AITA (and my husband) for recommending my SIL gets Botox?

A woman and her husband suggested Botox to her sister-in-law, Anne, who asked for skincare advice as part of her “glow up.” The couple emphasized how Botox improved their own appearance but noted they didn’t call her ugly.

Anne, however, felt offended, calling them rude and out of touch. Now, the couple wonders if they were wrong for offering the suggestion. Read the original story below…

‘ AITA (and my husband) for recommending my SIL gets Botox?’

My (34F) and husband (35M) have upset my sister in law, Anne (38F) by recommending she get Botox. Which to be clear we would not of done had she not asked for advice. For reference, my husband both work out regularly, and follow a skin care regime.

I have been consistently getting Botox, and other facial beauty treatments since I was around 25. My husband started when he was 29. We look natural, you would not know we had these treatments, but we are honest about getting Botox etc.

Anne has never been into these things, and has always very openly called this a waste of money and vein. Recently Anne has been going through a self proclaimed ‘glow up’, as part of this she asked me for skin care advice.

I have given Anne advice on products, but said she would be better going to see my dermatologist who I love, Anne didn’t want to spend the money. This was around a month ago.

Last night she was round and was saying how I looked a lot younger than her, I told her it was honestly probably the Botox, and that she could give it a go and it would help with her frown lines. My husband also said the same and pointed out how prominent his were before getting Botox.

Anne did not say anything last night, however today we have had a message calling us rude and disrespectful for calling her u**y (we didn’t) and that we were out of touch with our attitudes. AITA for recommending it in the first place?

Here’s what Redditors had to say:

happybanana134 −  YTA. ‘Last night she was round and was saying how I looked a lot younger than her, I told her it was honestly probably the Botox’. Perfect, open and honest.  ‘and that she could give it a go and it would help with her frown lines. My husband also said the same’ Why did you have to criticise her appearance here?

m_enfin −  you would not know we had these treatments, Don’t deceive yourselves, it always shows once you start talking. The facial expressions change

piemakerdeadwaker −  Why were you getting botox at 25???

trishsf −  YTA. You basically did call her u**y. Pointing out what you think are flaws in her appearance, especially her face is incredibly offensive. YTA.

KronkLaSworda −  NTA Don’t ask for advice if you can’t handle the answer. You were not rude and never said she was u**y. Based on her reaction, it sounds more like she was fishing for a compliment. “Oh, you’re so pretty. You don’t need anything.” and so forth.

marilynmansonfuckme −  YTA. I was on the fence, since she did ask for skincare advice and you were telling her about getting Botox yourself, but mentioning her having frown lines was rude.

Betalisa −  ESH: Don’t ask if you can’t handle the suggestions, but don’t tell someone “it would help with her frown lines”

Low-Mistake-1449 −  NTA. She asked for your advice and you told her honestly that the result she was looking for was obtained by botox for you and your husband. Frown lines are in no way a physical flaw on anybody they are a natural byproduct of ageing are not in any way u**y.

If she is unhappy with your advice she is free to see a dermatologist who will provide her with proper care but she would rather get the free advice and then get offended for no reason.

wallaka −  Advice asked for, advice given, with the corollary of “If you don’t want to know the answer, don’t ask the question.” NTA.

Aromatic_Scheme9680 −  NTA. The conversation was started with Anne stating they looked younger. OP was just giving a rundown of their routine and advice. If she’s that easily butthurt maybe dont have these conversations.

Was it fair advice or inappropriate to suggest Botox? What do you think? Share your thoughts below!