AITA for not letting my aunt into my apartment?
A woman refused to let her homophobic aunt, Mary, into her apartment after an unannounced visit. Mary had flown from Spain, showed up at the woman’s job, and confronted her about her sexuality. Despite the girlfriend’s attempt to diffuse the situation, Mary continued to use slurs.
When the woman and her girlfriend declined to host her due to her behavior, Mary accused them of abandonment and later misled their family about being “left” at a Walmart. read the original story below…
‘ AITA for not letting my aunt into my apartment?’
My aunt (let’s call her Mary) came all the way from Spain and showed up to my job. Like, straight from the airport to my job. I am not even completely sure how she found my job, because frankly I don’t remember telling her the name of where I worked.
When she came in, she ended up telling the front desk that it was a family emergency and she used my other aunts name (this aunt lives in my state). I was freaking out completely and when I saw that it was Mary, I started freaking out even more.
She wanted to go somewhere to eat and talk (more like yell), so i ended up taking her somewhere near my place (I had another job I needed to take care of). She’s yelling at me for being gay and having a girlfriend and being super disrespectful to my girlfriend without ever meeting her.
My girlfriend ended up leaving work early and came to try to get me out of the situation with my aunt and ended up having a 45 min conversation with her. They were talking calmly, but my aunt kept calling her a d**e in our language in front of her face.
My aunt kept saying “i came all the way from Spain to talk to you and you aren’t going to let me in?” My girlfriend goes “Well, if she was excited about you coming we would’ve worked something out, but because she is freaked out and you clearly don’t agree with my life, i’m not letting you in.”
I agreed with my girlfriend, and I did not want my aunt coming in after yelling at me and telling me who I am is wrong. She ended up asking us to take her to walmart and she told my parents that I left her at the walmart.. anyways AITA?
Check out how the community responded:
fiestafan73 − NTA, but why is she even there to see you, and why didn’t you shut her down and leave her hateful ass when she started yelling at you? Aunt or not, you are not obligated to put up with abuse from anyone.
Party-Possession-310 − NTA – your aunt must be crazy to think that she can come unannounced, behave like an a**hole and then expect you to host her. Honestly, what kind of world does she live in?
You are NTA. In fact, you did super well in giving her your time and talking to her even though she yelled at you and insulted you, your gf and your beliefs. Good job, for setting boundaries and not letting her trample all over you!
ApprehensiveBook4214 − NTA. Time to go no contact. If she ever shows up like this again refuse to speak to her, tell the front desk to call the police if she won’t leave, and go back to work. Or talk to your manager and see if your work would be willing to ban her from the premises, especially after she’s not local.
Snurgisdr − NTA. The fact that she happens to be related to you does not permit her to stalk and insult you, and does not oblige you to put up with that behaviour. You went above and beyond by putting up with her for as long as you did.
xPetiteSexyPrincesss − It’s honestly wild how some people just can’t respect boundaries. You did what you had to do to protect your girlfriend and yourself! Family can be tough, but you gotta prioritize your peace and happiness. Definitely NTA for standing up for your relationship! 💪🏽🌈
No-Broccoli-5932 − NTA. This woman comes across the world to yell at you for being gay? There’s something insane about that. Also WTF about Wal-Mart? Good for your GF for standing up for you when you’re still in shock from auntie stalking you at your job!
If you get flying monkeys, just let them know this woman showed up at your job, threatened your livelihood, then called your GF unforgiveable names. The End!
Excellent-Count4009 − NTA Just go no contact, and if necessary get a restraining order against htat AH aunt.
KimB-booksncats-11 − Jesus NTA and if she ever tries this s**t again tell her she needs to leave or you’re calling the cops on her h**ophobic ass!
Upbeat_Vanilla_7285 − NTA! Who cares what she told your parents!!
Madmattylock − YTA for entertaining that BS for even 5 seconds.
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