I think my (22M) girlfriend (20F) might be cheating on me with my roommate.

A Redditor suspects his girlfriend might be cheating on him with his roommate, “Chet.” She spends late nights in his room, insists they’re just close friends, and even received gifts from him after a fight. While he doesn’t want to jump to conclusions, the situation is making him uneasy. Should he confront her or trust her word? Read the full story below:

‘ I think my (22M) girlfriend (20F) might be cheating on me with my roommate.’

My girlfriend and I have been together since high school. We go to the same college, and she basically lives me. We live in a 4 bedroom apartment with three others guys. My roommates and I hang out a lot with my girlfriend, but she gets along especially well with one, we’ll call him….Chet.

Chet is really close with my girlfriend. When I go to sleep (I go to bed really early), she goes and hangs out in his room. When I ask her about it, she tells me what good friends they are, and goes into detail about how she just could never even imagine his lips touching hers, that it makes her sick to think about.

Part of me believes me, but part of me wonders why she goes into such detail about how repulsed she is by this idea. Recently, they got into a fight because his girlfriend doesn’t like my girlfriend. This fight ended in him buying her her favorite snacks and leaving them on our bed.

This seems like way intimate to be just a friendship to me, but I’m afraid to flat out ask her if they’re sleeping together. I don’t want to ruin our relationship over them just having a nice friendship. I don’t know what to do..

I chickened out I think because I deep down didn’t WANT to catch them in the act. Turns out I didn’t need to. I stayed quiet about it, which wasn’t too hard because I was really busy with school this week anyway. Last night, my girlfriend told me we should throw a party at our apartment. I didn’t really want to, but figured why the hell not, I could stand to get pretty drunk anyway.

So last night we invited a ton of people over, which is not out of the ordinary for us, and my girlfriend invited her best friend. It started out as just a normal party, until Chet got raging drunk and announced to everyone that he had just broken up with his girlfriend of 3 years. So, I did something sort of manipulative that I’m not totally proud of.

I told my girlfriend’s best friend, I’ll call her Kim, that she should hook up with Chet. We had all been drinking a lot, and I sort of suspected she was down for Chet anyway, and she agreed enthusiastically. Cut to Chet sitting on our couch with Kim quite literally on top of him making out. I pointed this out to my girlfriend, telling her it would be so great if our bestfriends dated eachother.

My girlfriend lost it. Like completely lost it. She started screaming and pushing Kim off of Chet, telling her she couldn’t believe both of them would do that. She ended stopping the whole party because she made such a scene, and I just stood there and watched. When she finally snapped out of it and realized everyone was staring at her, I thanked her for confirming what I already knew, and told her to get the fuck out of my house.

That was last night. I’m still sort of in shock it went down like that. I went to bed right after, and haven’t talked to anyone about it yet this morning. I don’t really know how I can look Chet in the face after this, so I haven’t left my room yet.

This Update: UPDATE: I think my (22M) girlfriend (20F) might be cheating on me with my roommate.

Check out how the community responded:

Sethw95 −  If both you and his gf have an issue with it, I think there might be something to your suspicion op.

Alu4Gobi −  As a person named Chet, I apologize on behalf of the other Chet. And he might totally be doing your GF, it’s a totally Chet thing to do.

fappit69 −  I think it’s interesting that his girlfriend doesn’t like your girlfriend. Does she have a reason for this, or does she suspect the same thing that you suspect?

DeviantKhan −  I’m curious as to how often these gut reactions are actually wrong. They seem pretty damn accurate a high percentage of time.

TheMocking-Bird −  Pretend to go to bed and stay up instead and wait a few hours. Catching them in the act will certainly clear things up. Confronting her will probably make her and him stop or be more cautious, assuming she is cheating in this scenario.

[Reddit User] −  Oh man. It’s emotional cheating and she’s overcompensating for the guilt of attraction. Liars give too many details. That’s not a nice friendship at all.

Rook8875 −  Aight dude here’s your gameplan. Go to bed, say you aren’t feeling well. She will go in his room. You enter after a bit, if it’s clear and they are just chilling go in and say that you’re feeling sick and need help so they don’t think you were trying to catch them.

If they are doing something, you caught them and then you know. The main thing you want to do is just limit the negatives out of this. If they aren’t doing anything and they see you go into the room it shows the distrust and that will impact your relationship, so having a solid reason why to go in there covers you.

[Reddit User] −  Get a baby monitor and place it where they hang out. Then monitor the situation. See what is being said while you’re sleeping

[Reddit User] −  Do you think your girlfriend would be into him? Physical attractiveness?? To me there’s no super obvious facts that say SHE’s into him as more than a friend. His girlfriend being pissed, plus him buying her candy, makes me think He is into her romantically. Keep an eye out

Anonymous573936 −  What about the other roommates other than Chet. They must know something. Also talk to Chet’s girlfriend privately and see if she suspects as well.

When does a close friendship cross the line? Is the girlfriend’s behavior innocent, or are there red flags? Should he confront her or gather more evidence? What would you do in his place? Share your thoughts in the comments.