AITA for not letting my boyfriend name our daughter Renesmae?

An 18-year-old mom-to-be shared a heated conflict with her boyfriend over naming their daughter “Renesmae,” inspired by Twilight. While he’s adamant about the name, she’s firmly against it, believing their child shouldn’t be named after a fictional character. Tensions flared when he announced the name on Instagram without her agreement, leading to an explosive argument.

‘ AITA for not letting my boyfriend name our daughter Renesmae?’

My boyfriend and I are both 18, and 35w pregnant with our daughter. Since the day I found out we were having a girl he was hell bent on naming her Renesmae, absolutely refuses to compromise. He’s a massive twilight fan, I personally hate it and would much rather that we don’t name our baby after a fictional character.

It kinda hit boiling point last night, for weeks I’ve been telling him we are coming up with something else becaudr I’m not naming my child that. I went onto Instagram where he had posted a picture of us and said in the caption “I can’t wait to meet you Renesmae.”

I got really really mad my this. I told him to delete that, or change the caption because I’m not naming our daughter that. He refused, saying his friends knew now so we had to stick with it. I said “I haven’t f**king agreed to naming our daughter after some stupid made up character from the worst books ever f**king made. Delete the post now or get the f**k out of my house”.

He left to spend the night at a friends and my parents who heard the argument said I should just let him name our daughter that, saying it probably means a lot to him and that I’m being an unreasonable a**hole. AITA?

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

nonanonaye −  NTA baby names fall into the “two yeses, one no” category. He absolutely sucks for the post and trying to use that as leverage to get his way. Be careful about someone who uses such a tactic. Your parents also s**k for telling you to just go along with the name. At the hospital (presuming you’re giving birth in one) I would tell the nurses not to let him sign the birth certificate without you. ETA your edit makes it even worse.. They get extra AH points for saying you should just go along with a name you don’t want nor can you pronounce.

[Reddit User] −  INFO: HE NAMED YOUR DAUGHTER AFTER THE LOCHNESS MONSTER?!?

Dszquphsbnt −  NTA. If he’s getting this bent out of shape over figuring out a name you both can agree on, then I worry about his general preparedness for parenthood. Your parents taking his side is concerning. He’s wrong, you’re right. Find a name you both can agree on. If he digs his heels in and says it’s Renesmae or nothing, then effectively, he’s waiving his right to a say. “I can’t wait to meet you Renesmae.” Also, just for clarity, the Twilight’s character’s name is Renesmee. If it’s him misspelling it, then how big a fan could he be?

NiceButton7 −  NTA. Twilight discourse has ebbed, thank God, but your daughter will cop hell for being a Renesmae, just like all the little Samwises of this world. Also, you both get a say. She’s not his daughter. She is the daughter of you both.
Renee is a pretty nice name, though.

throwawayay551 −  NTA and this is a huge warning sign. If he refuses to let you have a say in YOUR OWN BABIES NAME, how controlling is he going to be of you when you’re raising a child together? You’re 18 so yes you are an adult, and judging from what you’ve posted you’re fairly mature, but is this guy seriously the one you want to spend your entire life with?

He sounds like a 4 year old. Anyways, NTA and he needs to get a grip. It’s your baby too, not just his. When you go into labour, make sure you inform everyone that he is not allowed to name the child in the event that you fall unconscious or are taken away for any kind of emergency treatment, incase he tries to pull something behind your back. Edit: changed a poor phrasing choice.

AnnaBanana3468 −  NTA – Also, make sure you give the baby YOUR last name. Your boyfriend doesn’t sound too bright, and doesn’t sound like he cares about you. I wouldn’t bet on the longevity of this relationship or him sticking around.
In the hospital, YOU get to choose all of the babies names. As the person giving birth, and an unwed mother, you have all the legal rights.

dariamorgandorffer −  Other ppl will probably disagree with me but NTA bc I agree that that is a really stupid name and a really terrible series 😉 good luck!

PM_TITS_OR_DONT −  NTA. He may have his heart set on this name but he shouldn’t be posting on social media like that and trying to steamroll you. Your parents are out of line too. I’m sure they are just freaking out because their 18-year-old pregnant daughter looks like she might be dumping the boyfriend and trying to figure out how to deal with that. Letting him name your daughter the name that you hate is not a good idea, it’s just the easiest way out of the conflict.

If you were my daughter I would say that your boyfriend’s behavior over this name issue is a red flag and it makes me worried that he’s going to act out in the same way over and over again whenever you disagree. He’s going to be the baby’s father no matter what, so you are going to have to learn to set boundaries and stand your ground, so you did the right thing.

[Reddit User] −  NTA. As many, many, many previous posts on baby names – especially pop culture baby names – have established, if one parent doesn’t like the name, it’s time to move on to a new option. Besides, even the majority of Twilight fans I’ve encountered don’t like Reneesme as a name.

Opagea −  NTA. Standard rule for baby naming is that either parent can veto a name. And that name is godawful so you should 100% veto it.