AITA for not cooking my pregnant wife dessert?
A Redditor is facing a dilemma with his pregnant wife. After a long day at work, he was too exhausted to fulfill her craving for a homemade cookie cake, which led to an argument. His wife, who is six months pregnant, became upset, insisting that her pregnancy should take priority over his tiredness.
Although he promised to make the cake the following day, she continued to express frustration. In his exhaustion, he snapped, calling her a “brat,” which only made things worse. Now, he’s wondering if he handled the situation poorly. Read the full story below.
‘ AITA for not cooking my pregnant wife dessert?’
I (29m) have a wife who is 6 months pregnant. She doesn’t work she wants to be a stay at home mom while I work which is completely fine. Recently her hormones (or at least I hope it’s the hormones) have been very angry towards me I’ve been trying to help her through out it and give her any craving she wants even going out at 1 in the morning to get her some lemon juice.
The other day I had a long day at work and was very tired and I just wanted to go home and sleep. When I got home my wife greeted me and then asked me if I’d bake her a cookie cake that she’s been craving because she likes how I make it. I apologised to her saying I’m tired and would make it for her tomorrow when I come back from work and bring her some panda express.
She started saying that she’s the one who’s pregnant and that I shouldn’t be tired. I didn’t answer her I was tired and went upstairs to sleep but she kept yelling at me she’s craving cookie cake and she wants it now so I told her to stop being a b**t and wait for tomorrow. She slammed the door on me and went downstairs, so AITA? Edit; she’s never acted like this before being pregnant.
Here’s the comments of Reddit users:
PJfanRI − NTA. Being pregnant doesn’t give her a get out of jail free card for bratty behavior. And you’re not in a competition about who has the right to be tired.
Allaboutbird − NTA. Yes, pregnancy is hard (and harder for some than others) but it’s not an excuse to be rude and unreasonably demanding to people you love. Just because she’s pregnant doesn’t mean you’re also not tired.
mizfit0416 − NTA – That’s not hormones, that’s pure and simple *crazy*.
Worldly_Bug_2487 − Apparently some women use the excuse of pregnancy to let their entitlement go rampant. Don’t fall for that OP, NTA. Plus this is the perfect time for her to brush up on her baking skills.
KronkLaSworda − NTA. Yeah, she’s having a kid and growing a baby, but you also get to sleep, too. She doesn’t get to yell when her every craving isn’t instantly granted. You aren’t a genie.
[Reddit User] − She doesn’t “own” tired. There are many reasons people can be tired. It sounds like you’re doing a lot to help but should be given kindness. I think it’s time for a conversation as this yelling and slamming doors needs to stop otherwise there is no guarantee this won’t continue after the baby is born. Would she tolerate a child being this demanding? NTA
[Reddit User] − NTA. Pregnancy might be an explanation for her behavior, but it’s not an excuse. She’s being an a**hole.
CanLive7943 − NTA. A whole ass cookie cake??? No.
[Reddit User] − NTA.. She started saying that she’s the one who’s pregnant and that I shouldn’t be tired. That’s simply not how things work. I know everyone on Reddit always recommends therapy, but honestly you two need to sort some things out before the baby comes. Pregnancy is a massive life change, and it’s really hard and I’m sure your wife is tired. That doesn’t mean you can’t also be tired, especially if she’s going to be a SAHM and all the weight of bringing in money is on your shoulders.
Schulle2105 − NTA she is pregnant not in a vegetive state she can handle things by herself,and even more so if she is still in the second trimester,invalidating you and your effort is assholery.If she becomes more demanding over time then you definetly need to have a sitdown
Is the user wrong for not immediately baking his wife the dessert she craved, or is he justified in needing rest after a long day? How would you balance the needs of a pregnant partner with your own exhaustion? Share your opinions in the comments!