AITA for making my father re-book my wedding venue at nearly triple the original cost after my stepsister cancelled my original booking?

A Reddit user shared a frustrating situation where their stepsister impersonated them and canceled their wedding venue reservation. As a result, the venue is now demanding nearly triple the cost to re-book the same date, and the user was asked to provide a police report.

The father, reluctant to involve the police, asked the user not to pursue the matter, and in turn, the user demanded he pay the higher price. Read the full story below to decide if they were being unreasonable in their demands.

‘ AITA for making my father re-book my wedding venue at nearly triple the original cost after my stepsister cancelled my original booking?’

My stepsister impersonated me and cancelled my wedding venue reservation. She’s 18 and a jealous cow. I got the reservation for a steal because I booked early and covid made things uncertain.

Well now demand for wedding venues has skyrocketed. The venue is now asking nearly triple the original cost for the same date. They said they’ll only honor the original reservation if I show proof that my stepsister committed fraud/identity theft in the form of a police report. My father has begged me not to involve the police.

So I told him he’ll need to cover the new cost then. All of it except my original deposit. Because I’m aggravated as f**k.
He’s going to be selling some property in order to do this.

He has put down the additional deposit for the venue already though. I know he was not to blame but he houses that witch and by asking me not report her fraud ass, I can only assume he takes responsibility for her actions.

Am I the a**hole? I do feel guilty because my fiance and I are much more financially well off than my father. But I just feel like this is not my problem to fix. He did find an alternative venue that was pretty nice and wasn’t as expensive but I said it had to be the original venue. I’m just incredibly pissed off.

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

[Reddit User] −  NTA. If he won’t let you do the thing that would get you your original rate, then he can pay the difference.
Institute some kind of password system with all your vendors though. Because she WILL try this again.

baggleboots −  NTA – This is a fair solution. However, I would go to the police instead of having your father pay. Your stepsister is an adult, and she needs to take responsibility for her actions. She will continue to do s**t like this if your father is always there to bail her out. She clearly needs to learn a lesson.. ​. Edit: Spelling

shamelessseamus −  YTA for not pressing charges. Consequences serve a purpose.

Aggravating-Chef-207 −  NTA, but in future use a passcode with vendors in order to make sure only you change the plans.

pinkpepperpine −  NTA. But don’t let her get away with it, just go to the police. She needs to learn or she will do this again.

Loveisaredrose −  NTA, buuuut- That police report needs to get filed, regardless of how Dad decides to clean up after her. She’s 18, and identity theft at her age will carry a steep price, that’s why he’s asking you not to go to the police.

But honestly, that’s a disservice to your step-sister who clearly needs to learn a lesson about interference and minding her own damn business.

PinkedOff −  ESH. Her for committing fraud; your dad for asking you to cover it up; you for enabling the coverup. You should have filed a police report. You can do that without actually filing charges; it’s just an official record of it happening. You still should, IMO.

chubbywhiteboy420 −  NTA i would also uninvite your sister she dose not deserve to be at that wedding after the sabotage she tried.

Lizard_Li −  The wedding venue is the a**hole. And ESH because there is a better solution than paying the a**hole wedding venue triple the price. Either negotiate it down.

File a police report to appease a**hole venue (that is not going to result in any charge ever, like what could the charge actually be, there was zero financial gain). Or go somewhere else. A wedding isn’t so important that a father should have to sell property in order to appease his bratty daughters.

[Reddit User] −  ESH. This is going to be unpopular, but follow me here: your sister, who is an adult, did you wrong. That makes her T A. By having your father cover the additional costs, you’re insisting that the wrong person make it right.
He can’t afford it. He has to liquidate assets in a fire sale to cover it.

And he’s willing to put himself in the middle because he loves you and loves your stepsister. You’re not asking for the wrong to be made right so much as passing it down the line, and that isn’t cool.

Do you think the Redditor is justified in demanding their father cover the higher costs due to their stepsister’s actions, or should they have compromised to avoid family tension?

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