Aita for exposing my wife’s cheating and not wanting to do anything with a child that isn’t mine ?

A man recently discovered that the 5-year-old child he believed was his is not biologically related to him. He confronted his wife, who confessed to a one-time affair that resulted in the pregnancy. Feeling betrayed, he announced his intention to divorce and distanced himself from both his wife and child.

After telling family members, tensions arose, with some condemning his decision and others supporting it. read the original story below…

‘ Aita for exposing my wife’s cheating and not wanting to do anything with a child that isn’t mine ?’

So 2 weeks ago I found out that my 5 year old isn’t biologically mine, I felt so hurt and betrayed that my wife of 6 years relationship for 9 cheated on me and even got pregnant by another man, I took a paternity test without telling my wife.

I immediately confronted my wife and called her a whore in my anger and many other names, she started crying and explained that she hid it because she didn’t want to break our happy family of 3, I asked her why did she cheat on me, she explained we had a very n**ty argument back in the day so she hooked up with someone and it was just one time fling and has been loyal to me.

She said she had doubts that I wouldn’t be the father but she never took paternity she said she was happy seeing me happy and didn’t go with a**rtion for peace of our family and didn’t tell me the truth.

I told her I am divorcing and I don’t want to be in our son’s life, she started crying and begging me to not break the family and I am still his father and I have been a wonderful father and a husband I should forgive her and don’t let ‘dna’ Destroy our lives and started begging me.

I immediately left and she was blowing up my phone, I decided at first not to tell anyone else but in the end I got very angry and decided to tell everyone, everyone is pissed at my wife.

Her parents said they want nothing to do with their daughter and cut contact, my sister furiously called my soon to be ex and cursed her out, her brother and sister on the other hand said I have humiliated my soon to be ex and shouldn’t have told everyone and should have kept in between us.

Yesterday her sister called me and said I need to take her back and come back for my son, I said I don’t have a son, she got angry and started cursing me and said I am a weak pathetic man no wonder my wife cheated on me and

I am so pathetic I had to go behind my wife’s back to take paternity cause I am insecure and weak that I am giving up on my son just because we don’t share blood and I am the reason my wife is alone and depressed.

I cut her call instead I called her husband and told him everything, i said that family is full of nutjobs, maybe it runs in their blood you should take a paternity as well and don’t trust those bitches, he said he’s sorry on his wife’s behalf and we ended the call. Now I am ignoring all my wife’s and that b**ch’s calls

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

Harvard_Diplomat −   don’t let ‘dna’ destroy our lives. Oh, it was the DNA that did the destruction? Damn, Science! LMAO

Maleficent_Virus_556 −  Damn crazy how DNAs just go around ruining marriages and destroying lives like that NTA

Turbulent_Ebb5669 −  The poor kid.

HauntingReaction6124 −  sister called op a weak pathetic man and yet her sister cheated because they had an argument. She just mad that she has be the support system for a c**ater. I am also pretty sure the sister knew or suspected that the child was not op’s.

You will never know if it was really just a one time fling or she stepped out of your relationship every time you had a fight.

tbeauli74 −  NTA—Your wife had over 2105 days to tell you the truth and chose to lie to you for more than 2105 days. I was a child who was raised by a man who questioned my paternity, and it was hell on earth. He always treated my sister who was born within the marriage so differently than me.

When I found out the truth as an adult, all the n**lect and abuse I went through finally made sense…I was not his child and he knew it the whole time. I am not telling you what to do but I hope you will consider a few therapy sessions with the child to help ease the transition once you have calmed down.

You have every right to be upset, angry, and betrayed, and do not let others guilt you into something you are not emotionally able to do until you come to terms with what your wife did to you. This is why I advocate for mandatory DNA testing at birth to determine who the birth father is before signing the birth certificate.

That way both parties know from the beginning there will be DNA tests and the truth will come out. It would cut down on paternity fraud, ease the father’s mind as to the child’s paternity, and expedite child support cases because the courts will have proof at the first court date.

Salt-Finding9193 −  I don’t believe it was a one night stand. It was probably an affair. Anyway you’re right not to stay with a c**ater. What made you suspicious and take a paternity test?. NTA

IrreverentMarmot −  This has to be rage bait

Harvard_Diplomat −  Yesterday her sister called me … she got angry and started cursing me and said I am a weak pathetic man no wonder my wife cheated on me and I am so pathetic I had to go behind my wife’s back to take paternity cause I am insecure and weak … I am the reason my wife is alone and depressed. Un.hinged.

crimsongirrl −  Ugh the rage bait is unreal. F**e

Brilliant-Swing4874 −  This story seems made up to me. Nobody does a paternity test unless there’s a good reason for it. After you raise a child for 5 years you don’t just walk away like that child never happened, and don’t give it a second thought.

This story seems like it was created by a teenager who has no life experience. We are seeing a lot of these stories who seem too good to be true and implausible in real life.

Was he justified in his reaction, or did he go too far? Share your thoughts below!