AITA because I ate more than “my share” of a 6 foot party sub last night?

A Reddit user shares a story about a food-related conflict that arose at a UFC party. The user, who admits to being a food lover, attended the party where a 6-foot party sub was provided along with the wings they had brought. Initially, they only had one serving of the sub, but after their wings were devoured by others and noticing the sub was left untouched for a while, they decided to eat about half of what was remaining.

Eventually, they finished off the rest of the sub. The host’s girlfriend became furious, accusing the user of being selfish for eating 3 feet of the sandwich.Despite offering to replace the sub, the situation escalated, and the user woke up to angry messages from friends and family the next morning. The post concludes by inviting everyone to watch the story below:

‘ AITA because I ate more than “my share” of a 6 foot party sub last night?’

What I thought would be a total non issue has ballooned into a huge problem and I’m up at 7:05 AM dealing with it. I figured while I wait for a text, I could post here to see if what I did was really that bad. I’m a big fat ass, there’s no way around it. I love to eat which probably borders on addiction but I figure since I’m only hurting myself it’s probably better to just live my life. I have some great friends although there is no doubt I’m the “harmless, funny token fat guy” of the otherwise pretty good looking group.

I guess that sets the stage enough. Last night my friend hosted UFC and I was invited. He got a 6 foot party sub. I also brought homemade wings that are sort of my specialty. Well of course people flocked to the food and I had basically one serving of the sandwich but people devoured my wings and I didn’t get to have a single one.

Which is totally fine that’s why I brought them but maybe an hour later I was starving. I kept eyeing the sandwich and I’d say there was about 3 feet of it left. I waited an hour, then another half hour and no one had touched it (but they were still munching on chips, pretzels and what not). So I was like s**ew it…I took about half of what was left and ate it. Then the last half sat for another 10-15 minutes and no one said anything so ate the rest. Well to be sure as I was swallowing the last bite the host’s girlfriend asked where the sandwich was.

Like I was the guilty party pretty much everyone pointed at me. I guess they’d noticed me eating the sandwich. She was furious and said that I was an incredible p** and that I had been super s**fish to eat 3 feet of a sandwich. I felt so bad I tried to explain to her that I really did wait over an hour and thought people had lost interest.

I also tried to explain how everyone had ate my wings and she said something along the lines of “you brought them to share Alan, if someone had eaten over half by themselves that’s not f**king sharing is it?” I offered to order pizza or even go get subways and she said that it was a pathetic offer because the party sub had been from a local shop owned by her friends.

I said I was sorry but the night was so tense from then on out. I woke up this morning to several texts from my twin sisters (the host’s girlfriend’s best friends) saying that I had to get my s**t under control and that everyone is really mad at me and that I embarrassed myself last night. I tried to explain to them what my mindset had been and they haven’t responded. Was I the a**hole for eating that much of the sandwich last night?

Edit: I guess I’ve been banned from responding but my inbox has 1200 notification so I can’t find out why. To answer what seems to be the most common misconception, this wasn’t a subway party sub so definitely not 4x the size of a regular sub. This is a local place so it’s about 1.5 times the width of a regular sub. Its still a ton of food don’t get me wrong but I can down 5 subway footlongs in an afternoon easily; this is probably about equivalent to that, not 12 like some people are saying.

Let’s dive into the reactions from Reddit:

dmcdd −  YTA. Eat before you go to a party so you don’t do that again. I’m also a heavy eater. I’d never even consider eating that much of something at a party or get together. Letting it sit for an hour doesn’t mean anything. Others might have just been waiting to grab it after the fight (you said in a comment you polished it off during the fight) The wings prove the point. You were bummed that others ate all the wings and you didn’t get a chance to have any – just like the people complaining about the sandwich they brought.

[Reddit User] −  If someone had eaten over half by themselves that’s not f**king sharing is it? YTA. She has a good point. You ate a ridiculous amount of food. It sounds like this is an ongoing problem based on your sister’s response.

PolitenessPolice −  YTA. If it was the end of the party (like, dead end, people are leaving) you should ask the host if you can have the rest. Just because no one touched it for an hour **does not mean** that nobody else wanted some and that you should have 4 foot of a 6 foot sub! Also, 4 foot of a 6 foot sub? That’s a little bit above loving food man, that’s greedy and gluttonous.

WhatDoYouWantNowKid −  ESH. You were wrong to have almost all of the party sub. It was s**fish. The host’s girlfriend should not have shouted at you. She caused a scene and made things uncomfortable. Your offer to order more food was a good enough apology for getting carried away with the sub. It may well be the case that you do this often and your friends are all a bit sick of it. Shouting at you and causing a scene is not the way to bring it up, but it might be worth considering that your behaviour around food might be a source of irritation in your group.

Heyotherlady −  YTA. You sound like a good dude, just one who had a bad night. Etiquette would dictate that at a party/buffet situation, there should ALWAYS be at least one portion of food left. 1.) this signals to host they had enough food. 2.) leaves possibility of someone showing up late being able to help themselves. Exceptions:

1.) It’s your close close personal family/friends and it’s regular dinner and you all know you eat like assholes and it’s every person for themselves.
2.) It’s a party situation with pizza (everyone is focused on food, “Hey! It’s the last slice! Anyone else want some? Should I order more?!” or its a party situation with dip or something, “Hey! Finishing off the dip guys! Last call!”

I know you made a last call, but as others pointed out, timing matters. I have weird food issues. I usually set out a game plan for myself once I get to a party. Also not gonna lie, I spend a fair amount of time before party trying to figure out the food situation and deciding if I need to eat before hand.
And to be honest, I also always have a post party food plan as well. If it were me, I’d try and apologize by sending another sub to their house for lunch. Not a six foot, but big enough to make them laugh.. Best of luck bro. Edit: holy crap. Thank you kind folk for the silver and gold.

[Reddit User] −  YTA or ESH. Dude, you at like 4 feet of a 6 foot party sub. That’s not good. Even if it was sitting out, you should have just had another serving, not another 3 feet!

Pussqunt −  YTA. ​ Wings are cheap. A six foot sub isn’t. You ate over half. That was their special midnight snack/breakfast.. ​ Their response was poor as it was emotional. As you know, it is really frustrating when you want to eat something, you wait until you are ready, then it’s not available (it is part of why you eat like you do).. ​Being large can inconvenience everybody in your life. But is doesn’t have to.

Think of how you affect others with your issues, try to mitigate the inconvenience you cause, and people will love you for your compassion (that is a great way to live once you loose a few pounds, too)!

AlmaReville −  YTA. What she said was right that anyone eating a majority of one food wasn’t sharing. I think you should apologize and then drop it. Your sisters are concerned because they love you. People who love you don’t want to see you hurt yourself. The sub r/loseit is super supportive if you’re interested.

[Reddit User] −  YTA. I have a friend like this. To be honest, we all know about his gluttony and are aware of it at social gatherings. Sometimes our friend circle calls him out on it when he goes overboard. Here’s the thing, I doubt this was your first offense. Your friends are sick of you eating more because you are bigger. Stop.

happilydaydreaming −  YTA. You ate 4 out of 6 feet of a sandwich. That’s a lot and is not sharing. I’ve been to my fair share of fight parties and people sometimes eat and drink more after the fight and talk about it. I would apologize a lot more, without being defensive.

Was the user wrong for finishing the rest of the sandwich, or should others have spoken up if they wanted more? How should both sides have handled the situation differently? Share your thoughts in the comments below.