AITA For Not Baking Much For My Family

A Reddit user shares how their baking hobby brought joy to their girlfriend, culminating in her gifting him a heartfelt scrapbook celebrating his 100th dessert creation for her. However, when he showed the scrapbook to his mom and sister, they were upset that he spent so much time baking for his girlfriend instead of his family. Read the original story below…

‘ AITA For Not Baking Much For My Family’

I [16M] started dating my girlfriend 2 years ago. I also got super super into baking around that time. I bake a lot. My girlfriend loves desserts. So I’ve given her a ton of stuff I bake, all kinds of different stuff. I often try to bake something new and then she gets to try something new. I honestly love baking way more than eating it. My girlfriend is the opposite.

Well recently she gave me a scrapbook she made. She had counted every thing I baked her apparently, and she gave me this scrapbook after I baked her, her 100th dessert. It was filled with a picture of every dessert I’ve baked and pictures of me baking and her eating. She wrote a paragraph about each item I baked. Each item was dated too.

She had been working on this for 2 years. She also wrote a long letter on how proud she is of my baking hobby, thanking me for the sweets, and telling me how much she loves me. It was the sweetest gift I’ve ever gotten and I honestly cried.

I showed my mom and sister expecting them to think its cute but they were pissed. They were angry I’ve spent so much time baking for my girlfriend and not them. I just got into this habit and I loved making my girlfriend happy as well since she loves desserts.

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

vandajoy −  NTA – you and your girlfriend sound sweet and your family sounds bitter

Toxic_Flareon −  NTA. As a fellow baker f**k them. It’s really annoying when you have a skill and family thinks they’re entitled to the benefits of said skill. Had my brother’s dad expect me to make a wedding cake for his daughter at one point. For free mind you.

pisspot718 −  And look how much GF appreciated what you had been doing. She secretly made a scrapbook for you of everything you made for her. Now that is Sweet and you are NTA!

eniretakia −  Given you’re living at home and your mum and sister had to have been at least somewhat aware of the frequency of your baking (100 dishes in two years seems like roughly once a week… often enough to be noticeable) it’s really strange to me that they’re just deciding to be mad about this now. Surely if this was a real issue it could have been raised much earlier. NTA.

[Reddit User] −  Paragraph 1: wholesome. Paragraph 2: even more wholesome, why is this on this sub?! Paragraph 3: BuT wHy DiDn’T yOu MaKe **Me** DeSsErT????!!!!. NTA

xXCuntcrusher69Xx −  Aww I’m imagining a 14 year old baking and another 14 year old taking pictures and writing it all down. Warms my heart. Your family definitely won’t appreciate your baking like your girlfriend does.

uberninja25 −  INFO – who buys your ingredients? Is it your parents or do you have a job/allowance you use?

onebigcoochie −  NTA – it’s your choice to bake for whoever you want. If they want to bake/spend time with you they should ask.

Horses77 −  NTA, but your girlfriend is so cute and sweet that I can’t even focus on how big of assholes your family is.

RollingKatamari −  NTA – that was an amazing and thoughtful present and it seems like your mom and sis are being incredibly jealous

Do you think the Reddit user should balance his baking efforts between his girlfriend and family, or is it fair for him to prioritize his girlfriend’s happiness? How would you handle this kind of family tension? Share your thoughts below!