AITA for not believing my boyfriend that “suddenly became gay” due to “the altitude difference” when he was on a work trip in Utah?

A Redditor is reeling after her boyfriend claimed he cheated with a man due to “altitude-related brain chemistry changes” while on a work trip in Utah. He insists he’s still straight and that his actions were beyond his control, baffling her even further. Now, she’s wondering if there’s any truth to his story or if it’s a bizarre excuse to cover up his actions. Read the full post below.

‘ AITA for not believing my boyfriend that “suddenly became gay” due to “the altitude difference” when he was on a work trip in Utah?’

I can hardly believe that I am writing this or that it happened, but I am and it did so here we go. I (28 F) have been with my boyfriend (29 M) for 3 years.
Every now and then he has to go to Utah for a few days because his team has a customer service branch that operates out there.

I got a text from one his co-workers who has become a friend of ours and it said that on the trip my boyfriend cheated on me with some guy on the customer care team. I did not believe it at first. Because first of all my boyfriend has always identified as straight. And second of all I just couldn’t believe it.

When he got home I asked him about it, basically expecting him to confirm it was nonsense. Instead he got real quiet and had us sit down and said he had to tell me something. He said it was true, he did have a “one night stand” with a guy. I couldn’t believe it. I asked him if he was telling me he was gay? Or bisexual? And regardless cheating is cheating.

He insisted he was not gay at all but “the strangest thing happened”. He said that when he was at dinner with his Utah co-workers, he “suddenly became gay”. I was like…what? What the f**k? He said he thinks it was “due to the altitude”.

I was like, you’re f**king with me right? But he said after he had done it with this guy, he got really confused as to how “all of the sudden he was gay”. He said that higher altitudes can have an impact on how people think, and on their emotions, and he thinks that the high altitude made him gay, temporarily.

He said that as soon as he landed back home he was “back to being straight”. I was like, did he get drugged or something? But he said that was not possible, they were always in a group at dinner which is when he “became gay” and was only alone with the guy afterwards.

He said he had done a lot of thinking on the drive back from the airport and he “confirmed within himself that he is straight” and that his “only conclusion” could be that he was “temporarily turned gay due to the attitude.”

I was like, whatever, I guess we are breaking up. He looked at me confused. I was like, gay or not you did cheat on me. He said it wasn’t his fault and that “human actions are just a byproduct of accidental brain chemistry” and that “his chemistry had been altered, through no fault of his own, due to the higher altitudes of Utah”.

He said he “couldn’t believe” I would blame him for something “medical and scientific” that was out of his control. He really looked bewildered that I was angry about this. I don’t know maybe he’s convincing and I’m a rube, but I am starting to wonder if I am overreacting.

Like…I know it sounds insane, but IS it possible to accidentally change your s**ual orientation due to emotional changes brought on by altitude? Is that possible? And if it is, am I overreacting? Should I throw away a 3 year relationship for this? He’s acting like I’m being rude and weird.. I’m confused.

These are the responses from Reddit users:

Nucf1ash −  Been to UT a ton… haven’t felt the slightest change in sexuality. You realize that he’s feeding you a crock of s**t, right? Okay. Just wanted to be sure everyone was on the same page. Now to deal with the aliens and their brain-waves beamed into my eyeballs….

Old_Till2431 −  By that logic anyone flying in a plane becomes gay for the duration of the flight 🤔🤷🏽‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️????

Alternative_Public36 −  Sounds like a family guy skit. If this is real please leave him, he’s a cheating dirtbag and potentially mentally challenged.

Catisbackthatsafact −  Even if it were possible, and it’s not. He’s telling you that he can’t help but cheat on you because “human actions are just a byproduct of accidental brain chemistry”.

Even if he’s not into dudes anymore, there’s plenty of girls he can cheat with because by his own admission, he can’t control himself when he’s attracted to someone. NTA

VegetableBusiness897 −  Was the altitude change becoz he went up Brokeback Mountain?

Fredredphooey −  NTA. I really hope this is f**e because you can’t possibly believe his craziness. Block him and move on. He’s gay. He’s trying to guilt you into staying with him because he’s buried in the closet. 

MrFantastic1984 −  Did he say it was the altitude? Or did he say he was really high?

Consistent-Tip-7819 −  This is hysterical, honestly. You could definitely run this as an SNL skit if done right. (Obviously you’re not serious, right. So, don’t mean to make light of the situation.)

Illustrious_Fly8681 −  I lived in Utah for years. Took zero cocks as an unexpected consequence…

GemGlamourNGlitter −  Let’s pretend that the altitude did temporarily turn him gay. That doesn’t mean that he had to go and f**k somebody right away.

Do you think the boyfriend’s story holds any weight, or is it just an elaborate excuse for his actions? How would you handle being in a similar situation? Share your thoughts below!