[UPDATE] My FIL (50sM) took a swing at me (24F) while I was in labor
The woman (24F) whose father-in-law (50sM) attempted to hit her during labor has provided an update. After reflecting on the situation, she and her husband (27M) made the decision to go no-contact with her FIL for the safety and well-being of their family. The couple agreed to call the police if FIL ever shows up uninvited and are considering filing a police report about the incident at the hospital.
The supportive MIL is aware of their decision and remains in their lives. The woman also clarified misinformation regarding accusations from her FIL about their intentions for the baby, emphasizing those claims were false and baseless.
For those who want to read the previous part: https://aita.pics/GGGMI
‘ [UPDATE] My FIL (50sM) took a swing at me (24F) while I was in labor’
My husband actually approached me about this before I had a moment to talk to him. I’ve been a mess, to be honest. But you all are right, I know I have to cut my father in law out of my life, regardless of the cost. Thankfully, my husband had come to the same conclusion.
We talked, and I cried, and he cried, and we agreed it would only hurt our daughter and our future other children to keep this man in our lives. We contacted my MIL, and she is aware of our stance. We are officially no contact with my FIL, and if he shows up at the house, we will call the police and pursue prosecution.
We’re still considering filing a police report about what happened at the hospital. Some clarification, because I have stupid sleep deprived brain and have a hard time writing, and have been getting pretty serious hate mail over this bit of bad writing: No, husband and I would not have aborted a boy. My FIL accused us of that but that is not and would never have been the case.
Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:
BallsMcGeezer − Ugh. Who would read your first post and think you *actually meant you would abort a male fetus*? Reading comprehension (and an understanding of context!) is important! I’m so sorry you had to go through this,
but I think you’re making the right decision for you, your husband, your baby, and futurelings. Your FIL is dangerous. My father is a lot like your FIL and going NC as a teen is the only thing that saved me from him.. Good luck with your life, OP!
altonbrownfan − Guys reading the previous post OP got a ton of s**t. Shes a victim of domestic abuse and so its harder for her to understand just how wrong this a**hole is. But she did it and her husband did his job. Good job all around.
MissTheWire − You are doing the right thing for you AND your daughter. Good luck. It was clear in your first post that you had not aborted and that this was some delusion of your IL. If people are going to be gross and hateful, they should at least read the posts properly.
livingflying − I’m glad your husband came to this conclusion on his own. I wish you guys all the best. Enjoy your new baby.
ruetaine − English is not my first language and I don’t live in an anglophone country. Yet, by reading this: Even to the point of telling him we didn’t want to find out about the s** of the baby because if it was a boy I’d probably abort. I would never have come to the conclusion that you’d abort a baby boy. It was obvious that you were talking about your FIL telling this. So, I’m sorry for the hate mails you got…
[Reddit User] − This was a good update! Congratulations on you and your husband in reaching a mutual decision and having a proactive plan put in place. Well done!
MsPearlSnaps − Really proud of you OP. This isn’t the easy course of action but it is the right one. I would encourage you to please go forward with the police report, having official documentation is really important, and also please consider getting an actual restraining/protection order.
Olyvyr − I’m a fan of paper trails. Go ahead and file a police report. You don’t have to follow through with charges but it *will* help if anything ever happens again.
[Reddit User] − It’s awful that it was neccessary for you to clarify that you would not abort a boy. Stay strong, you’re doing the right thing here.
Sanhael − We are still considering filing a police report about… Do. Now. Not to be an ass, seriously, but this isn’t something you can just do whenever at your convenience. You do it when it happens. If you’re still wanting to do it, get up from reading this post and go do it.
If this comes down to court, they will ask why you waited. By the time somebody actually asks that, they don’t care what the answer is. They’ll use it against you. While you’re at it, get a restraining order. I can’t believe that a grown-ass man would act like this. I’m happy for you, and your husband, and your daughter, that you have each other. Best wishes for the future, sincerely.
reaking ties with toxic family members is never an easy decision, especially when it impacts relationships with others. This couple prioritized their child’s safety and emotional well-being, showing great courage in a challenging situation. How do you approach setting boundaries with difficult family members? Share your thoughts below!