AITA for eating more than my half of the groceries?

A Redditor shares their experience of living with their girlfriend and splitting groceries 50/50. While they both contribute equally to the shopping, the Redditor finds themselves eating more than their fair share of certain snacks, particularly when it comes to biscuits and chocolate.

When their girlfriend expresses frustration about the dwindling snack supply, the Redditor defends their actions, pointing out that they often replace the items they consume. This leads to a disagreement about fairness and consideration in their shared household. Read the full story below.

‘ AITA for eating more than my half of the groceries?’

This is going to sound petty and I agree that it is but my girlfriend has been getting annoyed/angry about it. We live together and split rent and bills 50/50. When we go grocery shopping we will also split that 50/50. There are some things we get the my girlfriend doesn’t eat/drink and vice versa.

When it comes to things like snacks, we’ll try to split them evenly. When things are individually wrapped that makes it easy but some chocolate and biscuits are not wrapped individually. I’ll admit that I do end up eating more of these. Mainly because my girlfriend rarely has them.

Whenever we run out of something It’s always me who ends up replacing it. Last night my girlfriend went for a biscuit and there was only two left. She got annoyed and said she’d only had one of them and the packet was nearly empty. I told her I’d grab some when I’m next at a shop but she just said I shouldn’t be eating more than half.

I asked what the problem was since I am the one replacing them. She just said it’s not fair on her since she is buying half of the groceries. I again repeated that she pays for half of the grocery shop but not half of the entire groceries as I’m the one regularly replacing things we run out of.

She just said again I’m wrong for eating more than half and I should be more considerate of her. I asked what the problem was when the food is getting replaced but she just said I shouldn’t be doing it. AITA for eating more than half of the groceries?

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

SnooBunnies7461 −  NTA but if this is something that continues to happen then get 2 boxes of biscuits and write her name on one of them. That way she’ll be able to have as many biscuits as she wants and you’ll be able to eat your entire box and replace it as needed.

dreadacidic_mel −  Idk, I barely eat sweets but if my partner and I buy a pack of something to share, I’m expecting my half to be there whenever I decide I want it. I shouldn’t be punished for not eating things as fast as him. I pay for half, half is mine.

It’s not good enough that he’ll get more later, I wanted them now, they were there, he took them and they weren’t his to take. I’d say a soft YTA. How would you feel if you had been looking forward to a snack and find it’s gone because you weren’t fast enough and someone else ate it? And then try that multiple times. I bet you’d be pissed too.

allie-echo −  I’d take a guess that it’s less about the groceries being 50/50 and more about her feeling you’re being somewhat inconsiderate eating the majority of the biscuits without checking in to see if she might want some.

When she goes to get them it’s already too late as they are almost gone and that means someone going out to get more which is likely going to happen the following day and not right when she felt like having biscuits. Maybe just communicate and check in when you’re getting low on the snacks or just see if she wants a few whenever you have some.

sun_flower_shine −  Initially I thought soft YTA, but I’ve changed my stance to just YTA because of how defensive you are getting when people talk about this behavior.
You keep reflecting back to the idea that “I replace them so I’m paying more than half”, the replacement box is not counting towards the original grocery bill.

Of course you’d pay the entire amount of the replacement box because you ate almost, if not the entire, box of biscuits. So you should be the person paying by the whole amount to replace them, that’s common sense.

Rather than getting upset about Reddit, where you actively chose to post your business, pointing out and criticizing your behavior, how about you try as one user suggested and either buy two boxes of biscuits, one for each of you, or simply stop taking more than your share.

I had a similar issue with my significant other, I expressed my frustration when he would drink all of the pop we bought or finish my pops in the fridge. You wanna know what he did? He actually made the adult decision to ask me first before drinking it to see if I still want it or want anymore of it. As simple as that our problem was solved.

thisisgettingdaft −  Perhaps she is less annoyed about the money but about the fact that when she goes for a snack, there is not much left. Also, if she rarely has them, you eat them all and then replace them and then presumably eat them all again. So even though you are replacing them, she is paying half in the first place but not getting any.

Bundt-lover −  If you’re not paying for more than half of the food, why are you eating more than half of the food? Stop eating more than your share. It’s that simple. If there’s a box of something and you already ate half of it, go buy yourself another box. Or just stop splitting groceries and each buy your own, and only eat what you buy.

Stop eating other people’s food that they paid for. If you need to get some containers and split that box of crackers when you bring it home, then do that. Only eat your half. Why is this so hard to understand? This is no different from that AITA a few days ago about the woman who made 3 pizzas and then only got to eat two little slices of her own pizza.

Just because one person has a vagina does not mean all the food is yours by default and she gets whatever scraps you leave. You pay HALF you get HALF. It doesn’t matter how long anyone takes to eat their half because it’s THEIRS and not YOURS.

PersimmonBasket −  YTA. You already know this so I don’t know why you’re asking. I expect you want us to say “It’s okay, dude, you’re a man, you need more fuel.” B**lshit. You’re a glutton with no self control and you want us to say you’re not doing anything wrong. You’re eating almost an entire packet of biscuits to yourself. You are paying 50% of the cost of the packet. She is subsiding your gluttony.

Mommabroyles −  YTA A simple solution is you buy the replacement when the snack gets down to her half and you don’t eat anymore until you have the replacement in hand. That way when she goes to get some there’s always more. Eating them then replacing them still means she’s limited on when and how much she can have until a replacement comes, while you eat everything. It’s common courtesy.

FYourAppLeaveMeAlone −  Soft YTA. It’s about timing and respecting your partner’s autonomy. If you’re acting like a teenage brother it’s unappealing. She wants to decide when to eat her half, as a grown-ass woman who doesn’t have to ask permission to keep snacks in the house. You’re consistently eating her half too, so when she goes to eat something, it’s gone.

Sure you replace it the next day but that’s not when she wanted to eat it. Leave her half alone. Just leave half of whatever it is alone. When you run out of your half, not the whole package, go and get more. If she ends up with a stockpile, mind your business. Maybe she gives you some, maybe she doesn’t. The Iranian yogurt is not the issue here.

toxicredox −  YTA. Why are you being such a petty AH, OP? You admit here that ***you eat more than your fair share*** of snacks when they’re not individually wrapped. From your replies, you fessed up that on average you’re eating 2/3 of these items. And, dude, you left TWO buscuits in the packet – which, let’s be honest, unless these are some damn huge biscuits, that’s just rude.

Your girlfriend has already told you multiple times that your current system doesn’t work for her. She feels like you are hogging the snacks (and, you know what? You are!). If she pays for half the snack, she wants you to leave half of the snack alone. What part of that isn’t computing, OP?

You make it sound like replacing food is no big deal to you. So why can’t you stop at half, then if you want more, go out and get your own replacement pack? That literally resolves everything. Instead, you’re being petty AF by playing dumb. Don’t eat her half. BOOM, problem solved.

Is the Redditor justified in their approach to shared snacks if they’re the one replacing the items? Or is it fair for the girlfriend to feel annoyed about not having her share? How would you handle a situation where sharing groceries leads to tension in a relationship? Share your thoughts below!