AITA for blaming my dad and stepmother for my stepsiblings thinking they would get a grandkid inheritance?
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A 17-year-old girl is in conflict with her dad and stepmother after her stepsiblings believed they would receive an inheritance from their deceased grandparents. The grandparents included her stepsiblings only to maintain a relationship with her and her brother, but they received nothing when the grandparents passed away.
The girl’s dad and stepmother are upset, blaming her and her brother for not supporting their stepsiblings, but she insists her extended family is her priority. She argues that her dad and stepmother misled the stepsiblings about their status. read the original story below…
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‘ AITA for blaming my dad and stepmother for my stepsiblings thinking they would get a grandkid inheritance ?’
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The father was right to want the step siblings included in the family. The kids
were so young they had no idea there was so much disdain towards them. Finding out at the funeral that you really aren’t loved is awful for all the adults involved. This is a messy situation. And your story makes it clear you don’t like them either. You started off NTA but grew into it with thinking it was ok for people to think they were loved their whole life and not be upset when they found out it was a lie.
NTA. my stepgrandma passed away who had no biological children. My step-father was her only surviving descent yet her neighbors child stood at as the honorary grandchild. Like WTF I had been her step grandchild for 35 years!!! Boy did that one sting. I’m sure your step-siblings knew the entire time they were unwanted even if you didn’t think so. How said for them, however, that isn’t on your shoulders.
The stepchildren are in no way related to the grandparents. They are stepsiblings to their biological grandkids, they’re not step grandchildren. Why force them on the grandparents unless they were looking for a free babysitter. Don’t these children visit their own grandparents? Are the dad’s kids included in those visits? I would imagine at some time in the future there will be a monetary inheritance from the grandparents . They are the heirs to their mother’s portion of her parents estate. Her aunts have to make sure anything inherited is put away for them until they’re adults or the dad will share it or control it.
Your grandparents were mean spirited people, as are your aunts and uncles, your siblings didn’t deserve to be treated so poorly. What your Father and stepmother did was try to open their hearts to accept their family as a whole, I can’t imagine being so cruel and cold to have children in my life and not love them as they are, biologically related or not. If the situation had been reversed and your mom was the survivor and brought in a stepfather with young children would they have been the same way with her? I have relatives they don’t consider me family because my father was adopted, they are equally small hearted and pathetic. You could at least try to comfort your siblings with placing the blame where it belongs, on your mother’s shitty family.
Nta the only AHs here are your dad and step mother trying to force relationships where none existed they (your grandparents) were forced to accept your step siblings in order to see you and your brother that’s disgusting behavior on their part and they did it to be child free instead of being parents and making the steps realize they weren’t actually wanted by your mothers family to me that’s abuse and neglect on all of you children disgusting human beings your dad and step monster nta hold your ground and maybe you and your brother move in with your mothers side of the family and go no contact with your dad and that side