AITA for demanding my gf and her friend turn off the tv in a hotel room and keep quiet while I was sleeping after a 10 hour drive?
A man (age unspecified) recently embarked on a holiday trip with his girlfriend and her friend, driving over 10 exhausting hours to their destination. Upon arriving at the hotel, he was too tired to fulfill his promise to take them out for hot pot and asked to rest.
Despite his exhaustion, they turned on the TV and talked loudly, disturbing his sleep. Frustrated, he turned off the TV and asked for quiet. The next morning, they insisted he take them to the beach, but he asked for more sleep and suggested they use public transport or an Uber instead.
They later scolded him for his “sour mood,” claiming it ruined the trip. He wonders if he was in the wrong for prioritizing rest over their plans. read the original story below…
‘ AITA for demanding my gf and her friend turn off the tv in a hotel room and keep quiet while I was sleeping after a 10 hour drive?’
I’m on a holiday trip traveling from one big city to another. The trip is me, my gf, and her friend. I did the entire drive, it was over 10 hours, it was exhausting. We arrive at the hotel room, I am utterly pooped. We get into the room, I’m tired as hell and crash on the bed.
The three of us are staying in the same hotel room, but the two of them keep annoying me, saying I promised I would take them out to hot pot. It’s like, I know I promised that, but I can’t right now. I’m tired just let me rest for a few hours, I’m utterly exhausted.
I told them if they really want, they can take an uber and I’ll stay in the hotel room. They kept annoying me and I told them to stop. They start talking really loud and turn on the hotel tv while they know I’m trying to sleep, so I get up without a word and turn off the tv and then ask them to let me sleep peacefully.
We ended up getting uber eats and eating it in the hotel room by the time I woke up cause most restaurants were closed and it was really late at night. After f**king up my sleeping cycle, the next morning the same thing happened.
They wanted me to take them to the beach like I’d promised but I just wanted a few extra hours of sleep, and i told them they could take public transport or an uber. Afterwards the two of them gave me a massive dressing down about how my sour mood is ruining the trip.. AITA?
Check out how the community responded:
333pickup − INFO: Do neither of your friends know how to drive, or do you not want them to drive?
LaLunaDomina − INFO: Why are you “promising” things you don’t know if you can deliver? Why are these grown adult women unable to drive themselves to these locations? Edit: my question is not about driving ability as much as ability to find some form of transportation that is not reliant on a person unwilling or unable to drive, ie. Uber, taxi, bus, et cetera
heyitsta12 − ESH. You guys needed better arrangements and better communication. I’m not sure what discussion you guys had about the shared driving responsibilities but it should have been split down the middle. You also should have gone for some type of suite or something with a split room.
Also, sounds like you guys should have left earlier. And you probably shouldn’t have told them you would do all those things prior. It is totally understandable to be exhausted and want some rest. But it sounds like you all had plans to have some fun and under the premise you would do most of the driving.
I’m not sure how long you all are gonna be there (which is a totally different factor) but you have basically gone back on 2 different promises and you are unilaterally ruining the trip for the entire group in a way. Could you not have dropped them off and then gone back to bed?
Also, unilaterally deciding that everyone needed to be quiet while you sleep is also not cool. Again, understandable being tired but you’re also ruining their trip.
An-Easy-Guy − Wouldn’t it have been better to just get another room?
Forsoothia − NTA. I don’t understand why your gf and her friend couldn’t just uber to the restaurant and let you rest.
Dry_Topic_7333 − You sound like a lot of f**king fun to take a vacation with, my God. Yes, driving can be exhausting, but acting like driving 10 hours is the same thing as unloading trucks for ten hours is hilarious.
You understand they were in the car ten hours too and were hungry right? And then they cant make sound…on vacation. You sound awful. YTA.
Ok-Position7403 − ESH. I’d have said NTA but just getting up and turning the tv off is really rude and probably embarrassing to your GF, with her friend right there. They were inconsiderate for sure.
The reason ESH here to me is this: They could have proposed turning the tv off till you fell asleep, then turning it on low volume- but you ALSO could have proposed this. Same for sharing the driving. It you were that tired you should have switched with someone- if they didn’t offer,
that’s bad on them, but it’s also bad on you for not asking. A 10 hour drive is tough, but I do them fairly regularly and I’m never so tired that I need to sleep immediately on arrival. It’s not safe to let yourself get that tired driving.. Split driving on the way home.
Magista-Obra − A lot of d**bass comments thinking OP being tired doesn’t matter because he made some promises. Driving exhausted puts them at a higher risk of getting into an accident but I guess hotpot takes precedence over common sense and safety.. NTA.
Parking_Ad_3123 − INFO: Why cant they take the car themselves? Also a better timeline is needed. Seems ya’ll arrive in the evening, had plans, cancled that. You slept thru the evening until late enough for everything to be closed. Order and ate food. Then selpt thru the night… to then still not go out in the morning?. Ya’ll planned this out so badly.
ClamatoDiver − NTA, why couldn’t they just let you sleep and go out and eat by themselves? Yeah you might have thought you’d be up to stuff, but things change and doing MORE driving when you’re tired from driving can lead to accidents and d**th.
Was it reasonable for him to prioritize rest after a long drive, or should he have pushed through for the sake of the group’s plans? Could his travel companions have been more considerate? What do you think? Share your thoughts below!