up with that energy. Alex should’ve had her back instead of putting you in an awkward spot.

kittybbbabe −  Nah, you’re not the a**hole. She was mad rude, especially in your own home. You told her calmly, and she kept going. You set boundaries, and she crossed them. Alex should back you up, not her.

throwaway-rayray −  NTA – don’t expect to insult someone and then get free accommodation at their place. It’s that simple.

Was she wrong for asking Jenna to leave after her rude comments, or did she overreact and cause unnecessary drama? What do you think? Share your thoughts below!