UPDATE 2: My Roommate’s (21F) Parents keep Letting Themselves into My (21F) Apartment with the spare key she gave them.

A Reddit user details a tumultuous situation with their roommate (21F), whose parents kept entering the user’s apartment without permission, making escalating demands, and even insulting the user’s family. After a confrontation involving accusations and insults, the user’s family decided to evict the roommate. This update describes the chaotic chain of events and the emotional toll of the experience. Read the full story below for more on how the situation unfolded.

‘ UPDATE 2: My Roommate’s (21F) Parents keep Letting Themselves into My (21F) Apartment with the spare key she gave them.’

Okay guys, I’m sorry for updating you guys late and for the super long post, but I want to make sure I get important details in there. My mom was home, along with my brother, my brother’s girlfriend, and her parents.

I told them everything that happened, and no one liked what they heard. My mom called my dad to tell him what happened. When my dad came home, he hugged me immediately and started crying. Me being called a prostitute and a s**t was too much for him to handle. I’ve never seen dad cry before, and it hurt me so so bad.

My mom called RM and RD and R to come over to talk. They came over immediately (they probably knew something was up from the tone of my mom’s voice, she was so close to growling). Mom was being petty though, when they came home, she didn’t allow them inside. She made them stand on the doorstep the whole time, and I could tell this was pissing RM off. Some points of the confrontation:

1. Why are you calling my daughter these names?

RM: I didn’t say anything. She’s making        up lies.

2. Why are you even in the apartment that much? You told us that you go there once a month to check on R. You also said she visits you every weekend?

RM: The kids don’t know how to cook, so I help. Also kids are busy studying so they need it.

3. Why is a 50 year old man in my daughter’s apartment?. -no answer-

4. Why are you going through my daughter’s stuff? Why does she need a lock? Why are YOU limiting my daughter’s times with her friends?. -no answer-

*I shall also mention that Roommate’s dad was SITTING IN THEIR CAR ON THE DRIVEWAY DURING THIS WHOLE CONFRONTATION*

But things got heated up really quickly. RM started insulting my parents:

– She said my mom is a bad mom because she never disciplined her children.

– she said I am unruly and that the clothes I wear are despicable (she brought up clothes a s**t ton, like this lady is really offended by my fashion sense). This annoyed my brother, and he showed RM IG pictures of R wearing more revealing clothing than me, and sitting on boys laps. RM shut her mouth about my clothes immediately.

– She then proceeded to try to insult my parent’s professions by saying they have “God Complexes”. This pissed my brother off to the brink, and he replied with ” you own 3 subways and are almost broke, but we never say anything about it.” This pushed RM OFF THE EDGE, and she leaned in closer to my brother and attempted TO SLAP HIM. This lady tried to SLAP my 24 y/o brother IN FRONT OF MY PARENTS.

They argued more, and my mom asked where the dress was again. This time, she walked away to their car, and pulled my dress out of her purse. She came back to where we were standing AND LITERALLY THREW THE DRESS IN MY FACE.

My mom had no more patience left, and back Slapped RM across her face. I’ve never seen my mom raise her hand on anyone, and I burst out laughing. Even my dad had to walk back inside to keep himself from laughing in front of RM. RM started crying and said she was going to call the cops on us.

When they left we had a big discussion: My parents were angry that I never told them about this before. They said that they got me that apartment so I could do what I wanted. They wanted me to be able to have friends over, have a place to chill, and have a place without parental influence.

However, they are very proud and happy with the way I dealt with the situation, and said calling the cops would unnecessarily escalate the situation that could be solved by talking. Thank you all for the advice. I appreciate it alot. ❤

They were mad at my brother cause they said he shouldn’t have shown those pictures of R cause now she has to deal with that trouble at home. My parents agreed that letting R live in my apartment without consulting me first was wrong on their part. My parent’s started the eviction process today.

Anyways, it may be hard to believe, but I do stand up for myself a lot. It’s just that in this situation, I didn’t want to do anything that would offend my parents because I had respect for their friendship and I didn’t want to ruin it or do something that would embarrass my parents. I learned from this, and I have growing up to do, but now that I know I have support, I won’t worry about petty s**t like this later.

