AITA for getting mad at my mum for making my girlfriend sleep on the floor?

A man’s pregnant girlfriend, Rose, got stranded on a trip and ended up staying at his mother’s house overnight. Despite the already strained relationship between Rose and his mom, he hoped she would show basic decency.

However, instead of letting Rose sleep on the couch, his mom forced her to sleep on the floor with a thin blanket, checking repeatedly to ensure she wasn’t on the couch. The man, furious, confronted his mom for being disrespectful. His brother agrees the situation was wrong but thinks the man shouldn’t escalate things. Now, he’s wondering if he overreacted. Was he out of line, or is his anger justified? Read the story below.

‘ AITA for getting mad at my mum for making my girlfriend sleep on the floor?’

My girlfriend, “Rose,” and I have been together for 4 years and she is 5 months pregnant with our first child. My mum seemed to really like Rose (or at the very least tolerated her) – but after we announced that we were expecting, something definitely switched in her.

She has become extremely rude and disrespectful towards my girlfriend. She makes passive-aggressive comments at every chance she gets. I’ve had to take a step back from my mother until she fixes her behaviour.

Rose had gone to visit her family who lives far out of town. It was a very last-minute trip, and she drove herself to the destination and back. Unfortunately, at around 6pm, her car broke down and she was forced to pull over. Fortunately, my brother, “Chris,” who’s great with cars and lives about an hour and ½ from where Rose was stranded, was willing to pick her up and sorted everything out. I was out of the country, so I’m grateful that my brother sorted everything out for her.

Chris moved back in with my mum about a year ago. Obviously, the situation wasn’t the best, especially considering the tension between Rose and my mom that exists for no particular reason, but I hoped my mum could put her pettiness aside for at least a night.

It was too late for Chris to drive Rose back home, so my brother told her that he would drive her back tomorrow morning. An arrangement that my mum seems to not like, but one that she managed to keep her mouth shut about (my girlfriend tells me)

Rose helps prepare dinner, wash up, and actually engage in a decent conversation with my mum for the first time in ages. However, they mostly avoid each other. Chris goes to bed earlier, leaving my mum and Rose.

My mum lives in a two-bedroom apartment and since both bedrooms were taken. Rose assumed that she would be sleeping on the couch.. She apparently assumed wrong. My mum gives Rose the thinnest blanket ever and basically screams at her, telling her that she has to sleep on the floor to not “ruin her couch.” She tells Rose to “make do,” with the pillows on the couch and the blanket that provides zero warmth.

Rose thought about protesting, but ultimately decided against it. According to Rose, my mum kept opening her door to check if she was sleeping on the couch, so she couldn’t even try to sleep on the couch.

At 5am, Chris found Rose on the couch and let her sleep on his bed. He ended up telling me, but told me to not make a “big fuss out of it.”. I did the exact opposite. I called my mum, very angry, and told her that she was disrespecting her so badly.

She tried to defend herself by saying, “that she didn’t harm the baby,” and “it’s okay for pregnant women to sleep on the floor,” but I Refused to hear any of it. Chris agrees with me, but told me that I shouldn’t make it a fight. I feel like I’m losing my mind. AITA?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Much-Run-80 −  NTA but I would put boundaries on the mother seeing the baby. She shouldn’t see the kid unless she can respect the mother. Edited: wow I’m the top comment. Thanks for the awards you guys. I get to tell my mom I’m internet famous now lol.

CakeEatingRabbit −  Pregnant or not- who makes a guest sleep on floor to “not ruin the couch”?. NTA

versaillesna −  NTA, and thank you for standing by your partner! And your mom is a total AH here…who makes a pregnant woman sleep on the floor when there’s other options?? Your mom definitely has some sort of grudge that she needs to get over, and quickly.

TheF0CTOR −  NTA. Who makes a pregnant woman sleep on the floor? For that matter, who makes a *guest* sleep on the floor!? If the couch gets dirty, just flip the cushions and move on with your life. Thank your brother for being the adult in the room, and tell your mom that she’s jeapordizing her relationship with you by treating your girlfriend so poorly.

Sk111W −  “it’s okay for pregnant women to sleep on the floor,” I honestly have no idea if this is medically accurate or not because it has genuinely never occurred to me that someone would even consider doing it. NTA

opinionswelcomehere −  NTA. Setting aside the discussion about pregnant women sleeping on the floor and whether the mother should have offered a bed. Your mother was checking on her to make sure she didn’t dare “ruin the couch”?! Stand up against that now because that treatment is not acceptable whether she’s pregnant or not

AwkwardAquarian −  NTA. Listen closely. Your Mom is feeling threatened because there is another woman about to become a Mom in the family. This feels like her role is being taken away and will lead to worse behavior. You have to have a zero tolerance policy for this.

Sit your Mom down and tell her that she will always be your Mom. Also tell her that if she continues to treat your girlfriend this way, it will damage her relationship with you, so she needs to knock it off. Good luck, O.P. and be firm in your boundaries.

yourlittlebirdie −  NTA you have to be a massive, massive AH to make a pregnant woman sleep on the floor. Wooooow.

elleinadgem −  Can anyone explain to me why this happens so frequently? Like, why do moms of sons act all territorial and behave as if THEY want to have their son’s baby? It’s so f**king creepy but it’s so f**king common… moms of sons, any thoughts?

Glittercorn111 −  NTA. Sleeping on the floor didn’t harm the baby, but it sure as s**t probably harmed Rose. Your mom sounds…mean…

Did the man go too far by confronting his mother, or was her treatment of Rose completely unacceptable? Should family members, especially a pregnant guest, ever be made to sleep on the floor? Share your thoughts and let us know if you think his mom crossed a major line!