AITA for giving my sister 30 days notice per the rental agreement she gave me?

A Reddit user (22F) shares that she and her friend recently found a new house to rent, giving them more space and a better location. However, the user currently rents a studio apartment from her sister (26F), who had plans to move with her boyfriend.

When the user informed her sister about the new place, her sister became upset, accusing her of lying and leaving her with financial responsibility. The user gave 30 days’ notice per their rental agreement but wonders if she did something wrong by prioritizing her own living situation. Read the full story below.

‘ AITA for giving my sister 30 days notice per the rental agreement she gave me?’

So, my friend (F 23) and I (F 22) found a house that gives us our own space. I currently rent from my sister a studio apartment. My sister (F 26) has been talking about wanting to move w her boyfriend once his lease is done by next year. Her boyfriend lives an hour away.

She offered to take me with her and let me rent again, but I’d be an hour from work if I went, and the traffic is bad there so it would be even longer. We applied for the application, got the lease last night, so we told my sister last night. She gets mad at us and says we lied to her about looking to move.

I never lied to her and informed her that if there was a house that had the space I want, I’d pick that over moving with her and told her I was looking at houses in the area with my friend. She’s claiming we screwed her over and are leaving her with the responsibility of taking care of bills she can’t afford.

She makes a lot more than me which is why this house with more room makes more sense. I’d be paying less for more then I have now. She is now is being passive aggressive and giving us silent treatment because she feels we did her wrong.

But we gave her 30 days notice as any normal roommate situation would be, and are paying extra rent to make up for how long we’d stay before having to move. I truly wonder if I’ve done something wrong and hurt her, because I love my sister a lot. AITA?

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

baka-tari −  If you never committed to moving with her next year, and you also let her know you were looking for something local, then you’ve done nothing wrong.

Sis assumed you’d move with her, but had no regard for the travel and traffic you’d take on by doing so. In that you provided 30 days notice and aren’t stiffing her on the rent, you’re solid.. NTA

Due-Passenger7093 −  NTA… your sister is losing some extra income and is pissed about that… you’re not even a consideration for her

corgihuntress −  NTA Your sister had a very specific idea about what she planned to do and expected that you would do it.

She didn’t want to hear you when you told her something that challenged her narrative and now she’s angry because she has to figure out something else. It’s also possible she’s upset that she won’t be able to see you as often.

Loquacious555 −  You gave her plenty of notice, she’s just pissed she’ll need to find new tenants. I’m sure you and your friend were convenient and not much work on her end. NTA.

SweetBekki −  NTA – When you said your sister wants to “move w her boyfriend” I assume you mean they’re moving IN together and not near eachother?

If that’s the case then why is she accusing you of screwing her over by making her pay bills on her own while her boyfriend gets to live in the same household with zero responsibilities? Even if it’s just the two of you, he’s going to be round a lot more like overnights…

Eating the food, using the water and electric that YOU pay 50% for.. it’s not gonna affect your sister that much because like you said she earns alot more than you plus she’ll probably be at his place as well eating his food and using his water/electric, fairs fair right?

While you get screwed over. That’s unless you both have your own space in the fridge/freezer and you don’t touch each other’s food.. –
If you managed to find a place close to your work and also to split the bills with a friend then why not? You don’t have to worry about feeding someone else’s boyfriend on your dime.

xjoyfultal −  you told her upfront you were looking. she might feel hurt but you followed the rules of your rental. she just needs to come to terms with it.

GirlDad2023_ −  If she’s acting like a child and giving you the ‘silent treatment’, it’s a win for you. NTA.

MoomahTheQueen −  I can’t see that you’ve done anything wrong other than disrupt the plans your sister made for you. You have autonomy and she needs to realise this

ElderberryCorrect873 −  Sounds like your sister was using you

Ryuugan80 −  Info: are you “breaking” the current lease with your sister? You say that her plan was to move NEXT year, when her boyfriend’s lease was up, but you’re moving out within the month.

Did she know in advance that you were planning on moving out asap, or did you give her the impression that you would be going your separate ways once your lease at the current place was up?

Because those are 2 VERY different situations and one month’s notice might not have been enough to pay double the rent if the place you’re currently in was chosen with 2 people in mind.

Do you think the Redditor was justified in moving out and giving 30 days’ notice as per the rental agreement, or should she have done more to consider her sister’s situation? How would you handle the dynamic between family and housing arrangements? Share your thoughts below!