AITA for breaking off my engagement with my fiancé because of his creepy comments toward my 14-year-old sister?

A 20-year-old woman ended her engagement to her 35-year-old fiancé after hearing unsettling and inappropriate comments he made about her 14-year-old sister. Despite her attempts to ignore or rationalize the remarks at first, his repeated behavior—including calling the teenager “hot” and making comments about her “blooming”—led her to confront him.

When he dismissed her concerns and called her “paranoid,” she decided to leave. Some friends and family believe she overreacted and should have discussed it further, but she felt the behavior was a clear red flag. read the original story below…

‘ AITA for breaking off my engagement with my fiancé because of his creepy comments toward my 14-year-old sister?’

I (20F) am in a tough situation, and I’m not sure if I’m overreacting, so I need some outside perspectives. I’ve been with my fiancé, Charles (35M), for about two years, and everything seemed fine until recently.

A few weeks ago, my 14-year-old sister, Amy, came to stay with us for just a few days while our parents were out of town. During her stay, I started noticing some really unsettling things. At first, I thought I was imagining it, but Charles started making comments that made me feel incredibly uncomfortable.

He would call her “so hot” and would say things like, “You’re going to turn heads when you’re older,” and “You’ve got such a body on you already.” The worst part was when he said, “I’d be jealous if I were your boyfriend, every guy will be looking at you soon.”

I tried to ignore it at first, but it kept happening, and I began to feel sick to my stomach. Then, one evening, I overheard him telling a friend on the phone, “Amy’s got that look now… it’s like she’s starting to bloom.” It was honestly one of the creepiest things I’ve ever heard.

I felt like I was losing my mind, and I just knew I couldn’t stay in that relationship anymore. I confronted him about his behavior, and he immediately got defensive. He denied it and said I was being “paranoid” and that I should trust him.

He insisted that he was just being “nice” and that I was overreacting. I didn’t care. I packed my things, broke off the engagement, and moved back in with my parents. Now, my friends and some family members are telling me I overreacted.

They say I should’ve “talked it out” with him first, but I don’t see how that would’ve changed anything. So, AITA for breaking up with my fiancé because of his creepy comments toward my little sister?

Take a look at the comments from fellow users:

RantyMcThrowaway −  NTA. He liked you because of how young you were. Same applies to your sister. You made the right choice. Edit: if you’ve come here to tell me it’s a fake story, please keep scrolling cos the notifications are starting to pmo.

This story might be fake but plenty of people have replied to me with similar experiences, so hopefully there’s a lesson to be learned!

Aggravating_Ring39 −  Drop the man and the friends defending him. That is red flag on fire behavior.

TDallstars −  If a 33 year dating an 18 year old wasn’t enough of a red flag he literally sexualized your little sister. He is a predator. Run

Chaoticgood790 −  why are you surprised when you dated him as a teenager. you probably got too old for this c**ep

Legal-Lingonberry577 −  Nope – ALWAYS trust your intuition. A 35 yr old making ANY s**ual comments regarding a child is a serious red flag.

Nice_War_4262 −  15 years difference between both of you.. how long did you date? Because he does give me the ick..big time . Protect your sister you are not wrong

pigandpom −  I can’t ignore the fact a 33 year old man groomed an 18 year old child into a relationship. At 20 you’ve aged out of his preferred age and your sister is now at the age he prefers.

Ok-Analyst-5801 −  Please keep an eye on her and make sure your ex isn’t reaching out to her. Considering her age is the same as your age gap and she’s close to the age you met him I would be worried he’s a predator and would start grooming her. Fingers crossed he’s not but better to keep her safe.

Proof_Option1386 −  This is such obviously made up ragebait fantasy.

Trust and boundaries are key in any relationship. Do you think she made the right call, or should she have tried to work through it? Share your thoughts below!