[update] my (35f) husband (35m) of 10 years went on a ski trip with his gorgeous young family friend (22f). They just got back and I wanted to give a quick update since this sub was very helpful?

The Reddit user, who was initially concerned about her husband’s ski trip with a younger family friend, has shared a positive update. Despite her initial insecurities, her husband reassured her throughout the trip, maintaining open communication and respecting boundaries.

The family friend, who stayed in their guest room afterward, also demonstrated no inappropriate behavior. This experience prompted the user to focus on self-improvement, resulting in positive changes in her health and outlook. To learn more about this journey and the reflections it sparked, read the full story below.

‘ [update] my (35f) husband (35m) of 10 years went on a ski trip with his gorgeous young family friend (22f). They just got back and I wanted to give a quick update since this sub was very helpful?’

So Graig and Shelby just drove up to the house. Graig is getting ready for work and Shelby is actually taking a nap in our guest room since she drove most of the night. The trip went very well and they both had a great time. As for me being insecure, Graig did everything I asked of him to reassure me that there was nothing at all inappropriate going on.

He called multiple times a day and we skyped for maybe 15-20 minutes a night almost every night. I got a good idea of the room lay out and saw that even though they were sharing a suite, they both had plenty of privacy. I did have one moment early on where the reality of my husband sharing a hotel room with an Instagram model in her 20s sort took my breath away but it wasn’t Shelbys faullt.

Me and our 9 year old son were on Skype with my husband and I saw Shelby in the background wearing a swimsuit getting ready to go to the hottub. When she realized my son was on skype (they have a very playful, almost “flirty” relationship) she leaned over my husbands shoulder and said something like “Hey AJ, I’m going to destroy you in HALO when I get back.”

But her boobs were basically right on graig’s shoulder with her ample cleavage in full view. In my brain I was thinking “buster if your eyes so much as look left…it’s over.” But Graig didn’t even flinch which made me realize that to him seeing Shelby in a bikini really is like seeing his sister or cousin. So all in all they had a great time.

Graig has since left for work and I’m sure I’ll chat more with Shelby when she wakes up for her drive across town. As for me I’ve spent the last two weeks really dedicating my self to lose weight, get healthy and be passionate about something again. I’ve signed up for a 60 day challenge at our local hot yoga studio and have been going every day.

I’ve started using myfitnesspal to count calories (I’m astonished at how much I was actually mindlessly eating for years). And in two weeks I’ve lost just under 5lbs which makes me feel really great.

Here’s how people reacted to the post:

PhilaDopephia −  I’m happy you two communicated and built a ton of trust out of this trip. Good for you!

Surprisedtohaveajob −  Good for you. From Personal experience, I can tell you that the children of close friends, especially old family friends, can become like family. You have seen them from being a newborn, and as they have gone through childhood.

Sometimes it can be hard to see them as anything but the cute kid that ran around in diapers. They may have grown into an “instagram model”, but you still remember them as the kid who fell asleep at the kitchen table, while visiting with their parents.

ThatRedHairedGirl −  Well I’m glad everything turned out ok. I’d still be very uncomfortable if my SO went on a trip with another person like that unless they ARE family. I think you had a right to be so freaked out.

RosieFudge −  I think you should be pretty proud of yourself lady 🙂 Good luck with the weight loss and life in general!

Exessen −  I have an issue with the OP. You keep referring to Shelby as if all there is to her is a hot young body. Like seriously you don’t trust your husband because of YOUR own insecurities.

Offthepoint −  Sorry, I just don’t like this scenario. It’s so strange that everyone’s ok with this.

bootz55 −  Firstly, super stoked for you. It sounds like you and your husband are communicating better and better, and (even more impressively) you’re rededicating yourself to improving your mind and body for yourself. Get after it, girl! Secondly, what the hell is “hot yoga?”

jslondon85 −  This sub is weird. I like the implication that this dude would just f**k his “like a sister” family friend. If someone implied that I was going to bang someone that I saw as a sister, I probably wouldn’t talk that that person again. The fact that this implication came from his wife is absurd. This was all about her insecurities.

I spent the weekend at a cabin with some old friends. It was a last minute invite, and my wife, knowing she wouldn’t be able to go because we didn’t have someone to watch our dog, encouraged me to go up because I hadn’t seen these people in a long time. It was a group, and there were women present.

In fact, I had a bunch of beers while sitting in a hot tub occupied by myself and three other women. According to this sub, I should have been a cheating machine because, you know, I’m not an adult person in a committed relationship who has a modicum of self control.

The people still freaking out about this guy going up with a family friend are probably projecting their own experiences/trust issues into this conversation. We should start requiring people to have flair regarding their relationship statuses. It might cut down on all the double-standards and projection that permeates these comments.

Zykium −  You’re avoiding the most important detail. DID she smash AJ in Halo?

[Reddit User] −  Is this bizarro world r/relationships??