UPDATE: I think my (22M) girlfriend (20F) might be cheating on me with my roommate.

A Redditor recently discovered his girlfriend was cheating on him with his roommate, Chet. After confronting them, she not only blamed him for “studying and sleeping too much” but also suggested they could work things out if he gave her more attention.

Ignoring her, he later found out she had moved all her belongings—not back to her dorm, but into Chet’s room. Now, both are avoiding him, and he’s left grappling with betrayal, anger, and lingering emotions. Read the full update below.

‘ UPDATE: I think my (22M) girlfriend (20F) might be cheating on me with my roommate.’

This OP: I think my (22M) girlfriend (20F) might be cheating on me with my roommate.

Basically, after I kicked my gf out of our party, I assumed we would all lay low for a few days. I was wrong. The day after the party, my roommate (I decided to call him Chet) knocked on my door and tried to talk, but I ignored him. Less than an hour later the (ex) girlfriend sends me a long text, at first apologizing, then explaining that her screwing Chet couldn’t have been avoided,

because while I was a good boyfriend, I study and sleep too much. Ok. She then told me she would be willing to work through this if I was willing to try to be better and pay more attention to her. I didn’t respond to the text. That night I had a dinner with my parents I couldn’t miss, that the ex knew about.

I came home to find all of her stuff taken out of my room. I figured ok, she got the hint and moved her stuff back to her dorm. Wrong. I noticed later when Chet’s door was open she had actually moved her stuff into HIS room.

I haven’t seen either of them, I think they’ve been out of the apartment to avoid me. I don’t even know how to feel. Honestly the breakup is so raw (even though we haven’t even really had the chance to break up) and I’m so angry at both of them, but strangely miss them at the same time.

Here’s what the community had to contribute:

[Reddit User] −  She then told me she would be willing to work through this if I was willing to try to be better and pay more attention to her. Wow, the balls of cheating on somebody and then trying to make it seem like *you’re* the one who needs to redeem yourself.

meemyjay −  I think the fact she moved her stuff into his room says everything (neither of them are that sorry). It’s normal to miss them and it will take a while to get used to it but you don’t need these people in your life. Good on you for standing your ground. Sorry it’s been so s**tty, hope things pick up again for you soon.

the-yoka −  He is not your friend, and she is a manipulative cheater. They deserve each other. You are better off without both of them! Is there a way you can move? Get out of that toxic environment and focus on yourself. Don’t let these people suck you back in and make you miserable. I am sorry you have to go through this right now. I hope you find a way to deal with all this, and leave them behind. Best of luck to you!

aradthrowawayacct −  She’s blaming you for her own choice to cheat because you study too much? She’s willing to try to work through this if you pay her more attention?. I can’t even.. You deserve better than this.

[Reddit User] −  Tell Chet’s ex girlfriend that they were cheating behind both of your backs, then invite her over to watch netflix.

[Reddit User] −  “Explaining to me that her screwing Chet couldn’t have been avoided”. HAHAHAHAH. That’s so good. I can’t help but feel the need to applaud her iron will of sticking to her guns that she’s in the right. But yes, seriously, cut her and your roommate out of your life. These people are scum and you are far too good for them.

zoomzoom42 −  Classic g**lighting in her behalf this really sucks but take some comfort in that your crazy ex gf will do the same or worse to your room mate.

tntdon −  When is your lease up? I’d do my best to leave as soon as possible. You could always go to your landlord and explain the situation. Other than that, do your best to avoid them.. You’re not at fault, they are.

[Reddit User] −  That’s a s**t situation. I had this happen during my last year of college. (Early in the fall semester, too. And I was stuck in that apartment.) My ex-gf pulled the same kind of “you don’t give me enough attention” crap (at the time I was studying for the LSAT in addition to school work).

When that didn’t work, she tried to blame it on my roommate—“he made me do it.” I was in a cross of hating and missing them both for awhile. After she started blaming the roommate though, I talked to him about it. I told him I was still pretty pissed, but also glad to have dodged the n**case bullet with that girl.

I also showed him her texts blaming him. He got pretty pissed at her about that s**t, and they split it off. Things were okay (not great) between me and my roommate after that. At least it was tolerable until graduation.

sirboogiethecat −  It’s going to be hard, but ignore them as much as possible. What terrible people!! Do you have the money to move out? I’d be looking for a new place ASAP. Sorry you’re going through this OP. Just remember those two are terrible people, karma will come around.

Betrayal cuts deep, especially when it comes from two people you trusted the most. Should he confront them or just move on? How would you handle this situation? Share your thoughts in the comments.