I also don’t want to live alone so one of my best friends from high school is gonna be my new roommate(no, she isn’t Indian). No one is living rent free in this situation. I would also like to say that even though I wasn’t friends with R in high school, living with her for 2 years did help me make a bond with her. Idk if we can be friends after this, but it feels bad losing a friend.

Also my parents are liberal ass Indians. They have lived here in America for over 40 years. They didn’t want to spy on me at all. They don’t mind me wearing skirts or tube tops or having guy friends over.

Edit 1: I forgot to add, for those of you guys who think that my parents paying my rent and tuition doesn’t make me an adult, I don’t think it does. I’m so blessed to have parents who want to make sure that their kids graduate without debt. Also, it’s my parent’s money. They’ll do what they want. This gives me no excuse to have a GPA less than a 4.0, Js.

Edit 2: I took out the part where RM tried to threaten me with a wooden spoon to shorten the post. It was funny though..

Edit 3: I added a TLDR. I included most of the important points. If something doesn’t make sense I’ll reply in the comments.. The cops are yet to show up.

Edit 4: GUYS WE FORGOT TO ASK FOR THE KEY BACK. F**KING DAMN ITTTT

– nevermind, roommate’s dad dropped them off at my parent’s this morning. False alarm.

TLDR: My family helped and we’re getting her evicted. I THINK RM IS CRAZY and needs a MH checkup. Seriously. I am very worried for her wellbeing.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

amglasgow −  Your parents are amazing.

Salty_Royal −  Fellow Indian girl here who heavily relates to dealing with aunties with boundary issues. People who are saying this is fake must not be familiar with Brown culture lol. I’ve been following your post and so glad your parents were so supportive and it worked out for you!

nashvillenation −  Brother with the Insta is a low key hero. Mom and dad coming to your rescue and defense, no questions asked, is fantastic. I’m sure you do, but make sure to thank your parents not only for the support of the apartment, but also for their support through this evening/the process that will continue to unfold. Seems like they appreciate and value you, and you them 🙂

dieziege94 −  Anyone who thinks that because parents pay your tuition doesn’t make you an adult are snobby Americans. I worked 30 hours a week and couldn’t even pay half of my public university tuition. 30 hours a week for 4 years and I still have 35000 debt.

So don’t get hung up on those cunts telling you that. The way you handled this crazy situation alone is more mature than the people accusing you of this s**t. Whereas in Europe majority of University is free.

matchaphile −  I’m so happy for you! I’ve been following your posts about this situation for some time now and am so glad to hear that you opened up to your parents, and that they were so supportive and were able to intervene. It’s great to hear good things about parents/family for once in this subreddit lol. Congrats on your freedom from RM!

[Reddit User] −  I’m glad you finally told your parents. I’m glad they were able to remedy the situation before it escalated further! Also, having your parents pay your rent while in college doesn’t make you less of an adult. It’s good to focus on school if they can afford to do so.. Very happy for you

nashvillenation −  Mom with the backhand… Was NOT expecting that. Re; you not being a “real” adult — that’s ridiculous. No matter what, because of your family situation, you’re not going to have to financially struggle like folks whose parents don’t have the same means.

When you graduate you’ll not have student debt which will also make you able to get a house (if that’s what you want) sooner, have more savings, take unpaid internships or lower paid jobs that might provide great resume fodder, go to graduate school, etc. And those advantages only COMPOUND overtime.

Those advantages don’t make you any less of an adult. But I do think they create a situation where you might want to (a) practice active gratefulness for the situation you’re in and (b) when you’re financially self sufficient “on your own,” to pay it forward to others Source: am 30 and also lucky to have parents who helped pay for college and gave me a massive headstart on adulthood/finances

iwannabfresh −  Been making popcorn to see this desi drama pan out. Love it and love your parents for having your back.

Ty-Tea −  The audacity of this woman to attempt to slap someone in this situation makes my blood boil a little bit. Stay away from crazy!

Dark_CallMeLord −  Take some silver! This was a good read and i am happy that things might end well for you now! 🙂

Do you think the family handled the confrontation in the best way possible, or could things have been done differently to avoid such an intense escalation? How would you have dealt with a roommate whose parents overstep boundaries in such a way? Share your thoughts and opinions below!