AITA for leaving my husband by leaving a note on his PS5, since it’s the only thing he pays attention to?

A Reddit user shared a dramatic breakup story where they decided to leave their husband by leaving a heartfelt note on his PS5—the only thing he seemed to care about. After years of being neglected in favor of video games, forgotten anniversaries, and emotional indifference, the user reached their breaking point.

Their carefully planned departure, punctuated by a powerful farewell note, marks the end of a relationship overshadowed by a gaming obsession. Read the full story below to dive into the emotional journey.

‘ AITA for leaving my husband by leaving a note on his PS5, since it’s the only thing he pays attention to?’

Tiny update: Yes, Dan has seen the note. He sent me a text with just a bunch of question marks and hasn’t said anything since. For the record, I took my cat, my plants, and my self-respect when I walked out the door.. Hi Dan,
Since your PS5 gets more of your attention than I do, I figured I’d leave this note here.

By the time you read this, I’ll already be gone. I’ve taken my things, canceled the utilities in my name, and paid my half of the rent for the next two months. After that, it’s your responsibility. And no, don’t bother trying to find me—I made sure to leave before your raid started because I know nothing interrupts that.

You’re probably wondering why, though let’s be honest, you’ll act like this came out of nowhere. So, let me spell it out for you: I (31F) have been married to my husband (34M) for six years, and for the last four, I’ve felt more like a roommate you barely tolerate than a wife. Your games and online buddies have always come first, and I’ve spent years being second place to a screen.

Remember our anniversary last year? I made dinner reservations, dressed up, and you…forgot. When I reminded you, you told me, “Let’s just order pizza and watch a movie or something later,” because you were in the middle of a campaign. That “later” never happened because you fell asleep on the couch with a controller in your hand.

And it’s not just the little things you forget. It’s the big ones too. Like the fact that I told you a dozen times I wanted kids, and every time you’d say, “Yeah, we’ll talk about it later.” Newsflash: “Later” has turned into never.

But the absolute breaking point came last week when I was crying in the kitchen because I found out my best friend was moving across the country, and you walked in, grabbed a drink, and said, “Hey, can you keep it down? I’m on comms.” No “What’s wrong?” No “Are you okay?” Just, “Keep it down.”

So, I’m done. I’m done begging for scraps of your time. I’m done with the constant dismissiveness. I’m done being treated like an inconvenience in my own marriage. I hope you and your PS5 have a wonderful life together. And if you ever get tired of it, maybe you can finally pause and think about the person who stood by you for all these years.

Good luck explaining this one to your mom. She always did think you were “too good for me,” right?. Sincerely,. Your soon-to-be ex-wife.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

desertrat_1000 −  You are no the AH. Just a gaming widow doing what she should. Good luck.

Various_Quit3505 −  ??? You just posted 5 days ago about gathering with your children and their spouses making you happy???

Necro_Coitus −  5 days ago, you posted about how you’re a grandmother and in a super happy and loving marriage, but you tried to delete the comment. We can still see it on your profile lmao. Stop writing fake as hell posts for clout.

FreshnessBurgers −  All he could reply with is a bunch of “???” In a text? Yeah, you definitely didn’t miss out. Good luck on your new life without him!

tahlyn −  Fake. Op post history talks about having kids and grandkids.

Wise-Ad2269 −  Tbh, I can’t blame you. It’s heartbreaking to feel invisible in your own relationship. Sometimes, no matter how much you try, you can’t make someone see what they’re neglecting. You deserve someone who prioritizes you, not a game console. Take care of yourself.

Sea-Ad9057 −  Send a copy of the note to his mother too in years to come when she has no grandkids she will know why.

MermaidMists −  Queen behavior. You took the cat, the plants, and your self-respect—\*trifecta secured\*. Leaving the note on his PS5 was poetic justice because clearly, that’s the only thing that could grab his attention. Honestly, the “keep it down, I’m on comms” line is so bad it sounds like it came straight out of a bad sitcom.

He didn’t just drop the ball; he punted it into another dimension. You did what you had to do, and I hope you and your cat are thriving. 10/10 execution on this exit.

Gaintholomew −  First of all, this isn’t a post asking “am I the a**hole”, it’s an “I’m so sassy and showed my douchebag husband who’s boss, give me some karma” post. Secondly, you don’t have a cat, [you have a dog] who you posted about 3 days ago. Third of all, all of your comments in other communities have been removed by moderators for (I’d guess) botting activity.

The fact nobody is clicking that this post is clearly AI crap written by a karma bot is alarming. One look at their post history shows you they just repost generic crap for upvotes. Brand new account, crappy post history.. I’m sick of seeing this AI b**lshit on my feed all day and everyone in the comments just eating it up. Someone even gave them silver FFS.

Perfect_Ring3489 −  Good for you.