AITA for giving a homeless man food from my cousin’s baby shower?’
Towards the tail end of the event an old homeless man named Earl passed by and asked if we could spare a sandwich. Earl is cool, all he does is pick up trash, collect cans and bottles to recycle, and minds his own business.
There was a lot of leftover food so I made him a simple plate with a sandwich, chips, and grapes. I handed them over to Earl, who looked like he was going to cry, thanked me and went on his way.
My cousin, her sister, aunt, uncle, and guests from my cousin’s husband’s side of the family all told me I shouldn’t give food to someone who wasn’t invited, especially a b**. I pointed out that there were like 11 sandwiches, a dozen untouched croissants, and a bunch of charcuterie stuff leftover. They said if I didn’t pay them don’t give it away like an inconsiderate d**k.. AITA?.
Wow I thought this post would get like 6 opinions and that’s it.
To everyone saying nice things, maybe it’s the few beers I’ve had tonight, but you guys really choked me up. Thank you.
To the people saying I’m TA, I don’t disagree with what I did wrong. I gave food away without asking, and without chipping in. All I can say is that I genuinely did offer to zelle some money, but they thought I was being a smartass and finished with “don’t do it again.”
To everyone telling me to cut them off. I’m sorry but my cousins, aunt and uncle are people who I grew up with. Unfortunately they became super snooty after my cousin married a guy from a rich family, but they’re still my family. I’ll apologize for what I did wrong, but I’ll let them know that I’m disappointed with how they treat the less fortunate. Especially when my aunt and uncle grew up poor in Mexico. We’ll work through it eventually.
Last, my cousin’s husband is cool. He diffused the situation and got us all to move on. He’s just kinda whipped and bullied by his snobby family.
See what others had to share with OP:
Mock26 − NTA. You did something kind, something that clearly meant a lot to Earl. When they accused you of being an inconsiderate a**hole you should have taken out some money, slapped it down on the table and said, “This will cover the cost of your precious food. Now I am a considerate a**hole.”
Ok-Arrival-8975 − No you absolutely aren’t. What’d the plate cost, at the end of the day, less than 2$. I get being upset about hosting a baby shower nobody showed up too, but honestly. What are you gonna do with that much food. That guy might not have ate all week, and think about how they made him feel for the rest of the day? Not all homeless are bad, some just had bad luck. And everybody deserves to eat. Your a saint, we need more people like you and less like your cousins husband’s family.
cstarh408 − NTA – Kind old men beautifying the park and minding their own business are needed more often. Such stingy family you have. Please stay on the kind side and never join them.
whimsicaluncertainty − NTA but if they’re gonna whinge about it, give them 10 bucks and say you’re even now. Say that you didn’t expect them to be so uncaring and so uptight about helping a human being to some left over food. Then go low contact. People like that are not worth your time or energy.
Happygamercass − Wtf. Not only are they not willing to do a small kind gesture but they attacked you for doing a nice thing??? Annmnnnd they’re about to have a kid around people that think like that??? 0 empathy for others less fortunate is such a huge red flag for me.
blackwillow-99 − Wow wow wow NTA they sound extremely greedy and judgemental and I pray they are never in that situation. The next get together I would host and make sure Earl knows h is welcomed.
HouseDaddyE − Imagine being made to second guess feeding the homeless.. NTA.
jennimaes − NTA – and clearly a much better human than the rest of those in attendance.
inturnaround − NTA. He’s a human being who needed food and gratefully accepted it. You weren’t being a d**k, they were.
The food would likely have gone to waste and you did a good thing. Don’t listen to the backlash.
corgihuntress − Sometimes I hate people. What jerks. NTA