AITA for Hating My GF’s Kids?

A 44-year-old man has been in a relationship with his 47-year-old girlfriend for 18 months. He’s frustrated with her two adult children, aged 25 and 28, who are financially dependent on them. He’s been contributing around $1,000 a month to support them, but feels it’s unfair, especially since his own children are self-sufficient.

The daughter, who has two young kids, regularly stays in their trailer, leaving it messy and damaged. He’s tried to communicate his frustrations but feels like the bad guy. read the original story below…

‘AITA for Hating My GF’s Kids?’

I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend (47F) for 18 months now, and I’m at my wit’s end with her two adult kids (25M and 28F). I’m 44, and I love her, but I cannot stand the way her kids behave. They’re both living off the government and me, and it drives me crazy.

They don’t have jobs, and they depend on us for financial support. On average, I’m shelling out about $1,000 a month to support them—money that I honestly feel could be better spent on our own lives. Here’s the thing: My own kids are grown and self-sufficient.

I’ve worked hard to get where I am, and I don’t feel like I should be supporting two adults who are more than capable of taking care of themselves. But my girlfriend, on the other hand, wants to give her kids everything.

She has this attitude that they should be able to live with us, stay in our place, and essentially rely on her (and me) for everything. Her daughter, who has two kids (ages 4 and 8), comes and stays in our 5th wheel trailer all the time. And let me tell you, it’s been destroyed.

The trailer is worth about $30k less than it should be because of the mess they leave behind. It’s filthy, and no matter how many times I ask her to clean up after herself and her kids, nothing changes. I’m constantly cleaning up after them, and I feel like I’m the one doing all the work.

I’ve tried to communicate my feelings to my girlfriend, but it’s like I’m the bad guy for wanting to live our lives without the constant burden of supporting her adult children. I love her, but I don’t think it’s fair that I’m expected to keep paying for them. So, am I wrong to be mad about this situation? Should I just suck it up and keep supporting them, or is it okay to be frustrated?

Here’s what people had to say to OP:

Hotsexygirl9 −  Why are you still in this relationship?

Mother_Search3350 −  Walk away…  18 months and she has turned you into Social Security Services for her kids..  Soon she will be asking for one or both to move into your house till they ‘figure things out’ and you will be supporting a village of deadbeats and moochers.

They have already destroyed your  5th wheel and have turned your home into a garbage d**p. . Walk away. Cut your losses and walk away from the shitshow 

grayblue_grrl −  “Am I wrong to be mad that I constantly have to pay for 2 adult children”. Why are you paying? And an 18 month relationship leads you to supporting these adult kids? Boundaries. You need some and maybe should not have moved in together before sorting this all out.

Mobile_Prune_3207 −  You don’t have to pay for them. Simply say no. Your money, your choice.

Dismal_Put9040 −  Please get out of this situation. My grandfather died this year, supporting my father and his wife, her 3 adult children and her 3 grandchildren, all of whom lived in his home. The man had no joy in the last few years of his life because of this. Please, do not do that to yourself.

Salty_Activity8373 −  Tell your gf to give them money. You don’t do that with your kids so why hers?

donjuanamigo −  102 days ago you were divorced and buying a yacht and sailing the world. So I find it quite impossible you have had a girlfriend for a year and a half. This is your classic rage bait karma farm post. I have no idea why you’re doing it. Maybe you can offer up an explanation.

Dazzling_Impress3572 −  Have you talked to her about it? If yes, how did she respond?

just_very_avg −  Well, your GF raised them. I would question wether they were raised with the right values. Apparently not.

rabbitfluff345 −  Why are you paying any of the bills for adults that aren’t related to you? Sounds like you’re being used…

Is OP wrong for feeling frustrated about supporting his girlfriend’s adult children, or is it understandable given the circumstances? Should he keep quiet for the sake of the relationship, or is it okay to voice his concerns? Share your thoughts below!