AITA for “forcing” my husband to sleep on the couch?
A Reddit user shared her frustration over her husband’s reaction to her switching to pads for medical reasons.
His discomfort led to him sleeping on the couch, and now he claims she’s at fault for not compromising.
Read the full story below to weigh in.
‘ AITA for “forcing” my husband to sleep on the couch?’
This conflict is pretty recent. I (f29) used to use tampons for my periods but due to medical reasons couldn’t do it anymore. now I’m using pads which isn’t that big of a deal but my husband disagrees.
He firstly complained about me not “consulting” him first but like I said it’s not a huge deal like BC. He then said he doesn’t feel comfortable with me sleeping in bed wearing pads.
This threw me off hard because I wasn’t expecting him to have an issue on that regard, but he said it just doesn’t feel comfortable *for him* and he would like me to use tampons at nighttime or sleep somewhere else.
I laughed him off and kept sleeping on the bed while wearing my pads like there was no issue.This made him so uncomfortable he basically took the couch then started complaining about how I forced him on the couch by making him uncomfortable after he already offered me compromises.
But I told him he was being a drama queen because his compromises are illogical, I wouldn’t stop using pads and free bleed on the bed nor risk my health and use tampons when the doctor advised again them.
He’s still upset with me even though I’m no longer on my period saying I owe him for making him uncomfortable and brushing off his complaints.
Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:
oddessusss − Go buy a new bed… In a new house…with a new husband.. NTA
big_dickslap − NTA: wow just wow. He needs to grow up.
Please do not have kids with this man if this is how he treats periods. His attitude is disgusting.
And you do NOT have to consult him on anything regarding your period products Wtaf that is super controlling.
twiddlywerp − Info: what is his objection to pads? I mean, NTA, but I’m honestly curious. Does he sleep with his hand in your cooch? Have incredibly sensitive hearing?
Lurker_the_Pip − That man is choosing a really weird hill to die on. Your period is your business. Not his. If he doesn’t like it he can sleep somewhere else.
This is really off the wall behavior, watch for more things like this. Frankly, I’m a little worried for his mental health.. NTA
MadTom65 − NTA your husband is being creepy & controlling.
Kindly-Might-1879 − NTA. Does your husband actually understand how pads are used? Does he have an issue with blood in general? This is so strange. Why on earth does he need to be “consulted” about your medical issue and solution?
I think sometimes men have these weird reactions because they have a completely inaccurate understanding of how women’s bodies and menstruation products work.
Mysterious_Buy265 − NTA. Do not sleep in tampons, that is a cause of toxic shock syndrome. You know what else is toxic? Your s**tty husband. Your periods.
You handle them how you choose, what works for you, and is comfortable for you. His opinion is trash and irrelevant here.
reyballesta − there’s nothing to f**king compromise about or consult with him. it’s YOUR body. NTA.
tamires_ff − Ok, this shows that he does not care about your health AT ALL.. IT’S. YOUR. HEALTH!. AND HE CLEARLY DOESN’T CARE!
If someone that’s supposed to love me and carefor me do something like that. It would be the end of the relationship for me.
It’s not like you’re rubbing bloody pads on his face.
Spiritual_Lemonade − Has he put into words what exactly makes him uncomfortable?. Cause I’m baffled
He better never come near a woman who’s just given birth.. They basically give you a towel
Do you think the husband’s discomfort justifies his reaction, or is the user right to prioritize her health and dismiss his complaints? How would you handle a partner’s unreasonable discomfort about a personal health issue?
Share your thoughts below!