AITA for not inviting my sister to my wedding?

A Reddit user shares their decision to exclude their sister from their upcoming wedding due to years of tension and a final straw involving hurtful comments about their fiancé. While they see this as setting boundaries for their happiness, the choice has sparked family drama, with some relatives accusing them of being petty while others support the decision.

The user is torn between maintaining peace in the family and ensuring their wedding day is a positive experience. Read the full story below to see both sides of this emotional conflict.

‘ AITA for not inviting my sister to my wedding?’

My wedding is coming up in a few months, and I decided not to invite my sister. This has caused a lot of drama in my family, with some members calling me petty and others saying I’m justified. Here’s the thing: my sister and I have never had a great relationship. She has a habit of making everything about her, and over the years, she’s caused a lot of hurt that I’ve just let slide for the sake of family peace.

The final straw was about a year ago when I got engaged. Instead of being happy for me, she made several rude comments about my fiancé, calling him “boring” and “not good enough” for me. She even joked at a family dinner that he’d probably bail before the wedding. I brushed it off at the time, but it really stung, and my fiancé was visibly upset.

Since then, I’ve distanced myself from her. When we started planning the wedding, I realized I didn’t want that negativity on what’s supposed to be one of the happiest days of my life. My parents are furious and say I’m tearing the family apart, but I feel like I’m just setting boundaries for my own happiness.

Now, some family members are saying I’m being immature and should “be the bigger person” by inviting her, while others say they understand why I’m not. I’m second-guessing myself because I don’t want to ruin family relationships, but I also feel like my wedding day should be a positive and supportive environment.. So, AITA for not inviting her?

Check out how the community responded:

Warm_Mystic −  She’s not just “annoying” or “a little difficult.” For example, she made a scene at my college graduation because my parents were giving me attention, called me crying on my birthday one year because her car broke down and no one was helping her, only to find out later she was at a party and completely fine.

It’s this constant pattern of manipulation and drama that makes me hesitant to have her there. My fiancé also supports this decision because he doesn’t want to feel disrespected on our wedding day, which I think is fair.

Sweet-Interview5620 −  NTA she tore the family apart and caused all this not you and these are consequences of her actions. Ask your family why it’s always the victim who’s told to be the bigger person and that they are the ones who constantly enable your sister to be the horrible person she is.

That no you will not let someone disrespect you or your fiance and she sure as heck won’t be invited to your wedding or allowed in your life. Thats her actions that caused this and no one else’s. How about for once they hold her responsible for her own actions instead of expecting you to allow her to treat you and your fiance crap on your wedding day. Shame on them.

Rebellious_Aurora −  NTA. It’s your wedding, not a family therapy session. If she’s been toxic, you don’t owe her an invite just because she’s your sister.

MissMurderpants −  Mom and dad, I’m not tearing the family apart.. You are. By not saying anything to sister and how terrible she is to me you have condoned it. You are the people who raised a rude b**ch and if you don’t shut up about this you can be uninvited also. You are making my wedding about sister. Stop enabling her bad behaviors.

We are both adults. We can manage our relationships. Back off. Until she sincerely apologizes to me and has shown she won’t make my wedding all about her. She’s not invited. (Tbh I wouldn’t invite her at all). Ugh I’m sorry. Internet psychology thinks sis might be golden child….. NTA.

Mirror_Frames −  NTA. It will be a disservice to your soon-to-be husband if she will be at your wedding.

ComprehensivePut5569 −  NTA – Tell your parents that they need to focus more on ensuring your sister is the “bigger person” to undo the damage they caused by raising and enabling a spoiled and entitled b**t. You should not have to tolerate a grown woman’s tantrums any longer. You are not being petty. Your sister is toxic and your family would rather have her ruin the day for you than address your sister’s toxic behaviors which is total b**lshit.

LittlexAngel_ −  I don’t think you’re in the wrong. Your wedding day should be a time for joy, not stress, and it’s understandable you want to avoid negativity. You’re setting healthy boundaries, which is important.

Perfect_Ring3489 −  Nta. Why should she be invited when she causes problems. Have pple who love you and have your back with you at your wedding. She doesnt deserve to be there. Its easy for others to judge when they dont have to put up with it.

sandcraftedserenity −  If they give you grief about this decision, un-invite them too as they aren’t really behind you 100%.

stiggley −  NTA she basically excluded herself with what she said. She wouldn’t want to be a boring persons wedding which may not happen anyway – according to her.