AITA for dropping him and his daughter off at a rental car place states away from home?

A Redditor shared her frustration after what was supposed to be a fun road trip with her two sons turned into a disaster when her boyfriend and his disrespectful daughter tagged along. The boyfriend’s daughter, Ann, complained nonstop, made rude comments, and disrupted the trip to the point where the Redditor and her kids couldn’t enjoy any planned activities.

After days of tension, she finally snapped, dropped them both off at a car rental place nearly 800 miles from home, and continued the trip with her sons. Now, her boyfriend and others are calling her selfish and cruel. Invite people to read the original story below.

‘ AITA for dropping him and his daughter off at a rental car place states away from home?’

Long story short: I (27f) started seeing 44yo “Dave” 3 years ago. I have 2 sons, 9 and 6. He has 1 daughter “Ann”, 17. I booked a road trip for me and my sons roughly 3 months ago. A road trip consisting of roughly 26 hours worth of driving with stops in between. This is the first time I’ve ever been financially able to do much of anything with my children so I went all out.

Planned to stop at every place they had ever asked me to go, basically. I was beyond excited to surprise them with this trip. We got home 4 nights ago. A week before leaving my Dave decides he wants to go with me and bring Ann as a “bonding” experience. We do not live together and Ann has never liked me because I’m “boring”.

She has said this to my face. So Dave thinks it will be good. I didnt really want either of them to go but thought what the hell, why not. This could be good for us. Boy was I f**king wrong. From the moment Ann got in to my vehicle she started complaining about absolutely everything. It was too crowded, too loud, we were taking too many stops, the boys were “too annoying” and “need to quiet the f**k down and chill out”.

We get a hotel 9 hours in (PA). Its around 3pm at this point. Dave asks if he can take a drive with Ann because she was getting irritated with the kids. I told him he could if he makes it quick because I needed to go get dinner supplies. 3 hours later he shows back up. Him and Ann went out to eat. So I make a comment saying “you didnt think we wanted to eat too?” And Ann snaps back with “I dont think we asked.”

After comments like this for days I finally snapped. My body are now saying they just want to go home because several times Dave told my kids to be quiet because of his kids comfortability. At this point I havent done anything with my kids because the queen would have a fit if we pulled off anywhere AND Dave at this point basically refused to let me drive despite me arguing.

IN MY CAR. So I snapped, told him to pull the f**k over. When he finally does, I drive to the nearest car rental and tell them to get the f**k out of my car. Dave and Ann both start flipping out. Ann saying she isnt going to get in a car that has “bed bugs”. Dave saying he didnt want to take separate vehicles and didnt have enough money for a rental because the queen spent over $1500 in 4 days.

So I say “I dont believe I f**king asked.” And take off. They were close to 800 miles from home. It took them 4 days to get home due to lack of money and needing to borrow. I’m being told I’m a selfish cunt. AITA?

Here’s the input from the Reddit crowd:

Status-Pattern7539 −  NTA. Time to stop seeing Dave. The should have thought about their behaviour before hijacking your trip and being rude to both you and your boys. I hope the rest of the trip was enjoyable with your boys.

Other_Appeal6415 −  NTA. I hope you broke up with him too.

kelsE17 −  NTA. And don’t you dare get back with Dave. Did you and your boys end up having a good trip after the poison was out?!

maggienetism −  NTA. Dan is 44 years old, he should be perfectly capable of getting himself and his daughter home or he should just not make vacations miserable as a team with her. You dropped them at a car rental and not the middle of nowhere, so whatever.

Abygahil −  NTA. Why it took you 4 days to drop them off it’s beyond me. First sign of ANYONE being n**ty to my boys and they gone! I hope you break up w that dude and her spawn from hell. You owe it to your kids as this situation wont get any better. You really want to keep having that n**ty girl in your life? Eew.

hairynutzndik −  That bed bug thing is hilarious.

[Reddit User] −  NTA, they invited themselves along and tried to commandeer your trip. They say that the best way to tell if a partner is suited for you is to travel together for a week. Lol, certainly a lot better outcome than figuring all this out years later.

Edit- plus now you can have a good time with the people your trip was meant to be fun for

[Reddit User] −  You are definitely NTA here. He invited himself on your family bonding trip at the last minute, and when you were hesitant he pushed until he gave in. Then, his teenage daughter proceeded to ruin the trip, making you and your children miserable.

If it were me, I would have been tempted to leave them stranded on the side of the road instead of being nice enough to take them to a car rental place. I think you need to seriously reconsider your relationship with this man given the utter lake of concern he shows for you or your children on this trip.

iopele −  NTA, you dodged a bullet getting out of that relationship! And any 44 year old who’s looking for a relationship with someone in her 20s should set off red flags from the get-go. Glad you got free of that before you’d sunk any more time into a s**tty relationship!

murphy2345678 −  NTA. They ruined your family trip that you worked so hard to provide to your boys. If this didn’t show you how Dave really feels about your relationship I fear nothing will. It’s time to move on for your sake and your boys. Do you really want to be with someone who treats your kids that way? Or let’s his daughter treat them that way?

Do you think the Redditor’s reaction was justified given how the trip was derailed, or was it an overreaction to leave them states away from home? How would you handle someone taking over your planned vacation and disrespecting your family? Share your thoughts below!