AITA for dropping my freeloading brother off at our aunt’s house after she called and scolded me for evicting him?

A Reddit user shared a story about their freeloading brother, who they reluctantly let stay with them after losing his job. Despite giving him months to find work, the brother made no effort to contribute and left the user footing the bills.

When they finally evicted him, their aunt scolded them for being “cruel to family,” prompting the user to drop their brother off at her house. The aunt, now stuck with the freeloading brother, is furious, and the family drama has escalated. Read the full story below to see how the situation unfolded…

‘ AITA for dropping my freeloading brother off at our aunt’s house after she called and scolded me for evicting him?’

My older brother (OB) is… a bit of a b**. It’s mean to say but it’s true. He can never hang onto a job for longer than a couple years max and when he inevitably loses whatever job he had he starts mooching off family and friends until he can find another job months later.

This entails him freeloading at their place, eating their food, using their stuff, etc. He’s lost friends because of how long he bummed off of them and I don’t blame them for cutting him off.

Well this last time he lost his job he went to our parents but they didn’t have room because they were letting our eldest brother’s (EB) family stay with them after he and SIL lost their jobs out of nowhere within the same month (EB’s entire crew was laid off with zero warning and SIL’s work burned down)

and they couldn’t afford the home they were renting anymore. So OB was pretty much SOL. So our parents, aunt, and uncle all started calling me asking if I’d take him in just long enough so he could get on his feet again. I (stupidly) let myself feel bad for him and said okay, but he only had a few months to get another job or he was out on the street.

They all said of course, of course and so he came to stay with me. And it was a nightmare. He’s a slob. He NEVER washes dishes, never washes his clothes, and eats pretty much whatever he wants. I guess since I’m his little sister he figured he could ignore me saying to get his s**t together.

Well after 6 months I told him he had to go. And gave him a couple weeks to find somewhere else. Well it seems he called our parents and cried about me kicking him out and they told him he knew he couldn’t stay forever but they also ofc called my aunts/uncle and told them all about it.

And my busybody aunt called me and scolded me for “being cruel to my brother” and “abandoning family when they need help”. I let her talk and finally said she was right, helping family was important and I’m glad she showed me that. She seemed glad I “understood the right thing to do” before hanging up.

So I followed her advice and packed my bro up and drove him to her house. I couldn’t take care of him anymore (he was running all my bills up) but my aunt made a good point, family should help each other. So I dropped him off there (she has room since all her kids moved out) and then left.

But I wasn’t even halfway home before I was getting multiple calls from my parents and aunt. Parents were demanding to know why our aunt was blowing up their phones and aunt was leaving voicemails shouting at me to come back and get my brother.

I explained to my parents and they said it was a good idea since aunt sounded like she wanted to help but my aunt called me an a**hole and said she didn’t want my brother there. And when I told her family helps each other she called me a cunt. Last I checked he’s still living with her. AITA?

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

QueenOfStolenHearts −  NTA. Congratulations, you did exactly what Reddit always advises people in your situation! “If they think helping family is so important, *they* can take care of (freeloading relative).” Good job for being kind enough to give him a chance and for being strong enough to boot him out when you were fed up.

Fun-Tourist-7395 −  NTA – YESSSS SOMEONE ON THIS SUB FINALLY TOOK ACTION AND DROPPED THE MOOCH OFF TO THE FAMILY MEMBER WHO LOVES TO SCOLD BUT NOT HELP!!!! You are absolutely iconic and I wish I could give you all the awards

and your parents agreed that the nosey aunt (who should have minded her damn business) should help? Double iconic. This is the best thing I’ve read today. What a queen. Yes you are, ma’am.

Hot_Aside_4637 −  NTA. I like your style. It’s easy to criticize without having to offer help. Auntie is in for a rude awakening.

jaysea444 −  NTA…People love to point out problems, but offer no solutions. You did an awesome job of making sure that your aunt was part of the solution.

tipareth1978 −  NTA – I pretty much want to somehow get impregnated with your baby right now even though I’m a dude and you’re a woman.

citizensfund82 −  NTA ,it was none of your aunt’s business, she wanted to meddle. And you proved a point. She could have easily just denied him a room too. You are also an adult and she doesnt need to be telling on you to your parents

Loreo1964 −  NTA. Nice move. Very clever. Next time he ends up at your place bring him directly to the YMCA.

Moorehadley −  NTA. I’m cracking up at your aunt thinking she got you to do what she wanted but her words backfired on her

W4rd3n21 −  NTA. That is a truly legendary move. Well done.

clambard −  I’m sorry you have that kind of sibling to deal with, and it was obviously horrible having him stay with you. But … your action had me laughing my head off (actually, I smiled a little while staring at my phone, but inside my head I was laughing). Well done! A clear case of NTA as there ever has been.