AITA for cutting off my sister and telling her she’s no longer welcome in my house after threatening to sue me ?

OP (26F) grew up with her non-biological sister, Jane (31F), who has always had a victim mentality. After OP’s mother passed away, Jane insisted on inheriting her engagement ring despite claiming OP’s mom wasn’t her mother. Recently, OP’s dad signed the fully paid-off family home over to OP, who has been helping with payments and renovations.

Jane demanded a share of the home’s value, suggesting selling the property or forcing OP to “buy her out.” When OP refused, Jane threatened to sue. OP kicked Jane out and later decided Jane and her family were no longer welcome to stay for Christmas.

Now, Jane has turned the family against OP, claiming she’s been unfairly pushed out of her childhood home. OP wonders if she’s being too harsh given Jane’s difficult upbringing or if Jane is simply entitled. read the original story below…

‘ AITA for cutting off my sister and telling her she’s no longer welcome in my house after threatening to sue me ?’

So I (26F) have a “sister” (31f) let’s Call her Jane. Jane is not my bio sister but we grew up in the same household. For as long as a can remember Jane has had this victim mentality. Mom died when she was young, dad was never in the picture but my mom her aunt/god mother took her in.

She lived with us for 13 years before she got married and moved to Idaho with her husband. We never had the best relationship growing up but I assumed it was just “sibling” rivalry and we would grow out of it like me and my baby sister (25f) my mom passed away in 2020,

and Jane thought it was only right that she inherit my mom’s engagement ring even after declaring at the funeral that my mom was not her mom just a women who helped raise her. I then moved back into my parents home because I felt bad for my dad and didn’t want him to be alone.

After converting the top floor of our 3 story home into a mini apartment for myself Jane raised concerns that there would be no space for her to come home to during Christmases. But we made due.

My dad recently paid off the home and signed the deed over to me under the condition that he live there rent free until he dies since I had been helping him pay the mortgage and would continue to pay the taxes on the home. I dismantled the apartment on the 3rd floor,

making it once a again a 5 bedroom home, however 2 of the bedrooms my sisters used to occupy are now a walk in closet and a room for my dogs, I added a pool, a new bathroom, renovated the kitchen and turned the basement into a bar lounge area.

Once this was completed Jane asked me how we would split the sale of the home. I was confused as to what she meant. I was not selling my home. She stated that since my dad paid it off that when he died that house would go to all of us and we should just get ahead and sell the property now.

I told her I was not selling and that my dad signed it over to me. She then said she would call someone to appraise the home and I would then have to “buy” her and my little sister out. When I told her again that I owned the home, I was not selling and she wasn’t getting any money she threatened to sue me.

I told her to leave. A few weeks later she called my dad to ask what the plans were for Christmas and if I was going to be staying in a hotel since I could not be cordial. My dad told her I would not be staying in a hotel but she was still welcome to come and stay with us.

I politely informed him that she nor her family were welcome to stay and if he needed to stay with her over the holidays he could also stay in a hotel. Now she’s called my whole family and gone on a campaign of how evil I am for doing this over the holidays.

Most of my family agrees with her except a few who do not want to be involved saying that she only said she’d sue me out of anger after realizing something else was taken from her. (Her mom, her dad, my mom, now her childhood home) which leads me to believe that maybe they are right? Am I being to harsh on her after all her struggles in life or is she simply just a b**ch

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

BroomRyder31 −  NTA. It was very kind of your parents to give her a home as a child. That doesn’t necessarily mean she is entitled to inherit. Besides, your dad has already signed the house over to you, as it’s mutually beneficial to you both. That means it’s your house. Period.

But the part that really gets me is that she wants to go ahead and get it over with?!?! That is an appalling mindset. Does she care about your dad and his wishes? Where does she expect him to live? To me, that just demonstrates that she just cares about herself and is trying for a money grab. Stand your ground!

az_bree123 −  NTA. Please make sure your dad has an iron clad will. She sounds like she is going to be the type to money grab once he passes.

RJack151 −  NTA. If anyone asks, tell them the truth.

Formal_Increase6215 −  NTA she sounds like a spoiled B

Additional-Loan-4140 −  I will keep yall updated at what happens during Christmas! We have a family wedding at the beginning of December I’m sure there will be an update then. 

no_thanks_9802 −  NTA Tell those who don’t agree with you, they are more than welcome to host her for the holidays.

Clean_Factor9673 −  NTA. “Took her in” sounds like she wasn’t adopted; she’s therefore not your sister and had no inheritance rights. Your dad gave you the house for helping him and paying on the mortgage. It’s legally yours. She can sue but will lose as your dad has the right to do what he wants with the property; the house is yours.

Legal-Lingonberry577 −  No, your arrangement with your father is your business. She has no claims to anything unless he has stipulated such in his will upon his d**th. As the house is yours and not part of his estate, it’s not up for grabs. She doesn’t have a case.

Given her extremely rude & entitled behavior, you have every right to distance yourself from her. Any family members who think otherwise can pound sand. They dont get a vote and their opinions don’t matter.

Infamous-Fee7713 −  If you let her in you may find things missing after her visit. Valuable things. I wouldn’t let her in the house period for that reason.

brandndal −  So if your mom was not her mom, as stated at the funeral, that would mean your dad is not her dad. So why should she expect any part of an inheritance that would go to your parents’ actual children?

Is OP justified in setting boundaries with her sister, or should she show more compassion given Jane’s struggles? What do you think about Jane’s entitlement to the home? Share your thoughts below!

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