I [19f] found out that my boyfriend [21m] beat up my ex [18m] and I am so angry I’m shaking

A Redditor (19F) shares her turmoil after discovering that her boyfriend (21M) violently attacked her ex-boyfriend (18M), who had done nothing to provoke the incident. When confronted, her boyfriend turned the situation around, accusing her of not loving him. She’s left questioning whether to end the relationship or try to work through it. Read the full story below:

‘ I [19f] found out that my boyfriend [21m] beat up my ex [18m] and I am so angry I’m shaking’

I’m so enraged I don’t know what to do. My ex has never done anything to my boyfriend at all. My boyfriend just doesn’t like him because he used to date me. The reason my ex and I broke up is because he has a lot of issues to deal with that I just can’t help him with. We didn’t end on bad terms.

I found out through my sister’s boyfriend that my boyfriend just walked up to him and started beating the crap out of him and no one thought to help. I know my ex and I know that he isn’t a fighter. He keeps to himself most of the time, he’s never had to defend himself in his life and the thought of someone just beating on him for no reason pisses me off.

When my boyfriend came to my house earlier, I went off on him! Now he’s angry at me for “defending” my ex and is claiming that I don’t love him. I don’t know if I should break up with him or try and fix things. I need some advice. This is too much.

Here’s the comments of Reddit users:

YourFriendMaryGrace −  Hell yes you should break up with him. He violently assaulted someone who has done him no harm. Please get out before he decides you deserve to be beaten too.

Usrname52 −  Break up with him and encourage your ex to call the cops.

[Reddit User] −  You need to pack your bags and run. Things can only escalate if his violent behavior can be triggered by such a minor threat.

everyoneis_gay −  Your boyfriend *violently assaulted* someone with **no reason** other than the fact that he used to date you. Break up – **not in person**, leave first and break up over message from a distance. Encourage your ex to file a police report.

EarlGreyhair −  Break up with this guy. I can’t believe you would consider trying to fix things with him. Anyone who would beat the crap out of someone else, unprovoked and simply because they used to date their current partner is a straight up bad person. You can’t fix him. Break up with this terrible guy and go and see how your ex is holding up. If he wants to press charges against his attacker, support him in that.

Mackntish −  Yeah, you’re in a lot of danger here. I’m trying not to panic you while still conveying the severity of the situation. Your BF just showed EXTREME jealousy and a willingness to beat someone without reason. You know how your mind goes crazy when you break up with someone?

Like you just keep replaying old episodes in your head over and over. Maybe you could have done *this* differently or *that.* You just obsess and obsess and obsess. When you break up with him over this, he’s going to do that. But with that extreme jealousy. He’ll jealously obsess over the situation until (in his mind) the only reason you are acting this way is because you’re f**king your ex.

No, you’ve been cheating on him with your ex this entire time. And when he does that, I don’t see any limit on what he would or wouldn’t do to you. Including beating or killing you. I’m a complete stranger, and this post probably has 0 f**king upvotes on reddit.

Despite that, please please please treat this situation with the seriousness it deserves. There’s a 99% chance I am wrong, but if there’s even a 1% chance of me being right, you should proceed with extreme caution.

nationalhipster −  Good god! D**p him yesterday!!!! And call the police!!!!!

helendestroy −  Break up. Next time it could be you.

javanator999 −  You should file a police report.

iSoReddit −  Surely you mean ex boyfriend now? Wht would you still be dating this piece of garbage?

This situation highlights serious concerns about respect, violence, and boundaries in relationships. Should she break up with him over this, or is there a way to salvage the relationship? What would you do in her place? Share your thoughts below!