AITA for going to my cousin’s dream concert without her?
A Reddit user recounts a fallout with their cousin, Millie, over attending a concert for an artist they both love. Millie couldn’t attend due to personal reasons, but the user went anyway, sparking accusations of betrayal from Millie, who claimed she deserved to go more as a bigger fan. Read the original story below…
‘ AITA for going to my cousin’s dream concert without her?’
My cousin, who I will call Millie, and I have been very close our entire lives. A few months ago information went out about a concert for an artist that we both are fans of. I had known the artist a little while longer and was the one who got Millie into said music artist.
Originally we tried to plan and go to the concert together but Millie turned out to not be able to go. I got tickets for myself anyway. I went to the concert earlier this week and Millie is livid. She kept saying she deserved to go more than me because she claimed she was the bigger fan and it was her dream.
l though it was not as a big of dream as Millie’s, I had always been inspired by this artist and wanted to see them live. After the concert, Millie texted in a group chat with several of our friends and us to not trust me and I was a t**itor. She has settled down a bit but is still mad at me. So I need to know, AITA for going to the concert?
See what others had to share with OP:
Gullible_Bar_7019 − NTA you had the opportunity to go to a concert of an artist you like, she couldn’t. Now she’s trash talking you in a group chat? How old is she, 4?
neworderfan − She couldn’t go, why is that your problem? Nta
LingonberryNo2455 − Wth is she on? She expects you not to go because she can’t go? That’s utterly delusional. Of course you’re not a t**itor and you had every right to go to the concert. Millie owes you a huge apology for dragging other people into her problem. NTA.
AdLong7246 − NTA. You went out to enjoy yourself. I don’t think that any accusations of betrayal is fair in this case because it isn’t your fault she couldn’t go. She shouldn’t expect you to stop your life for hers.
caycayccat − No you paid for it with your own money and she threw a whole tantrum because she couldn’t go and spread rumors about you
jeremyism_ab − Nta apparently it’s not a compelling enough dream for her to take the steps to actually be able to go. Ask her what makes her think she has a say in what you do? What about all the other people who went to the concert? Did they betray her too?
The answer is no, of course, that’s ridiculous, and it’s the same for you. She is literally worthy of ridicule with her behaviour. Don’t be shy about pointing it out whenever she tries to turn people against you for this foolishness.
Canadian987 − So it’s like if she can’t go, no one can? Yeah, that’s not how life works. NTA
Clean_Factor9673 − NTA. Millie’s inability to go to the concert doesn’t preclude you from going. No idea why she couldn’t go but she has no entitlement to go and her inability to go is immaterial to whether yiu go. She’s just jealous.
CrazyOldBag − NTA. Millue sounds like the person who says, “I want lemonade, but I can’t have lemonade. However, YOU have lemonade when I can’t have lemonade, so I’ll p**s in your lemonade to show you not to have lemonade if I can’t.” Anyone who thinks Millie has a point here is as crappy as she is. Cut ALL of that negativity out of your life and be happier.
AlsoKnownAsSteve − NTA. If it was here dream she would have found a way to go. You shouldn’t have to miss out to placate her especially as you offered.
When plans don’t align, is it wrong to proceed on your own, especially for something meaningful? Should the user have skipped the concert out of consideration for Millie’s feelings, or was it fair to attend and enjoy the experience? Share your perspective below!